He's not going to text is he?

[Unrequitedrequited]

(Wo)manned up and told lovely guy I liked him more than is should so I didn't want to see him anymore. He has been my friend for a long time - mutual friend of ex dh (we separated 4 years ago).

If spent months pining for him before and i was trying to stop myself developing feelings for him again.

He told me he didn't know if he wanted me to stop having feelings for him and said he wanted to see me again to 'see how things went'. Then he told me he'd always had feelings for me and that he'd had to watch me and ex dh get together and split up when I would have been much better suited to him.

He asked me If I wanted to watch a film with him and I said yes. But I haven't Hearn anything from him since. It's been two days.

It's totally ridiculous but I have no appetite at all and I feel physically sick.
Now I'm miserable and waiting to hear from him but wishing he had just left things in a way . If he wasn't sure wouldn't it have been the easy way out for him?

Sorry this is so long, trying to condense it all and not leave out any thing relevant is tricky.

Shit. Wwyd?

Why do you 'like him more than you should' ? Do one of you have a partner?

Hi roller cola, no neither of us hAs parter it's because we are supposed to be friends but mainly because he is friends with my ex h.

But he might be feeling as nervous as you! I mean remember, you'd just recently told him that you didn't want to see him anymore (nevermind the reason), so he could be feeling a little fragile from that, trying to decide whether you really meant what you said and how much he could invest in this emotionally....
Two days isn't THAT long. And he told you he had feelings for you and made a pretty bold mood, so why would he have just forgotten about you now?

He gave you the clear impression that he was involved and he should have followed through on that, that's just decent.

I would probably leave it a bit and then message him. Just "are you free on Tuesday? we could hang out" perhaps?

*a partner

Thanks for your reply! I'm scared he has had time to rethink and changed his mind so he's giving me the space I wanted! Do you think I'm totally overthinking things?

Ok, so you're both single but you felt you were too attracted to him to stay just friends, so you plucked up the courage to tell him you didn't want to see him any more so that your feelings didn't develop further?

That was really an admission to him that you liked him a lot, but were assuming that he didn't like you a lot back. Were you really hoping that he'd say he did like you? And he has, so why don't you make the plunge and see how it goes?

What rev said.

I reckon he'll just be a bit confused. You've told him you have feelings for him, but you thought it'd be best to stop seeing him. But then you agreed to watch a film with him after all. He's probably chuffed to bits and just trying to decide what to do next in order to not frighten you off.

I'd text him back, 'when are we watching this film then?'

You're totally over thinking it. You've gotta put your heart out there to get some love back! OK, so it might not work out but you've got to give it a shot right? 2 days...nothing in bloke terms. Just ring him tomorrow and ask him on a date.

Thanks all for replying! I feel so much better. Been driving myself crazy staring at the phone waiting for a message! It is a scary feeling putting yourself out there and do be honest I thought he'd just say "oh,ok then" and back away so I'm totally in a spin. Had no idea he had had feelings for me too!

He might have just been busy over the weekend. Text him to ask him when.

I would text a light hearted text, how are you? etc and see if he replies.

Then you will have you answer (hopefully the one you want )

Don't text him or call him. Just wait. So many threads have been on here lately with so many asking the same question. Then they text and it all goes to pot. You have put yourself out there now leave it. If he is seriously interested then he will be in touch within the week.

Do you think I might come across as scarily nerdy if I text him rather than waiting for him to make the first move?

Thanks so much for your replies !

Nope. It's not like you have already texted him.

However, I personally wouldn't mention meeting up on the first text you send (see if he mentions it first) but maybe that's just me.

Yes. You will come across as a bit desperate. He only said about the film 2 days ago. Leave it for a week or you will probably find that he will back off, not because he wasn't interested but because he felt scared off.

Its only been 2 days. If you are feeling sick and have no appetite then you are investing way too much in this potential relationship that hasn't even begun. You need to relax and just get on with your life and be busy.

How often do you usually see him?

You spent months pining for him before. Why are you pining for him when you have not started dating yet or anything. He has said he would like to see how things go. He has mentioned seeing a film. I understand you wanting to push for it to happen but if you do that you may push him away and definitely come across as needy. Let him make the first date.

As it has only been two days, if you leave it and he gets in touch you will know that he really really wants to see you But if you contact him and he might feel cornered and will agree to seeing you but not be sure. He might even cancel after initially agreeing. If you contacts you then you know exactly where you stand. Just saying.

Did you just reply yes? I'd probably have immediately asked when and make rough plans.
Otherwise it just looks like each was just being polite but not really keen on actually going.
You are presumably Brits, don't you know the unspoken language? As in here

I agree with Bindi. Just leave it. Keep busy. See what he does.