Is it normal to be attracted to someone 40 years older than you?

[ines123]

Just wondering if you think it is possible or am I just weird?

[ines123]

LOL Munchmallow!

[ines123]

What about this?

[Dontlaugh]

Although upon reflection Leonard Cohen is still v v charismatic.
Still very unsure though. Too big an age gap.

[Lovelydiscusfish]

Age is just a number! If you are both attracted to each other, and realistic about what the future might hold( if you are even thinking about long term, which it sounds like you aren't) then why the hell not?

[FolkGirl]

Leonard Cohen is 40 years older than me. I would. Just to say I had...

I have a male friend in his 70s. He's very attractive. I wouldn't. He's married. But I also have another male friend in his 70s and no. Just no.

So it definitely depends on the man.

Although it would be one to strike off the bucket list (as it were ) rather than a real relationship, surely?!

[OuterFromOutersville]

I quite fancy Kevin Whately, but he's only 63 apparently. Must try harder.

[LackaDAISYcal]

Or this

No, it's not normal...though I agree it does depend. I know someone in their late 60s who un-nerves me with his attractiveness, but I'm mid 40's so not such a big gap.

[FolkGirl]

Outer Fuck me! 79 year old men are NOT attractive

[nochips01]

I did the x year old man thing and got images of Jimmy Saville and a woman eating a flesh coloured octopus tentacle.

shudder.

[OuterFromOutersville]

FolkGirl, I had to read your post twice to be sure that you weren't coming onto me.

Now that would be something to cross of the bucket list.

[Bogeyface]

I am 40 so unless I was doing an Anna Nicole, which I could never do no matter how much money was involved, then no, not normal in my book!

That said, some people are charming whatever their age, so I can see that you can fall under his spell but not want to be his partner.

[Munchmallow]

Is that a euphemism JohnFarley?

[Ludways]

Most of them are dead by 87, so definitely a no from me!! Lol

[BelleOfTheBoys]

When I was 19, I briefly dated a guy who was 56... So pretty close.

It was great. He had a brilliant car, his kids were older than me, he was old fashioned and paid for everything. He was quite young looking, for his age, and he dressed really well. He was unbelievable in bed

Downsides: everyone, all the time, everywhere we went thought he was my dad. I never introduced him to my friends, only a couple of my work friends knew I was seeing him because I met him there and he picked me up a few times. The piss taking was merciless but the big bunch of flowers delivered to my work mid shift was great

It didn't have a future but it was fun while it lasted. Cor I haven't thought about him for a while.

I've just realised he's 70 now

[Bogeyface]

THis has reminded me of something I saw in the local paper earlier this week

Cant remember the exact words but it was something along the lines of "Young 63 yr old male WLTM female 18-35 for LTR" Alright, good luck with that mate.

[singaporefling]

Yy to Leonard Cohen/Terence Stamp... And this over sixty chap...

[BuggersMuddle]

When I was 20 I would have done Harrison Ford - now not so much,

Leonard Cohen...possibly, but a smoker (don't like the smell) and awfully angst.

I could still be convinced my Mark Harmon, as long as he's willing to play the part of Leroy Jethro Gibbs, but sadly he is not 40 years older than me, because despite my brain's protestations I am not 18.

[AdeptusMechanicus]

I think it depends if you find them attractive or not.

[MrsCakesPremonition]

Morgan Freeman?
Al Pacino?

I am currently nursing a terribly inappropriate crush on a (nearly) 60yo Billy Bob Thornton. Only 15 years my senior though.

Mark Harmon is lovely too.

[Lighthousekeeping]

Is it Clinton Eastwood? Then yes, it's fine. Or even Leonard Cohen. With Viagra.

[GarlicMayonnaise]

You don't say, Adeptus?

Reasonably normal, I guess ... well, in proportion to the number of people who are in good order at that age, anyway. But it'd be horribly unwise to have a relationship with them! I remember a school friend's mum, who'd married her 40 years older boss. She was a very gorgeous, lively, 40-year-old with an immobile, inactive, grumpily dribbling husband.

[aurynne]

I think in the world of love and attraction, there is no "normal". Whatever works for you, that's YOUR normal :)

[flatbellyfella]

I don't think it works the other way around, As I don't think a 107 year old woman,(if there was one around) would get my pulse racing. But a 27 year old would.

[ines123]

Seems crazy, but I think there is something...saw him "by chance" this morning...that appears to be happening a lot lately!

I'd love to show you a picture as he is still very handsome, but couldn't really...

What attracts a MUCH older man to a younger woman - am I very naive?

[flatbellyfella]

Older men are more calm in their outlook on life, they appreciate female input, don't have hang ups about their looks, what you see is what you get. Unlike older women who spend a small fortune trying to stay young looking, probably a little bit of a father figure, where you feel safe. They are probably quite thoughtful in the bedroom, generous with their time & money.