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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sipping Super Summer Mocktails Whilst Soaking Up Some Sun.

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Mouseface · 23/06/2014 21:05

Hello, tis me, Mouse

I'm what some would call a 'controlled' drinker these day, but I wasn't always and I'm not alone on this wonderful bus, Gerald, when I say that.

We have drinkers who drink each day, those who abstain completely and those who are not sure what it is that they actually want just yet....

We won't judge you for drinking, no matter what your reason is, we've all been in your shoes somewhere along the way!! And we have ALL used every excuse under the sun too!

We have some Babes who ride on the Roof-Rack, (clinging on for dear life Grin ) and then we have an expandable Side-Car, which some Babes use, but the bus, well, the bus, our wonderful Gerald, who takes us here and there, to pick up people in need of an unbiased and much needed ear to listen to. :)

There are lots of ears on this bus, and not a single one will turn you away and not listen!

Two things that we do believe here are -

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

If you are lurking and reading this thread, there is a reason for it, isn't there?

Stay lurking or come and say hello! We don't always bite.

And for those who'd like a bit of history, HERE'S THE LAST THREAD

And of course, THIS IS WHY WE ARE ALL HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE, A VERY AWE INSPIRING READ

See you soon x

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spanna41 · 25/07/2014 22:39

Evening all NuttersBrave Babes on this wonderful Bus Smile

Beaches yo gal, Scotty beamed me over the Atlantic to your crib, he wasn't listening properly and got the wrong address and country, I really wanted to be 'a helping hand' so it all happened subconsciously Grin Really glad you let DS1 lose with the alan key. Your new pad sounds lovely, yummy adventures ahead to explore, how exciting Grin
I'm on the beach every day, morning and night, we live 3 mins walk away. I love it here. It's Carnival day tomorrow, all new for us so quite looking forward to it Smile

Spiders, Norks, Veg patch and hosing down have had me giggling Grin Thank you for your humour ladies x

Vicar you're doing really well and we know a glass of red goes down so well with steak Smile please keep going x

Isinde M6 is a bugger motorway, I hate it (lots of my family live in Lancashire) my worst motorway is the M1. Your humour is wonderful and I love reading your posts Smile

Ma hope your Norks are on fine form. Mine are the fried egg variety Grin

Hope how you doing honey? x

Fatty I'm liking ODAAT too. There will be more suggestions from these lovely Babes. I have a notebook that I write sayings down that I like, alas can't put my hands on it, typical of me Hmm

Have a good weekend y'all Thanks

spanna41 · 25/07/2014 22:52

Grin Little Grin Grin sounds like you 'rocked it' Babe Smile

MaryMarigold · 25/07/2014 23:05

It's Friday. I didn't have wine!!

That'll be day 6 done then...

spanna41 · 25/07/2014 23:16

to help recover from fainting. Day 6 is awesome, well done Babe. Keep going you can do it Smile

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 26/07/2014 08:02

baby just when I'm feeling low you say something so touching it buoys me up and sets me straight again.

You're my little lighter! Like at a concert! Waving in the darkness all happy like. Grin a little beacon of hope and joy and warmth.

I hope you enjoy your ride quine, your life is in front of you
Just keep looking between the ears! Yours, or your horse's, your ears have a wise, beautiful, kind face between them and between the horse's shows your path ahead. Xx

ma distraction man, eh? Steady wi the top buttons, we don't want to be worrying about sending you a nipple flower or two. We can't have the poor chappie fainting away every time he sees you! Xx

I love the East Neuk. Little went down for an op there, the bonny wee harbours and clean air - lovely. Jealous o yer guddle, I used to love that as a bairn.

looking your heartfelt post about your work the other night fair floored me. I just want to take a magic wand and wave it over you. Then I'd come in under a cunning disguise as a tea lady and give them the cheap biscuits. I'd watch them greetin as I pulled oot the big guns for your piece. They dinna deserve you, look after yourself. Xx

marfisa I'm almost there, I switch off a little bit more every day. I'm sad but he is sooking my soul. It is too hot isn't it? I could cope if it was just during the day, but the nights are sticky too. It's an extra torment when you can't sleep properly anyway. Xx

I've bought Little her own fan, as she has been wodging herself in front of mine at every opportunity Grin when I come down in the morning she is parked in front of it waiting for someone to switch it on. Her paddling pool is in full use too. There was a blackbird in her pool yesterday, her face! Outraged! I was too busy laughing to shoo it away. Poor bird, I bet it felt lovely after it's dook.

Loads o lovely new folk here, I see!

rural, I hope you are feeling okay today lovey, wishing you a very speedy recovery from your op and rest assured I'm on standby with a soothing cold cloot or two to keep you comfortable. Xx

I'm off to have my hair done at 12, it's being stripped so I can go lighter. I shall be a mottled reddy colour for an hour. Not a bonny Celtic red, but hair horror. Patchy, frizzy and not cool. To be transformed with a goldy chocolaty colour. I would love to be a redhead, but I'm dark olive skinned and it would look a bit wrong.

Work has been so hectic I haven't been able to have a break, so a few hours sat down with a pile of magazines sounds blissful. I'm going to wear something pretty and summery for a change, get one of my good handbags out and be glam!

See you later lovelies, xx

dementedma · 26/07/2014 08:36

white love shangalang Friday. I here forth decrrr we have it on the bus. bangs gavel
Marigold bloody well done you!
wry your posts make me laugh so much. So full of warmth and humour and kindness. Can picture little being outraged at the blackbird...the cheek of some birds!

What are nipple flowers? Could ladame grow them in her vegetable patch do you think? Can they be added to a salad?

babyjane1 · 26/07/2014 09:01

Morning my lovelies, this is a big day for me, I'm going to visit my lovely friend at his caravan, I haven't been back since I was removed unconscious by my father and my dear friend found empties stashed all over his beautiful caravan that is his pride and joy. Apparently I was babbling about being better off dead and he was frantic for me and called on my parents who didn't know what I'd drank or taken so I was under lock and key at their home through withdrawal. Is drank so much straight vodka and burnt my stomach and was violently sick for 4 days and lost nearly a stone. I think up til that point, people close to me were aware my depression and drinking were getting out of hand but my mortified and confused parents tried to protect me by patching me up and my dh blamed the depression so that excuse meant I believed i didn't need to take responsibility for my behaviour. I had taken painkillers and booze, not to die just to leave my misery for a while and I had no idea what this had done to others, 3 people dragging a limp body to a car in a wee gossipy caravan site it's an afrontment to my dear friend and my face burns with shame, no one knew whether to take me to A&E and risk opening the flood gates of social work agencies, they took a big risk in protecting me for the last time.

I'd never drank anything like that before, I believe it was my ultimate cry for help and haven't touched a drop since. I was always only a weekend drinker until my 3 year old was born and post natal depression just made the whole world around me change, all smoking mirrors and paranoia and drink seemed to calm the chaos.

ANYWAY despite all of this appalling behaviour my frown has invited me down and I'm facing the place that holds memories of the scariest, darkest day of my life, if it makes sense I have to create a good memory to expunge the last one, like facing my worst phobia, despair.

I'm sorry it's me me me but I've been up since 5 feeling anxious that all the locals will be watching my every move and poor friend will check the toilet and accompany me to the shops through his fear for me, I haven't seen him much since but he always calls me and senses I'm better. I look like a whole different person and while I have many issues to deal with that led me to that point, today I just want to play with daughter and build a sandcastle and bridges with the people who have chosen to trust me again...

I will not NC as my head is mince but I must tell every single one of you show me your strength and courage in every single post and by god you've given me mine.

It's like putting the scariest ghost of all to bed so wish me luck my friends, feel free to swing by Ayreshire and look for the very tall blond in the maxi dress walking the walk of shame with my head up high, tummy in (spanx assisted) and sober.

I love this bus and all who ride on her (steady on saucy mares)

MWAH
Xxx

littlewhitebag · 26/07/2014 09:37

baby What a frank and open post. We will all be behind you and if your friend is a good friend then he will just be glad to see you looking both alive and sober. Have a lovely day.

MWAH right back at ya

SoberSocFish · 26/07/2014 09:45

Go baby. You'll be fine.

Just in case, we'll park the bus in the parking lot and be there in case you need us all. I'll bring an extra stash of green opals for emergencies.

Sending you loads of big hugs. xxx

LaMadame2 · 26/07/2014 09:47

Baby You hold your head up high! I'm sure there is not one of us who doesn't have a inkling how you feel and be sure to know that the warm buffeting feeling you feel today is all of us standing around you x

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 26/07/2014 10:08
MaryMungoAndMidgies · 26/07/2014 10:11

ma just for you.... dainty ain't they Grin

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sipping Super Summer Mocktails Whilst Soaking Up Some Sun.
MaryMungoAndMidgies · 26/07/2014 10:26

Lovin Shangalang Fridays Smile

dementedma · 26/07/2014 10:58

Go baby go!
Nobody puts baby in a corner Grin
Oy, wry are you setting up a wee knocking shop on the back seat of the bus?
Should I invite distracted chap with the mischievous eyes?

Isindethickofit · 26/07/2014 11:06

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spanna41 · 26/07/2014 11:55

Baby have a lovely day, hold your head high with pride and enjoy your friends company today Smile Sandcastles always very therapeutic, as is the love of a good friend and little one xxx

Nipple flowers Grin

babyjane1 · 26/07/2014 12:38

On my way babes and you've made my mascara run and here's me trying to be all lashtastic and glam, I'm much calmer and I feel all your love and support and It feels amazing, thank you my very precious friends, real true friends xxxxxxxx

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 26/07/2014 15:55

They didn't let me see my hair, toner was put on at basin ....

Kept hearing blonde, ginger and patches.

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuucccccccccccccck

Under towel at mo, going to be like fucking Beyoncé but withoot the pert erse cheeks Sad

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 26/07/2014 15:58

They keep offering me wine , I keep saying no. I'm on San pellegrino lemon,

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck. They want me drunk. Ma hair.

Ma haaaaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiiir.

lookingforhope · 26/07/2014 18:25

Hi babes. Awful couple of days - actually ran out of work crying on Friday, and drank a lot last night and rowed with OH. Got to go for family meal now but just want to sleep. Wish me luck. PS baby your last long post was incredible and struck so many chords with me. Will respond to everyone later. Do not know how I can go back to work Monday....

aliasjoey · 26/07/2014 18:35

Oh looking that sounds awful Sad I hope your family can take your mind off it

Fattymcbatty · 26/07/2014 18:36

Looking, so sorry to hear you've had a crappy couple of days. We are all here for you.

Baby, really looking forward to hearing how you got on, how fab will it be to create a new happybmemory at the caravan.

dementedma · 26/07/2014 18:55

looking are you OK? Can you take leave due to stress?
wry what's the hair like? Are you braw or mingin?
Busy day shifting dd2s stuff into new student flat. Gorgeous, everything brand new students flat! Jealous much?
Needless to say, dd2 wasn't here to help. She is currently freeloading her way round Spain....

guggenheim · 26/07/2014 19:33

Evening all,I've had a lovely couple of days but now I'm tired and feel like a right sulky teen. Anyone mind if I open and slam the bus doors? Sooo unfair...STOMP..slam...STOMP...

Righto-looking I'm not at all surprised that you ended up in tears,I did too and I'm not a 'crier' usually. You're in an untenable position,it sounds like it's coming to some kind of conclusion though. Perhaps some changes will be made at work or perhaps you will take that sick leave and see what else is out there for you,or perhaps you will write your notice and keep it in your bag until the time comes to date,sign it and hand the bloody thing in.I know it's not as easy as all that and you can only go when you're ready. Look after yourself in the mean time.

baby what an amazing post. You're making a incredible recovery and it's just wonderful to see how well you are.I'm glad that you don't drink anymore and I hate to think of those things happening to you. In about 1 million years time you might be (sort of) glad that those awful things happened because that was when you began to turn things around. I'm sure that your friend loves you and will be delighted to see you well and sober. Lots and lots of love x

I have one more point to make- Bloody spiders do not have fecking passports,they have terrible character references and cannot sign their own names,therefore they CANNOT cross the channel to Blighty. NER!
And if they sodding well do then I am going to move squash them.

littlewhitebag · 26/07/2014 20:18

Hello lovely babes. It looks like a lot has been going on here today.

looking Sounds like a shit situation at work (((hugs for you))).

baby How did it go today?

wry We NEED a hair updated. What shade of red ginger are you?

As for me, well I am gagging for a cool glass of white wine after a muggy, warm walk on the beach and a vigorous watering of my garden. DH has opened a bottle of red but that is doing nothing for me. I am starting to wonder if i can have one and maybe stop there. I am teetering on the edge. Help me folks!!!!!

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