Well that just takes the biscuit!

[Moralityissue]

I will post what I'm talking about further down the thread (trying to clear my head enough to actually post about it)..

BUT... In order to distract me from the thousand thoughts swirling through my mind one of which is how long do you get for murder again?

Anyone got any funny PLEASE!! stories of how they somehow got the blame for something they in absolutley no way what so ever did?

I will start.. I've just been told I'm being divorced on the grounds of irreconcilable differences... The differences being I objected to finding 'come dogging' on my husbands laptop.

I'm strangely ok. Likely shock. I read it and burst out laughing.. Oh and he wants to know who I'm shagging cos obviously I must be shagging someone as it can't be just that I have self respect

Haven't bothered name changing..

The only thought that went through my mind was 'God loves a trier'!!!!

But OP you do have irreconcilable differences.

You have morals, he doesn't.

What an arse! Sorry op xxx

Just a thought .... but if you're at the wheel of the car and run him over when you were temporarily distracted by a wasp or similar, you can only be charged with Death by Careless Driving rather than premeditated murder. You'd be back out in no time. :)

Ohhh please don't do the 'sorry op' bit.. I can't afford to feel like a victim yet.. That will come later I'm sure but at the moment I have to retain my sense of humor!!

Cogito.. And if I then reversed back over him... That would be the same charge?

Did he actually put that you were unreasonable for objecting to dogging sites on his laptop? His lawyer actually typed that out with a straight face... ?

I waited long enough that we didn't need to hatchet each other's characters for the divorce but some of his better reasons for ending the relationship were.

• The way you dry your hair
• Having no opinions (which is a real for anyone who reads my posts here)
• Being a killjoy over his alcohol and cigarette consumption. (He was an alcohol abuser who used quitting or resuming smoking as a weapon)
• Being a northerner.

Morality - you're hardly to blame if the wasp suddenly changed direction and you had to reverse to get away from it ;)

Sorry I obviously made that confusing lol.

I found the site last night.. Confronted him. Got a response of 'how can you accuse me of this (with screen shots!!!) which then changed to it was a pop up.. (Again screen shots prove he was on BBC sport prior...) ... Which then resulted in him going to work this morning and leaving me a charming note saying he suspects I'm cheating and that's why I felt the need to check his phone, I don't trust him therefore there is no relationship and he will be filing for divorce under the above...

It's like he googled 'excuses.com'

Oh that's almost funny. It's all your fault is it?

I'd be tempted to repeat that to all his friends and relatives.

But fault and blame are red herrings.

Even if he was sane and not dogging and not delusional, you could end the marriage without having to carry Blame.

You are not actually divorcing then ?

A tripwire on the top stair works well. It can be removed before the emergency services arrive.

Don't ask me how I know this.

Blimey! so on top of dogging he's treated you like a Fidiot. Lovely bit of gaslighting there. So, don't bother mentioning the dogging.

Just say, "we met young and we have developed in to two very different types of people". (beady eye)

Bruins

Hope he'd be still conscious to hear her mutter 'that was your fault' as he fell.

Any fucker.. Not today anyway!

So he's just threatening divorce?

he presumes you'll fear divorce above all else, so his threatening you with divorce should put a lid on this discussion?

That's a great plan for him, so now, he gets to do what he likes and blame you if you find out, and ......... divorce has already been put out there by him but he knows you don't want that, so what do you do. Nothing. He thinks.

We don't have irreconcilable differences divorce in the UK. You can divorce him for unreasonable behaviour though I suggest you do

Ah. Just carry on "joking" about killing him then but stay in the situation.

That's a good plan.

I have no idea what the divorce threat is about.. I suspect it's a 'look what you stand to lose'

Problem being I stand to gain a STD if I stay

I doubt very much he thinks I'm going to cave.. I'm really not the second chance kind.. And he has one thing spot on.. Without trust there is no relationship.

Anyfucker,. I appreciate your somewhat of a guru on this forum but please don't presume anything about my situation.

I will deal with this my way and I don't have to justify how I deal with it.

That's right. The only person you need to justify anything to is yourself.

I know that.

One doesn't have to be Anyfucker to see that this guy thinks he's found the magic loop hole. Or are you saying that you're already on the same page as anyfucker and don't need help getting there?

I missed that completely.. What page?

I don't need any help recognising that I've married someone who has absolutely no respect for me (fairly sure that's obvious)

May need some financial advice in the near future though.. I posted because if I'm honest I want it in black and white, I want a reminder of why I'm doing this (or he's doing this .

I couldn't care less what the divorce is labelled as..

I've got my kids and I'm a strong independent female, I don't need him.. I want him.. But not after this.

Now to figure out where the fuck we live or how we sell the house.

Apparently I can take over the mortgage or find someone else to live.. Generous fucker he is.