There is more of a backstory to this, I'm not going to pretend and say it's all his fault because it's not. I've just realised what I've lost after yesterday and coming to terms with it is horrible.
He's the most sweet, kind, funny, beautiful person I've ever met and I destroyed it with being stupid and silly things I've done, not meaning to yet it all comes out wrong to me and then I appear to be controlling/possessive/jealous. Those are all words which have been thrown about before and I know I'm not perfect and I do try my very best to keep things under control.
One instance was the day we moved in together, we went and signed for the place and were insanely happy. Then my sister called and asked me to go with her to pick up her wedding rings, me at the time just agreed thinking nothing of it. I thought we were moving our things in over the next couple of weeks. It turns out him and his Dad had done it all that day and I was then told I ruined our moving in day, I was back at the house by 3pm. This is one thing that always gets brought up.
Another is, I had a small housewarming for my friends, there was about eight of us. It would've been a larger one but DP was going out with his friends for a birthday meal. He stayed in a while with us first laughing and messing about and promised me he'd be home to see everyone before they left. He didn't, he text and said he'd gone to the pub. Me after a few drinks and slightly tipsy told him to go and stay at his parents and this resulted in not speaking for days.
The main point of contention is family. He has a big family, I'm quite introverted and my family is very small. I've spent an awful lot of time with his parents and sister and don't mind being around them, not for full days but a few hours here and there are fine. But he thinks I should be there every single weekend with him like a trophy, even with his larger circle of family who I don't know and feel awkward around. They don't try and talk to me, I try and have slight conversation but to be honest I'm not good at it. No other family member brings their girlfriend or boyfriend round every week, his sister's boyfriend is lucky to see any extended family!
To be honest I'm kind of used to this, it's when his eyes glaze over and he says he doesn't know what he wants and that I'm not the person he thought he was going out with. It's happened a lot of times before, just never this seriously has he said it. And I'm fully accepting blame, if I hadn't have gone to get the rings, if I'd have just said enjoy yourself at the pub and went to see his parents each week things would be perfect, I regret not doing all of them.
Right now he's with his sister because she's got a kidney infection and he's off to sort the antibiotics, I asked him if I should pick him up or visit (own car out of order) and no reply. He's took my phone charger though the bloody idiot! Soon replies to a text when I ask where that is.
Sorry for the long post, a lot of background there.