Is this acceptable for a second date?

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I really wanted to go out for a nice meal or a drink. His suggestion..stay at his in front of the tv and watch the England game. I suggested going out to watch the game in the pub. He said no because hos mates would give him a hard time for missing the match to be with me.

I got upset. He said I was being unreasonable. I guess I didnt want to go straight to his as I didnt want to rush sex.

I told him he should have rearranged the date although tbh I am going away for a bit so there wasnt much choice as he wanted to see me. I told him Iid stay put so he could see the match with friends an hour before due to meet.

He talked me round. Match on. We did have some good sex with match in in background! ut he kept going on about anal Which I refused.

I ended up paying a tenner for a pizza delivery as he was hungry and ran out of cash. I didnt even like the pizza he ordered. I started to get upset as I felt the date had been not romantic enough. He thinks I am way over thinking things but tbh I thinkni deserve better than footie and pizza on a second date.

Im going to stop dating til world cup is over!

LOL.

I think it's totally acceptable if all you wanted was a shag.

Do you not know about masturbation OP, it's less risky, less trouble and it doesn't cost you a tenner for pizza you're not keen on.

My second date with my BF (met him online) was at his house. Probably not sensible.

Weird that he went on and on about anal. Even if that is what he is into it seems early to be mentioning it. I wonder why men are keen on it.

Its just grim really isn't it?

AskBasil - and you don't have to look your best.

gigglygirlygirl - I'm not keen on it at all.

Oh yes, another advantage.

So why did you have sex?

I had a second date last night. He brought me roses, wine and a yummy chocolate gateau. I made him dinner and we chatted and got to know each other. He went home at 12pm. That's what you do on a second date!

< tho I did have sex with a guy in India once with a guy who kept the cricket on whilst we DTD...> :(

I think you might really benefit from reading this book...
It's 'Why men love bitches' and it's not about being bitchy, more respecting yourself and setting good boundaries

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neiljames I work with a group of men and it certainly seems popular almost a deal breaker for some if the woman isn't into it. I shouldn't have over generalised really.

Hang on - SGB writes books? How did I miss this?

I just came back from the pub where all the mums were talking excitedly about the England game. Now I wonder if I was wierd not to accept that the World Cup is not on very often, everyone loves it etc. the thing is, I'd have been more than happy to watch it down the pub with him. There would have been a great atmosphere and I would have a great time so would have been more likely to go back to his for a shag anyway. It's called the art of seduction.

He is very fit so I was thinking about shagging him anyway . But now I've done it have no desire to back. Was good sex but devoid of connection.

I wasn't accusing you of generalising or anything giggly. I realise I'm in a minority but those blokes you work with might be watching too much porn. It wouldn't be any kind of deal breaker for me. in fact, the only times I've done it is when the woman has asked me to.

I know someone who's husband kept hinting/asking about anal.

She bought herself a strap on. Next time he mentioned it she said 'OK, let's do it! Give me a minute to get ready...' and disappeared off to where it was hidden. Came back into the bedroom wearing it. Her husband went very white and never mentioned it ever again.

(true, honestly).

After Kentishgirl's post, I feel I need to clarify my position on this subject.
Me GIVING that to a woman isn't a deal breaker, because I'm not that bothered.
Me RECEIVING it off anyone or anything is a complete non starter.

He should have just cancelled and then it would have been ok. I'm not very good with men.

What He should or shouldn't have done is not important - you're the one in charge of your actions. You didn't want to go along with his suggestions but for some reason you did. If I were you I would use this as an opportunity to discover why.

Sounds like an ideal woman to me! On the second date you can watch the football, have some sofa sex to liven things up and she pays for the pizza! What's not to like?!

She's explained her reasons though. Granted they weren't the ideal circumstances (or pizza toppings for that matter) but she thought he was good looking, she fancied a jump, she got one and now she doesn't want to see him again.

Come off it! If that were the case she would have come on here singing his praises, raving about her wild night!

Her op was full of upset and disappointment and not feeling comfortable with her own boundaries.

Sex devoid of connection is not always a bad thing

I'm fine with a woman like that personally! PoF is normally the best place to find them in my experience.

I've always thought that if a man wants to 'give' anal they should be willing to 'receive' as well. It does more for them on a physical level anyway.

kentishgirl have you told that story before? It sounds familiar

Well you could hardly call it a 'date' could you?

You seem to have a lot of brief relationships that you write about? Fine if thats what suits you but you never seem happy.

whatsthatcomingoverthehill I totally agree with you. I've never done it, but if I did, I'd consider it only fair to have something of equal dimensions inserted in me. That would certainly ensure I wouldn't want it!