Hey love. What a shame he didn't allege it last Wednesday when the only act of domestic violence was your LO's rear end joining in with the conversation .
I try to look at these kinds of stunts that the more extreme they are as more desperate and out of control they are feeling.
Which, in its way, is evidence that he isn't finding this divorce as pleasant as you think he is.
Good.
Remember when you were on your knees with the pain of it all? You probably did/or considered doing some stupid things (I know I drank too much, wanted to write some really shitty emails (didn't send 'em though ), fantasized about pissing in all the bin bags containing his belongings...
Which is all pretty extreme, uncontrolled, undignified behaviour. Not the actions of a reasonable person.
He's now on his knees, scrabbling round for anything to get him back on his feet and in control.
If you can see it like that, does that calm you down a bit?
Practice this face:
It is, however, a worrying development when he's reporting false crimes to government agencies. We [society] all rely on those services to do their jobs properly, and not waste time on trivialities (not dismissing YOUR issue as a triviality at all - just in case you read that differently than how I mean it). It is remarkably common though from what I've been learning. However, remind yourself that government agencies are like gynaecologists. You may only be familiar with your own fanjo, they've seen them all... They know a healthy one from an unhealthy one.
Those that deal in divorce (agencies, judges) etc do not every take one person's word for it that X is a fact. They investigate. They look for proof. They ask questions. If they think their time is being wasted, they write a report. If they find their time was not wasted, they write a report. If they think that the other person is being a timewaster, they minimise their time spent dealing with it.
Those reports are invaluable evidence for one party. And not necessarily the party that instigated the report....
However, yes it is more worry and stress. It is designed to put you under immense pressure, to hit back at you, to discombulate you. Remind yourself of the stunts he pulled before your first FDA. Didn't put you off did it?
But yes, after each hearing there's a period of reflection, where you get to come to terms with the outcome. You are satisfied with your outcomes. But if you weren't, would you not consider off-loading your sense of injustice? I would - even if I didn't act on it .
Desperate acts are designed to floor you. But you're not on your knees anymore.