The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sipping Super Summer Mocktails Whilst Soaking Up Some Sun.

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

I'm what some would call a 'controlled' drinker these day, but I wasn't always and I'm not alone on this wonderful bus, Gerald, when I say that.

We have drinkers who drink each day, those who abstain completely and those who are not sure what it is that they actually want just yet....

We won't judge you for drinking, no matter what your reason is, we've all been in your shoes somewhere along the way!! And we have ALL used every excuse under the sun too!

We have some Babes who ride on the Roof-Rack, (clinging on for dear life ) and then we have an expandable Side-Car, which some Babes use, but the bus, well, the bus, our wonderful Gerald, who takes us here and there, to pick up people in need of an unbiased and much needed ear to listen to. :)

There are lots of ears on this bus, and not a single one will turn you away and not listen!

Two things that we do believe here are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

If you are lurking and reading this thread, there is a reason for it, isn't there?

Stay lurking or come and say hello! We don't always bite.

And for those who'd like a bit of history, HERE'S THE LAST THREAD

And of course, THIS IS WHY WE ARE ALL HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE, A VERY AWE INSPIRING READ

See you soon x

Morning All.

Baby, they're all self contained, so there's no order! but I started with the Birth of Venus, but enjoyed Sacred Hearts more, and I'm just about to start Blood and Beauty.

DH safely home, though that was more late night driving than I would like on a working day, he bought me white port as a holiday gift . Still, feeling the benefits, so I will resist the temptation (today).

Morning everyone, flying visit, will catch up later!

Bosies to all that need, something on Thursday will fair test me, the dread in the run up is testing my mettle a wee bit. Went to bed and pulled blankets over my head last night and bawled like a bairn.

Felt better for it though. Love the Scottish thread, joey! Xx

Evening babes

dear god if I have one more cup of coffee I shall explode. But at least I'm sober. Completely hyper but sober.

Think I'm going to frame my drinking diary. I'm so proud of those turquoise squares.

WW still swings by, but I'm doing well. The urges are so much easier to deal with. And oh my, life is better. I'm even finding my old shitty, funny self, sans wine and it's nice.

Day 52 in the bag. Seems a bit unreal. And 100 days actually feels achievable. Funny how in such a short space of time things change.

I shall never surrender!

Have a fab day. Soc xx

Hi everyone! I'm new, can I join?

I have had a problem with alcohol for over a decade. I drink to drown my sorrows. In the past, when I drank socially it would give me confidence and make me feel fun etc nowadays I turn into a really dark, moody person.

I decided to go teetotal in January and I did well not to fall off the wagon up until April this year. I met my new boyfriend and it has been through him, going on dates etc that I have allowed myself to drink again. However I have discovered that it just doesn't suit me. It makes me feel down and makes my moods darker. I have no energy and hate having hangovers. I've started my old habit of drinking at home when I'm not with him or friends to drown my sorrows. So far it hasn't got too bad where I get totally shitfaced but its a slippery slope and I don't want it get worse.

I had 4 cans of beer last night. That is my last drink, hopefully forever.

Morning babe rockin day 9, sun is shin

Morning babes, after a week alcohol free I drank too much red wine on Saturday night and felt like deep fried dog shite on Sunday - slept the majority of the day away.

Isinde, great to see you back, hope you enjoyed Australia?

Waves to all the other babes.

Sun is shining, feels good, diet starts today, I WILL have dewy skin and swishy hair and be fabulous if it kills me and it might well do!!!!

Love to all xxx

Morning baby, huge congrats on Day 9 and yes you will be fabulous .

Thanks obrigada something has shifted in my mind, I'm 43 with a 3 year old and a 15 year old who'll be off to uni in a few years. I don't want to waste anymore time, miss any more moments, sense anymore disappointment. Most important of all I f

Paddington welcome to the bus. You will find lots of help and support here.
indie!!!

Waves to all, can I come back again.? I drink every day to drown my sorrows, life has been hard lately, end of a 20 year relationship, house broken into and car stolen, absolutely broke and worried about money, have been feeling down and use booze a a crutch. I rarely get hangovers and feel very well but deep down I know I can not keep this up. Each night I will sink a bottle of red and then several Bourbon and cokes, it eases my pain, blurs the edges. I keep promising myself a dry day but come end of the day just can't seem to do it.Sorry for bit of an epic post but need some support, there is no one in RL. Everyone thinks I am doing ok

Welcome blossomflowers and paddington this is a great thread,just showing up and talking about your drinking habits can help to kickstart making a change.

COUGH! sneeze- have got a sodding cold and it feels just like a bloody hangover. Bugger! Also being ill always makes me want to drink. I think I decide that if I feel this bad then I might just as well drown my sorrows.

Big hug deliberately spreads germs to all.
Have got no idea what a bosie is. Would I like one?

paddington and blossom it's nice to have you with us and both of your posts resonate so much with me, probably most of us... Note that we are all mostly "drown our sorrows" drinkers and most non problem drinkers use wine to celebrate, therein lies the difference. You will get sooo much support and understanding here so your so welcome, it's nice to have new babes to share the successes and failures that unite us. inside I missed you girl, so happy to have you back where you belong.

I'm not a good enough typist to do the name checking thing without taking all night but to all my lovely babes, we will all get there in the end and we can enjoy having each other for company along the way xxx

Hello Paddington and blossom I'm new here too and it feels so supportive to have people listen, understand and give good advice about an issue we all know we have but find hard to admit to ourselves and loved ones in RL.

I've had two breakthroughs today...went to the supermarket and completely bypassed WW aisle...also this is the first Tuesday in a few weeks that I've had nothing to drink. I'm heading to bed fairly soon so that I can categorically say Day 2 done.

I woke up this morning with a positive thought about af days - its the only time I take my make-up off at the end of the day, wash my face and put on night cream. I wake up feeling instantly younger the next day!

guggs and indie

A bosie is a biiiiiiig hug. Like a Scottish version o a cwtch.

Tis perfectly hygienic. Unless you are getting one from me at this very second. I went out to feed the birds and I have been shat on.

My granny used to tell me it was lucky. I'm puzzled. I have shit on my clothes. It was lucky for LittleLab. It missed her.

Reminds me of a time when I was about 15, we had a big wooden roundabout at our local park. there were 6 sections and we were all laid down flat, whizzing round. A seagull shat in my friend's face. Like the second worst version of Russian Roulette. I literally laughed until I was sick, one of my favourite childhood memories....

Well done Alison! I get the face thing, it's magical, isn't it, waking up with a fresh, plumped face?

paddington and blossom hello! It's lovely on the bus, I'm new too, even just snatching 5 minutes to catch up with everyone's posts gives me a boost.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((stealthbosie))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Grin] wry I am going to bed giggling at bird shit roulette!

Weirdly I had a long conversation with dd today about bird-poo and its apparent luckiness...il enjoy relaying this quality gem tomorrow!

Hey wry you sound chipper.
You make me laugh

Hello all - can I join too please? I googled "I drink too much" and ended up here, reading your stories, nodding my head, smiling and crying....

My story: I have drunk every night for years - I drink beer, can't stand spirits or wine, but EVERY night. At least 4 drinks, mostly more.

I am shaking typing this, as finally I realise I have issues. Last night was the first night alcohol free in longer than I can remember. Once I got past the hideous witching hours between 4pm and 6pm it was OK, I told my husband I had a headache as I don't yet want to talk to him about this...He is a 'take it or leave it' drinker - a concept I sadly can't understand! .So hopefully I can use you girls as my support as I work it through.

xx

guru I can't talk long my battery is about to die, just want to give you a big hug and tell you everything's gonna be ok, you've found us and we will are all here because we have "issues" and more importantly we NEED each other and newbies are so welcome cos the more stories, feelings, failures and successes we share the more we learn how to succeed, I'm really glad you found us, by the way I typed in the exact same phrase when I was in your shoes and it was a lucky day I found this bus. Im still struggling but I know I'm enveloped in the care of these super, strong, courageous, fabulous babes, your safe here xxxx

Night babes xx

morning all, day 10 here, feeling a bit flat, fallen out with dh, we seem to be clashing constantly at the moment, this may sound childish but is it ok to be Facebook friends with your ex? they were together for a long time but it was a long time ago but I'm not on Facebook so I don't know the etiquette, they are not friends in RL so I'm a bit miffed, am I just being silly???? he says I am.... that aside sobriety brings a clarity in our relationship showing all the flaws, does wine cover these up?? anyone else been in this position???

guggs hope your feeling better my lovely friend, I have hay fever so I'm sneezing too. wry love the bird shit story, laughed for ages, your a tonic, so glad your with us.

blossom and guru sending you hugs and keep posting, we are your "virtual" Bessie mates and we're here for you xxx

sobriety is so good and so scary, I'm facing life naked and bare (sorry for imposed nausea) I'm so glad to have you all, it's keeping me sane (ish)

have a good one!!! xxx

Thank you for your lovely words before baby - it brought a few tears to my eyes - the virtual hug was just what I needed xx

Struggling on day 2 - have put my wee man to bed, had a bath, now wandering around the house aimlessly. It is threatening to snow, and freezing out....in whose weird mind does this weather make me feel like a cold beer?

Have a good one all!

Morning all, stumbled to bed after 2 strong ciders, bottle wine and several bourbons, my XP was texting and not being so nice, just sent me over the edge, I am so bloody miserable these days, drink seems to dull the pain. No excuse most do better. Waves to all babes on the bus, sorry for such a negative post.