New dad at 50. Thoughts please.

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Sorry, I wasn't quite sure where to put this. I've gone for here because this is a big deal in our relationship at the moment (I am broody as hell) and because it's the family dynamics/relationships angle I'm interested in.

We have 2 pre-schoolers. I really want a third. DP would have been happy to have a third, and even a fourth and fifth, but he feels he is too old. It is the possibly not being around to see them into adulthood he is concerned with, rather than the stresses and strains of small children.

I can see what he is saying, but we already have small children. I am struggling with the idea that having one more will make any difference to his argument. If we were arguing discussing having children at all I could understand more.

What do you think? I am 37 btw and DP is 52.

I can take the truth I think but I am broody to the point of tears over this so please be gentle :)

That's what I thought. I agree with you it doesn't add up.

Does it matter that much what his reasons are?
He doesn't want another child.
Are you hoping you'll change his mind?

He wanted children. He fathered two. He does not want Three children. Makes perfect sense to be too old for three children, but not two.

He's 52 now. He doesn't want to do the newborn stage again. He doesn't want three kids.

I'm not going to try and change his mind lweji In the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter why he doesn't want another - I'm just struggling with it because it doesn't make sense to me. I'm finding it frustrating, but what can I do?