Do you love your DH/DP?

[IWalkInTheSun]

how much? Could you imagine life without? what is it that makes you love him/her?

To expand: looking back at rel that have ended: can you see weather it was love but didn't work out or was it not really love?

I love my bf.

I did love XH once although I have wondered whether he actually did love me. He probably wonders if I loved him though (actually he probably doesn't as that would involve thinking about someone other than him )

I love DP because he loves me warts and all, as I do him. No pretence, no lies, no falseness, 100% trust. I am at my most relaxed with him. We click, he gets me, I get him and it was like it from the moment we met (having both been shat on in the past and not suffering fools gladly).

XH - I 'believed' it was love because I didn't know any better but I bent to his 'rules', his 'beliefs', his 'ways'. Up until 18 months ago I though that I was in for life, come what may, but luckily for me the marriage ended and I've seen the light.

Even if relationship with DP doesn't last forever I can honestly say that I now know what I do and don't want from a relationship.

I've loved him since I was 15.I'm now 61,he's 64 and says that he still loves me.We've had a lovely life and now settling into retirement,me doing home and family things with 3 DGC's.Him with local politics and tourism guiding.Sounds like traditional man/woman work but it's so resting after 40 years of high powered,high stressed work.Yes,I love him very much.We do lead a charmed life.

Love him. Have never been an adult without him so I sincerely hope I do love him forever as the world wouldn't really make sense without him.

I could cope on my own, of course, but that's not the same thing.

Yes I love my DH. He is my best friend.

I would go on without him (heaven forbid) because the children would need me to be strong but my heart would be broken.

Not this week. He is driving me mad. Everything about him- good and bad.

Usually, I love him to bits. He is the cat's pyjamas and the bee's knees as far as I am concerned but for some reason, this week I could cheerfully kill him. I don't want him to speak to me, touch me, eat, breathe, come anywhere within 3 feet of me, be in my car, in the same bed, or even the same town.

Could be pregnancy hormones

Yes I do, and things would be bleak without him. I would survive though and there would be compensations. He does drive me a bit crazy at times and I have no doubt it's mutual.

I have to believe that I loved XH but it's quite hard to remember how or why.

I do occasionally question whether I've ever loved anybody, including ds.

No, I don't think so.

I do sort of love him but I remember loving him once but I think that's gone. It's sad. I feel a rush of something when he's kind or caring but it's a weak, feeble thing, like lifting something heavy with weak shaky arms.

Nah!

Yes, of course I do. I wouldn't marry / stay with someone I didn't love. I don't want anyone else and for the first time in my shallow little life am not interested in attention from anyone else. So I know.

Yes I do. We are an academic pair, he's physicist and I work in social research. We met during our postgrad days and got together after long, soul searching discussions about philosophy. I love him because we constantly challenge each other's views, and no one else makes me think about the world like he does. He opened so many doors to happiness for me with his enquiring spirit and lust for experiencing life.

This being said, I could live without him. I just don't want to.

Yes, we clicked at first conversation. We've been together 26 years. We 'get' each other, and we are both a bit eccentric. He finds my foibles easy to put up with and most if his don't bother me.

The annoying ones, I understand and occasionally shout at him for. He doesn't listen because he's always right. That's one if the annoying ones. The other is he's ridiculously clever, so often is right. That's even more annoying.

But yes I still love him.

No.
I clearly remember having doubts on our wedding day but didn't listen, unfortunately.

Yes, a very lot. The thought of loosing him makes my tummy lurch in an awful way. I'd have to go on for the DC but it'd be awful.

He and I just fit together. I am my genuine self with him.

We've only ever argued about one thing, and we moved half way around the world to help with that

I would survive without him but I would not want to live without him. He is my mainstay, the core of my life.

We talk about all kinds of things, he is kind and funny, generous, gentle and loving. He respects me and everyone else. He is emotionally astute and very clever (which I love , nothing like a bit of academic challenge and argument).

He still makes me fluttery inside when he kisses me.

I respect him and I know he is going to be an amazing dad.

There is no one in the world I would rather have my tea with, get into bed with and wake up with.

But he is driving me mad this week.

Dripty that's really sad

I worshipped DH when I married him. I now realise that's the problem - I loved him so much and would have done anything for him, and he has over the years used that. So now the love has gone.

Yes I love him. We don't have kids (struggling to...) so he's the centre of my universe. I feel so much calmer when he's nearby me.

He just did the thing were he stops breathing for a few seconds in his sleep and that makes me panic. I can't imagine life without him.

Yes. Even more now that we have DD. He makes everything okay. He gets me. He laughs at my (fantastically funny ) jokes. We fight plenty, but that's because we still care enough to notice and iron things out.

Why do you ask?

completely. we just fit.

I adore my DH he is the other half of me, he completes me and sometimes drives me completely bonkers

Humpty I am asking because ai wonder if I do, and what love means in a marriage. Marriage is hard, with kids even more so, and long etc so I wonder wether it should be this hard or could it be another way. I have no other marriage with kids to compare it with.

I know all the above is an answer in itself...

I don't fell we 'get' eachother, which imo is the source of all our maladies..

I am really glad for those of you who feels this way.

I love DH with every fibre of my being. The thought of being without him isn't something I could contemplate. He lights up my world.

He's my best friend - he's the one person who can make all my anxieties melt away with a hug. I can still feel the same spark between us that was there on the night we met. Even now, I still get a thrill waking up next to him.

I love him, like him, desire him. Loved previous partners but not in the same way. It reminds me of the description in The Shipping News, 'contentment and modest joy'. Everything is better with him than without.

like this

I love him, he is the person I want to grow old with. I could live without him, but I choose not to, because he makes me a better person.

Although I could probably find room in my heart for Liam Neeson as well

Dp, yes I do love him very much. I don't want to imagine a life without him.

Xh I will always love because he gave me dd, but I do not like him, and could quite happily live without him