Is this acceptable for a second date?

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I really wanted to go out for a nice meal or a drink. His suggestion..stay at his in front of the tv and watch the England game. I suggested going out to watch the game in the pub. He said no because hos mates would give him a hard time for missing the match to be with me.

I got upset. He said I was being unreasonable. I guess I didnt want to go straight to his as I didnt want to rush sex.

I told him he should have rearranged the date although tbh I am going away for a bit so there wasnt much choice as he wanted to see me. I told him Iid stay put so he could see the match with friends an hour before due to meet.

He talked me round. Match on. We did have some good sex with match in in background! ut he kept going on about anal Which I refused.

I ended up paying a tenner for a pizza delivery as he was hungry and ran out of cash. I didnt even like the pizza he ordered. I started to get upset as I felt the date had been not romantic enough. He thinks I am way over thinking things but tbh I thinkni deserve better than footie and pizza on a second date.

Im going to stop dating til world cup is over!

Are you for real?!

What do you find endearing about this guy?
A second date shag in front of the tv, crap pizza and that is not romantic enough?
What do you think he will be like a year from now?

No, it isn't acceptable for a second date. Or a third or a 10th. Or EVER.

This is not the man for you. He's selfish and shit, and you're compromising too much.

Get organised. If someone suggests a date that doesn't suit you you don't do it. Right?

I dont find him endearing at all any more tbh. Shame as the first date wss so nice. I dont mind that kind of date a few months in. Quite like hot sofa sex...just maybe not with Rooney's name being chanted in background.

Wind up, surely?!

No...for real. ! I can assure you im not seeing him again!

I did try snd cancel...only found out at last minute what plans were. He talked me round.

I think you keep having shit dates, don't you OP? I recognise the username.

You're not getting desperate, are you? Stop that!

Wow he sounds awful! If he was so bloody desperate to watch the match why didn't he just arrange to see you another day?! Dump and move on....

Sex on the sofa with footie in the background? Really? I would rather look for a Rice Krispie in my Cornflakes!

kalidanger...first date with this guy was lovely tbh so I do get some gooduns. I cant normally tell if a date is going to be good til we start embarking on it you know. So not desperate as would see him again. Not going to.

Big difference between hot sofa sex with someone who respects and cherishes you and someone who is -sorry to be crude - using you as a hole whilst the footie gets a bit dull.
Sounds dire.

You need to work on your self esteem big time, seriously you had sex with this loser. Why?? Can't make you feel very good. He treats you like a dog and then you shag him? The mind boggles. Completely.

Agree with themaster, see this as a learning experience and don't let anyone treat you like that ever again.

If hecwas so interested in the football and "didn't want his friends knowing he missed the game, he should have met with his friends instead.

Well, one of you should have postponed the date once you knew about the clash with the football. However....everything about the guy sounds awful. Don't see him again.

Bloody hell Op, you have set the bar really low haven't you? And who shags in the middle of a football game?
Anyway, second date wasn't something you wanted to do...check.
You were used for sex, and he even tried to do anal as a way of showing how little he thinks of you...check
You paid for the pizza...check.

Get some self respect Op.

Can't believe he was taking about anal sex on a second date! I had hot sofa sex the other night but the whole evening was about us, nothing else.

If he treats you like this now, it sets the precedent for the future doesn't it.

What the hell. I wouldn't go to someone's house on a second date. He should be out having a laugh and a good time with you, not any of the things you describe here.

Tell me this is a reverse. You're the oaf unable to understand why you can't get a third date?

Otherwise, OP, please remember you deserve far more respect and decency than men like this. If he's not moving the stars for you on the second date, it will only go downhill, don't waste your time.

Urgh.

If this is what dating is like then you can stuff it up your bum (no pun intended).

Really? Football, pizza and anal talk on a second date.

How old is this man? Please don't see him
Again. It's taking the f'ing piss.

Urgh urgh urgh

No!!

Please tell me you're not having a third date...

Release this "charmer" back to the sludge pool from whence he came and start again.

Oh my goodness. I hope to god you're winding us up!!!!

He is not a keeper. That I'd not an acceptable second date. Or third. Or fourth. Or fifth.....

No. Not a wind up. I've dumped him. I shagged him because he's hot and I did need a shag but I dumped him as I left so I think we're sorted now.

The laughable thing is, he tried to make out that he was doing something special by turning his mates down to be with me! What a joke!

I also shagged him because I felt that I wasn't going to see him again. Skewed logic but now I've scratched that itch im not going back for more.

Thing is, I haven't been following the footsie. He should have rearranged. His excuse is that I'm away all next week at Glastonbury and he wanted to see me before I go as he really liked me I have no other days free as am booked up.

Mabe I'll find some decent guys at Glastonbury! Or at least have eye candy!

I think you need to ask yourself why you think you aren't worth more. Have a break from dating and work on your self esteem as he is in a long line of awful men you have dated if I remember correctly and you are better than this and worth far more than settling for these scumbags.

Where do you meet all these horrors? It sounds also like you are going for the wrong type of guys.