Dancing Well done on failing to give a direct answer in relation to any of my three clear and reasonable questions by the way. (i) was a genuine attempt to seek information on what I could/ should be doing better.
I did give you clear answers, the fact that you didn't like them, doesn't make them unclear. However, in the interests of making you happy, I shall be more explicit (I'm also not posting quickly while at work!)
(i) What practical steps do you think I can take to help overthrow the patriarchal establishment in the UK?
A lot of men ask this question, when men ask me this, they tend to get the stock answer you got. However, some examples of things you could do. Donate to Women's Aid, write to your MP, ministers, Govt Departments, march, wave flags, speak out when you see injustice not only against women stand up and be counted and acknowledge that you don't know what women's experience of the world is. Don't shut up, refuse to be silenced, be prepared to be called all kinds of revolting things, accused of revolting things and have your address posted online along with details of your children's school. Other men and, sadly, some women, will hate you for it.
(ii) Why is this the responsibility of men specifically, rather than all decent people?
A surprising number of men ask this as well. It is the responsibility of men specifically because they, whether you want to swear at me about it or not, own and control the power bases of the world. As long as men, such as yourself, continue to accept the way they run things, they will continue to belief that the way things are run is ok. Men's voices are louder than women's in the world, whether you like it or not, whether you experience it or not, it is, sadly true. It would be great if feminists didn't need men on board to enable change. As an example, it took a man's voice and men getting behind it to enact the Abortion Act in the UK, women's voices weren't enough, if men hadn't supported it in constituencies, MPs would not have voted it in. I hope that makes more sense.
In summary, it IS the responsibility of all decent human beings to speak out against injustice, but men's voices are louder than women's and more difficult to ignore. Therefore, if you (plural) don't speak out, then you are part of the problem, or simply don't see the problem.
(iii) In what are ordinary working men morally responsible for the actions of arseholes in positions of power (politicians, judges, etc)? As I have said before, these people do not represent me.
Everyone is morally responsible for the actions of people in positions of power. They do represent the status quo, people like the status quo. The only way for a person to absolve themselves of the responsibility for those actions is if they actively do something about it. So, when a young athlete orally rapes an underage girl having got her drunk, and a judge says that, because he's a promising athlete he didn't really mean it and gives him the world's most pathetic sentence, you have a choice.... you either do nothing, which suggests that you tacitly agree with the judges comments or you write to your MP, the DPP, the Law Society and anyone else you can think of registering your disgust. Unless you do something, these people do represent you. Unless you tell the people in positions of power that their actions disgust you, then they will see themselves as the good guys.
Why do men need to do this? Because, as I said before, people listen to male voices more than they listen to female ones.
Believe it or not, I'm actually on your fucking side, but you come across as just wanting to insult me because I'm the 'wrong' gender
I neither want to, nor am setting out to insult you, you aren't the wrong gender at all, and I'm glad you're on my fucking side. Ok? 