Do you love your DH/DP?

[IWalkInTheSun]

how much? Could you imagine life without? what is it that makes you love him/her?

To expand: looking back at rel that have ended: can you see weather it was love but didn't work out or was it not really love?

Yes very much every time we go through something we draw apart and then we draw together and it's in the drawing together things get solved/sorted

He's my best friend funny, kind, and we work really well together

Yes.
My XH I thought I loved, and in a way I guess I did love him as a person but not a husband.

DH now is my best friend and I his. We both know we are lucky to be together and have this relationship and both work to make it work. We have our ups and downs but at the end of the day I would be devastated to live a life without him.

I love him very much. He is so supportive and kind and gentle. He gets on my last nerve sometimes and I know its mutual but I think that's just part of living with another person! Like other posters have said, I could live without him but I choose not to.

Both our sets of parents have been together for decades but absolutely hate each others guts. They stayed 'for the children' and are now facing old age in a house full of resentment and anger and bitterness. Its chilling and very sad. I'm very glad and grateful that I'm with someone I actually want to be with

No, I don't think I do. I care about him. On the odd occasion we are without the kids we get on well. But er have different outlooks on life, we argue a lot. We have two young children so maybe that will change. But even friends who have small kids seem to have more love than us.

I'll stay for the kids, because I don't want to share Christmases etc.

Yes, completely.

I know he's the one and after being away from him this week I know that I love him.

I adore my DP. I have never been in love until I met him. I have been married but I never loved my ex. DP and I were apart for two months. I had a breakdown. He was very close to it too. It gave us both a wake up call. We are now engaged

Oh yes

He's lovely. Drives me mad sometimes, but he's funny and a wonderful father and good in the sack.

He's just...him! I don't have a lot of "reasons" for loving him, I just do. He is just dear to me. I could live without him; if something happened I'd have to go on for the children, but I can't imagine I'd ever be the same.

Yes, I do love him very deeply. I feel he's the only one who truly knows me and loves me despite my bad points! I love him more now than ever, I went through a hard time after DS2 and he was unfalteringly supportive and respectful. We just get on well and make each other laugh, there's nobody else I'd rather spend time with.

Iblove my dh. Been marries 5years, 2 dc and 1 on the way. Dont want to think of life without him. Hes been extra loving lately (due date coming up and hes a little worried and that's how he shows it) hes my rock [love]

Yes. Mine is amazing. I feel very loved and happy.
We also share the same sense of humour and laugh a lot.
We can spend hours just chatting and laughing.
I force myself to do stuff with my friends as I'd much rather do things with him.

Yes I suppose I do. (That could change though if he ever moved in with me. I only see him a few times a week.) However for me love was never really part of the plan. He was supposed to be a O.N.S but somehow 13 months later, we're still together. Of course we have our arguments but what couple don't. I can't stand all that bull shit. "Oh me and D.P have never had an argument, well then you must have a very strange relationship. x

I always found touching even as a romantic teenager.

I usually do, but last night he came home at 2am without his keys, banged on the door so I had to wake up to let him in, he promptly went straight to sleep but I couldn't so have been awake since then. Love is being sorely tested today.....

" "Oh me and D.P have never had an argument, well then you must have a very strange relationship."

yy to this

I know a few couples like that. In every single case the same thing is going on. Basically one partner is super passive and accommodating. The other is a control freak or very domineering.

I love DP a lot, even after pushing 20 years. However the process of living with someone is something very different. I can see that if DP and I had separate homes and no kids we probably wouldn't argue. We are both the kind of people who are very respectful that others might hold different ideas and we both tend to find difference interesting. Also, we're both scientists and there's always a good noncontroversial conversation to be had there. Neither of us would wind another person up for the enjoyment of it.

But chuck kids and daily living and shit we didn't put the binbags out into the mix and its very different and so should it be, IMO.

Depends what day it is, though I suspect that is more to do with menopause hormones than him :)

There are times when he drives me nuts.

Having sat through two heart attacks in a&e I can confirm that I don't ever want to be without him.

I guess that's love in my books.

Fwiw- I didn't get caught up in the wedding stuff
I got caught up in the relationship
We had a nice lifestyle, drinks, dinners, holidays
He was good to me, paid me lots of attention. I was flattered and got carried away. No-one had ever really loved me before. And I had high hopes that this would work. I was also getting on a bit!

What I failed to realise is that everything was good while it was on his terms, or going his way.

I should have realised when I wasn't overjoyed when he proposed. I just told myself, well we knew it was going to happen. He asked me if I was going to phone anyone, let them know, and I thought , oh, ok! Wasn't desperate to share my excitement. I wasn't excited, but I just put that down to being a level headed person, I'm not very romantic.

Some of these are lovely btw, really what it should be like.
Bowlersarm- yours was lovely

Did I ever love my xH? Hmmm. Not sure. Which probably means I didn't I guess. I suppose I loved him like a brother

My xDP. Well. What to say. I doubt I will ever love anyone again like I loved (love?) him. Truly madly deeply. Leaving him almost broke me in half. I doubt I will eber recover from it

My current BF is so different to both. It's not grand passion. But it is deep and very special. I feel totally comfortable with him. I know he loves me and I trust him (which I never thought I would again) and as well as loving him, I really really like him! I am a better person with him. He makes me laugh my head off every day and he's not haf bad in bed So yes, I do love him - with a wiser heart than before

Yes, I love him.

We have had a tough, testing three years, and he has made some huge sacrifices for me, and there have been some times that have really wound the string very, very taut, so to speak.

But at the bottom of it all, is a man I love. We have the best time together. No matter what's going on, the minute we get a chance to just 'be', to go back to being that couple that met and fell in love ... it's great again. Instantly. We talk into the small hours, never run out of thing to say. Crack each other up, stimulate each other, challenge each other, make each other think.

When we put the mundane, day-to-day life of work, and child-rearing, and domesticity to one side, we're best friends, and we have each others back.

He's away with work right now. Not back 'til Monday. I miss him.

He is a Good Man, and I love him a great deal.

Yes, immensely. It's our 10th wedding anniversary this month and I can honestly say my feelings for him are the polar opposite to what they were for my ex when we reached our 10th. As long as I'm not in one of those moods when I even find myself annoying, I feel a little pang of affection every time I look at him.

ElBombero - do not marry this man. Marrying someone you cannot stand for any reason whatsoever is just foolish. Life could not possibly be any worse without him and would probably be a lot better.

I loved my first bf but we were very young. Loved my second bf but we argued all the time! Chalk and cheese.

I love my DH so much. We get on well, listen to each other's opinions and parent together well. I honestly can't think of anything more / different I would want in a partner. We've been together for 17 years.

We did go through a tough time when the DC were very young (we had 3 under 4) - it's so hard to find time to put into your relationship at that stage.

Yes, totally.

We are one of those weird couples that never argue as well.

If we are cross or disagree we just talk to each other, we never ever swear at each other or are disrespectful either.

I still look at him after all of these years and get butterflies in my tummy. I love his funny lisp, the way he smells, his sense of humour, how kind and gentle and generous he is. I love how patient he is and what a fantastic father he is not only to his biological children but to DD from my first marriage too who he treats just as though she is his own (I had a wicked stepmonster so that is super important to me). He is a bloody good man.

We always kiss hello and goodbye, always hold hands when they are not being held by the kids and are still stupidly in love. We love nothing more than watching Only Connect and University Challenge with a cup of tea and a digestive. Totally compatible in the sense of being just about as boring as each other.

This thread is exactly why I tend to be first in line to say LTB.

Because, if you leave the bastard, you might just end end up with one of these men. :)

I love him very much. 13 years together and life without him would be very strange indeed. He has stood by me through some awful shit, too. Very grateful for his love.