He's not going to text is he?

[Unrequitedrequited]

(Wo)manned up and told lovely guy I liked him more than is should so I didn't want to see him anymore. He has been my friend for a long time - mutual friend of ex dh (we separated 4 years ago).

If spent months pining for him before and i was trying to stop myself developing feelings for him again.

He told me he didn't know if he wanted me to stop having feelings for him and said he wanted to see me again to 'see how things went'. Then he told me he'd always had feelings for me and that he'd had to watch me and ex dh get together and split up when I would have been much better suited to him.

He asked me If I wanted to watch a film with him and I said yes. But I haven't Hearn anything from him since. It's been two days.

It's totally ridiculous but I have no appetite at all and I feel physically sick.
Now I'm miserable and waiting to hear from him but wishing he had just left things in a way . If he wasn't sure wouldn't it have been the easy way out for him?

Sorry this is so long, trying to condense it all and not leave out any thing relevant is tricky.

Shit. Wwyd?

I'd leave it tbh.

He said he always had feelings for you.

So why didn't he act on them?

Did you not meet until you were already with your ex?

Whether you text him again or not, this could just go on another few days and you'll be in the same position!! You are over thinking this - just relax and wait for him to get in touch, he will IF HE WANTS TO. He's unlikely to meet someone else and get married in the next week or so, so as the others said just try to keep busy.
If it's really driving you mad, (cause it sounds like it is!!) you could just bite the bullet and give him a quick call, then you'll know for sure. He knows whether he likes you or not, men don't over-think things like we tend to, so what I'm saying is it doesn't really matter what you do, if he likes you he will call!

I probably wouldn't text - you've already made the first move by telling him how you felt. It's his turn now...

Thanks everyone, sounds like keeping busy and waiting is the best plan. Mh house has NEVER been so tidy! I was already with someone when we met so I guess that's why he never said anything then but we've been separated for 4 years so he had plants of time to say something if he really liked me!! Been reading 'he's just not that into you' blogs on t'interweb which is probably why I'm freaking myself out!

I agree that I'm over investing in it. In my head it's like something out of a romantic novel and I couldn't understand why he wouldn't want to meet up immediately! Sap

Argh just text him! Yes you told him you like him, but then you said something about backing off. He admitted to liking you so now someone has to do something and it probably won't be him cos you talked about backing off! So just text and ask him to watch a film with you. It's not like you're proposing by texting.

Good point! Maybe he thinks I've changed my mind and have backed off!? The whole thing is so teenager -y! But exciting...

I would text him. Just once though.

Agh! Still no text! Will leave it another day and then give up I think.

Plants and flowers - I just can't bring myself to text him...feel like I'm making a fool of myself and he must have had a change of heart.

Imagine if he's saying the same thing...!

You can either sit it out and wait for him to (hopefully) make contact, or grab the bull by the horns and text him!

Then you'll know one way or the other!

OK - so if you text him - what's the worst that can happen? Presumably just that you might lose face a little bit. If he's worth it, then he won't be playing games and getting all judgey because you're texting him after a couple of days - (maybe if you were texting him several times a day it would be different...!)

On the other hand - if you don't text him - what's the worst that could happen? Well, maybe he might think you are not interested and bottle out of contacting you...

What have you got to lose - really? Just rip the plaster off I say! It doesn't have to be heavy - just a light-hearted text - and then at least you will know where you stand.

Good luck!

If you text something like "Hi, wondered how you are! Do you still want to see that film? xx"

Then you give him an "out" if he has changed his mind.

This is infuriating yet hilarious!! I can totally sympathise because have been here many times OP, the more people you ask, the more opinions vary! At least your house is gleaming. Maybe go for a manicure or a bikini wax - keeps you out of trouble, and if he does ever call back at least you'll be "camera ready". Ha! Xx

Text him. All this bollocks about waiting around for the man to text is infuriating.

You like him, he likes you MAKE YOUR MOVE!

Can I just point out here that I have recently, finally got together with the love of my life. It has taken us 20 years. 20 sodding years! A lot of that was due to nerves on both parts and not communicating. Seriously - life is too short!!

I personally think that the regret of "what if" is far tougher to carry than the regret of making a tiny bit of a tit of yourself...

And as Actifizz says - why is the onus on him to do the texting? Are we not striving towards a more equal society?

Ok, remember then what you did as a teenager. Did you focus on the guy and not let anything else influenced you and scare you to death ? Do that.

Then find something to do to occupy your mind I guess. Let's see if he can do that bit of "be the hero and overcome his nervousness" to really take the next move. Hehe. Sit tight....

I have to say, I probably have gone nuts by now, and randomly messaged like gazillion people on OLD. >.

Hi! Thanks for all your messages. I tried to build myself up bug I just can't do it!! Still no text from him so that gives me a message anywAy I guess. Alwaysbuybigpants- your message really made me laugh!! Too true though...there's nothing else to clean so... :-)

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Life is not a dress rehearsal lol you have nothing to lose by texting him. I wouldn't be able to stop myself and I have been in your situation many times!

The butterflies and constant phone checking? Writing texts and not sending them? TEXT HIM!

Just imagine if he's going through the same as you and not sure whether to text or not as you said about backing off?

Text him, life is too short to waste on 'what ifs' and 'well maybes'.

Come on unrequited! What have you got to lose? A little bit of dignity Vs a chance with someone you really fancy! Plus I always think that it's the best and bravest who go for it and will always been admired even if the answer is no. Ask him to go for a walk! (that's not like take a walk :-)

I did it, I did it! I texted him, just something casual, he replied and then I asked if he still fancied seeing a film. He said ye. I asked when he was free...and he hasn't replied!!!!!!!

Seriously though...what!?

Ha ha, he's checking his diary!!