Am I in the wrong or is he when it comes to blow jobs?

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I have tried many times to give him a blow job, but it just never happenes i get so discussed with the thought that i almost throw up. I have no idea why its to the point that i hate even thinking about giving him one. I feel really bad because he would rather have those then sex it seems like. He really gets upset when we come to this topic. our fights get completely out of preportion and i feel like he doesn't even care how i feel. Am I in the wrong or is he

If you find it physically repugnant and he goes into a strop, then he is the one in the wrong. Sex should never involve something that you don't want to do.

Of course, there's always the option of vomiting all over his cock.

Scarlet - that guy you know is a rancid twatwaffle. HTH.

I should have said - excluding past sexual abuse - of course I get that.

I don't think that the OP said she thought her partner's penis was disgusting, just the idea of putting it into her mouth, or possibly having him cum in her mouth. Personally I find the later fairly disgusting because it tastes foul to me. If I think it's gross on the sheets I don't know why I should think 'yummy' about swallowing it!

Some people love doing it and that's great. The OP and I (and I'm sure plenty of other people) don't enjoy it and don't want to do it. It really shouldn't be a big deal. My dislike has nothing to do with bad experiences, I've never been abused in that way and I love and find my dh sexy. Just not his penis in my mouth for more than a couple of minutes. To be completely honest because I think it's quite boring. As it's not his cup of tea it's not an issue, but even if he thought it was fantastic I don't think I should have to claim some great trauma to be able to say sorry, not going to happen.

I agree with that too, nooka

If you don't want to do it, then don't. The end.

Most girls who have given me blow jobs have not done it before and at first they don't like it. It's an acquired taste like whisky. After a while they love it and even tell me it turns them on. I think it's a natural part of sex. I asked one (who was more experienced) how come she likes doing it (because I am repulsed by the idea myself!) -and she asked me if I enjoy giving it to girls (which I really do) - so she just said it's the same for her.
You just got to both be nice and clean and fresh and smell good then it just feels so natural.
But you never bully someone into it - they got to find ways to encourage you to try it.
Hope this helps!

Most girls who have given me blow jobs have not done it before and at first they don't like it. It's an acquired taste like whisky. After a while they love it and even tell me it turns them on.

You sound quite sinister.

But you never bully someone into it - they got to find ways to encourage you to try it.
Of course.
Although too much encouragement can easily be felt as bullying.

Personally, I can enjoy doing it when it's my idea, but I don't feel so keen if someone asks me to do it, even worse if someone tells me to do it.

simon where do you find all these girls who haven't done it before? Are they very young?

creep alert

It tastes like bleach, no woman likes the taste, they prob tolerate it because they are under pressure to

I wish you hadn't said that, GirlWithTheLionHeart - it's just begging for 259 responses telling you how much they love the taste. Or adverts for strawberry condoms.

Even the most well washed willy has a smell that ain't great and makes me boak if I breath through my nose.

So many sweeping statements on both sides here 'no man is happy without bjs' 'no woman likes the taste but tolerate it cause they are under pressure.'

GWTLH Just for clarification I never give blowys or swallow because I feel 'under pressure.' I do it because I want to, my partner enjoys it, it turns me on and I like to give him pleasure. The taste wouldn't be my beverage of choice but it is hardly stomach turning. And if your bloke 'tastes like bleach' you need to get him down the doctors asap.

Even the most well washed willy has a smell that ain't great and makes me boak if I breath through my nose.
I've smelt a few wiffy ones in my time but a truly well washed willy, fresh out of the shower should have no smell at all (and I have an incredibly sensitive nose).

Actually I get the bleach thing. Not as strong obviously. It's a sulphur type smell.

Anyway, surely the bottom line is don't do it if you don't want to, but if there are other issues which may lead to your extreme dislike of this, then they need addressing.

lass don't get me wrong, I love giving a good bj but the taste...no one likes it. I think women taste better, definitely.

They do. Definitely

Yes agree that women taste better but they should really when you think about it. You have to 'taste' a woman throughout the act where as with a man, it's just at the very end of the deed. However an unclean woman tastes much worse than an unclean man.

But still I have to refute no one likes it. I don't LOVE the taste, but a mouthful of come is a very satisfying feeling and I like it cause it's all part of the experience.

Think I can safely say I am in TMI territory here.

This thread is reminding me of the one that had the dolmio comment on. I still can't get that image out of my head now.

Except that the dolmio day one was genuinely funny whereas some of the responses on this one are borderline (or indeed way over the border) creepy. If someone says "On the whole I like sex but I really don't like specific act X" there is one and only one appropriate response and that response is: "fair enough everyone's different."

(The dolmio one was funny because no one's partner was being coerced into it - there were a few women whose partners liked to and they liked being on the receiving end and the rest of us were fairly evenly split between "ewww" and " you lucky lucky cow!!!")

Funny I'd have thought in a relationship there was more give and take. I'm by no means suggesting you should expect to have to do every time, but perhaps a few times just as part of everything else. Is there anything you like he's less keen in? If he still does, albeit very occasionally, just because he knows that you like it id call that 'normal'.

Depends I guess on your relationship as a total and really only you can answer it.

what was the dolmio comment?

It was a man who said "yes".
Or was that the man from Del Monte?

Okay, let's try an analogy. I love opera. My last long term partner didn't. He came once to see if he liked it and didn't. Did I badger him? Did I whine "you would if you loved me"? Did I stomp and say "it's a deal-breaker"? No - because there was plenty of other stuff - gigs, cinema, country walks, reading the Sunday papers over a long leisurely breakfast and talking politics, etc. etc. - we enjoyed mutually.

Why should sex be different? Surely there's a range of things they both like... So why all this emphasis on one lone act out of many? Sex (above all other things) is an area where "no" trumps "yes" every single time, because anything else is sexual abuse, plain and simple.