Is this acceptable for a second date?

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I really wanted to go out for a nice meal or a drink. His suggestion..stay at his in front of the tv and watch the England game. I suggested going out to watch the game in the pub. He said no because hos mates would give him a hard time for missing the match to be with me.

I got upset. He said I was being unreasonable. I guess I didnt want to go straight to his as I didnt want to rush sex.

I told him he should have rearranged the date although tbh I am going away for a bit so there wasnt much choice as he wanted to see me. I told him Iid stay put so he could see the match with friends an hour before due to meet.

He talked me round. Match on. We did have some good sex with match in in background! ut he kept going on about anal Which I refused.

I ended up paying a tenner for a pizza delivery as he was hungry and ran out of cash. I didnt even like the pizza he ordered. I started to get upset as I felt the date had been not romantic enough. He thinks I am way over thinking things but tbh I thinkni deserve better than footie and pizza on a second date.

Im going to stop dating til world cup is over!

My dh says that man is very successful at getting what he wants.

And I say you have set the bar way too low and what you have done will have very negative consequences for your self esteem.

And from a different perspective you are ruining it for other women - that scumbag is now going to wander about thinking that behaviour is ok and gets him what he wants.

JohnFarleysRuskin - Some things are never ideal. If a woman I liked said she had a night all planned out for us which involved:
Dinner; Butterbeans and broccoli (I hate both)
A film; Some Algerian black and white rubbish that nobody had EVER seen.
Followed by a night of wild, rampant sex, I'd still go.
I'd lie and say the food was lovely, I'd nod throughout the film pretending I knew what it was about and then the rest of the night takes care of itself.

Do you think that's what happened here Neil?

If so, I'd suggest you are in as much denial as the op.

JohnFarleysRuskin - She's had an encounter with a selfish, thoughtless dickhead. There's lot's of them about. She could have told him to piss off. Most of the women I know would have.

Maybe I am being naive, I don't know. I hope it's just that.

Well I did tell him what I thought but I dont think it will sink in as no doyvt he has rhinocerous hide!

Im ok with having shagged and dumped him. I mean its a shame he didnt turn out to be nice but I dint feel bad for having sex. I just feel a bit queasy at the thought of that all day breakfast pizza with a baked bean topping...a major turn off in itself!

All day breakfast pizza? The situation is much worse than I thought!

If you are so desperate for a fuck you risk your personal safety going one to some random guy's house that you met online the second time you meet him, you need some serious help. And a vibrator.

I'm not sure why you started this thread.

Which topping did you want op? And couldn't you just have a 9" one each?

There are some real pearl clutchers here. I didnt see any of the women on the first date sex thread get called desperate...oh wait a minute...their first date sex worked out so that makes them better than me...and less desperate . Obviously.That thread was full of support fpr forst date sex womenn expat but as I had a hard time, it makes me an easy target. This site is full of favouritism and hypocrisy.

Sorry OP but I totally agree with expat. This was only the second time you had met this man. You know nothing about him at all yet you choose to go to his house alone. Do you really need to ask if it's acceptable for a 2nd date? Do you have DC?

You said in your OP that you didn't want to rush sex and yet you had sex with him despite him 'going on about anal'.

I don't know your backstory but this really is grim reading.

There's another thread with women having sex with men watching football? They decide never to see these men again, but choose to buy the men takeaway before they leave?

No one is clutching their pearls at the fact you had sex with him.
You posted the thread saying you wanted romance, didn't want to rush into sex.
Then you went round to his house, had possibly the least romantic encounter I have ever heard of, and had sex with him.

Now you are saying you wanted to have sex with him because he was fit.

Confusing!

It's quite clear that you actually want some romance and not to rush into things and a lovely new man.

This guys was none of those things. Don't go along with things you aren't comfortable with just to please a complete random! Then rewrite history to pretend this is what you signed up for.

There is no shame in wanting romance, dating and to wait to jump into bed with someone. Don't be railroaded into anything less because you want to please a man who us essentially a stranger.

Reading your other posts it's quite obvious you are unhappy.

There is equally nothing wrong with having sex with someone on the first/second/third days whatever. IF YOU WANT TO!

But doesn't seem to be the case here hence people saying please give dating a rest and build your self esteem.

The thing that confused me is that the first date was brilliant. Lovely rapport, lovely snog etc. I did fancy him straight away and wanted to shag him but because I liked him I didnt want to rush things. He said some lovely things etc.
I did have quite a bit of wine at his...I guess it just happened. I guess i just thought "what the hell.." Not all my encounters have been grim you know. The sex was good but it lacked the emotional connection I really seek.
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Just as well I guess.

OK at least you are aware that what you want is an emotional connection as well as a good shag.It's fine to want what you want. It's not fine to run around barking and peeing on the carpet with excitement and doing absolutely anything and everything just to get about a third of what you want.

A casual fuck on the sofa with pizza and beer is fine, even with a relatively new man (or on the afternoon after the night you pulled each other and went home together) but not so fine if you didn't want the sofa, pizza and beer in the first place.What you want matters too, OP.