Thinking of going back. What do you think?

[neiljames77]

I separated from my wife a few months ago after ages of not speaking to each other and sleeping apart. We both agreed that we're better off apart, so I moved into my Mums until I could sort out a flat for myself. She made one or two indiscretions in our marriage but I stayed for the kids sake. We are completely different people and have virtually nothing in common.
Now though, she's upset and says she took me for granted and wants me back. Can somebody just change their personality or do you think it would be a waste of time?

I think you can tell from their profile. I searched out my competition and I was shocked to see how aggressive some of the women's profiles were.

Yeah, they weren't very subtle.

Karaoke night exists for the purpose of loud, sweary, showing off

I wouldn't take that as an augur for the rest of your life! Well, not unless you run karaoke nights for a living

All the other pubs were dead though, Garlic.

Of course they were! All the lively people were at the karaoke

It's a shame really because one of them would have looked nice naturally. Instead though, she was caked in make up, had an orangey tan and wore a dress that only just covered her arse.

Only just read this thread Neiljames...

Have read 2 pages...I'm hoping you've come to the realisation that you shouldn't go back. If you haven't yet...I'll add to the chorus...nooooo!

I don't think people really change, they might slightly adapt their behaviour but it's not real. I think at some point the relationship is just dead and it's time to move on.

Talking from experience here and reminding myself as much as you here....

Hope you're ok

Ok...caught up properly now.

Glad you've reached a decision! Good luck. A brand new life awaits you :)

Thanks.

I get good advice on here. (better than my mates anyway who keep telling me to "nail everything in sight")

Hi neil,
No - I wouldn't take her back. She sounds crap and like she's been taking the piss for years. Go ahead with leaving and set yourself up. There's no reason you'll need to pay her mortgage once the kids move out.

If she really wants you back she'll spend years reforming and trying to win you back. I wouldn't take her back under these circs. If she really does change, and invites you for dinner, and shows you a lovely time, and makes you trust her again, then maybe.

"nail everything in sight" How original

After Easter and the last episode of Game of Thrones "nail everything in sight" sounds worrying.

They're the sort that try it on with every woman they see and keep getting told to piss off. If they ask 100 women out and 1 says yes, they consider it success.
If it was me, after the 2nd rejection, I'd go home a broken man!!

Yeah, well, there's nothing like objectifying women to make sure you get laid by the saddest / most desperate / drunkest of the bunch ... FYI, or rather your friends', it works the other way round too! (I'd grown out of that by the time I left uni, mind.)