Wife doesn't like me "going south"

[davrostheholy]

Is this common?
My wife and I have been together 15 years and have 2 children 7 and 10.
Previous partners have all loved me giving them oral sex, and I quite liked doing it for the obvious pleasure it gave them.
The wife (then girlfriend) tolerated it at first (so it transpires) then told me it did nothing for her and never has. We haven't even tried it for years now. She swears that it has never done anything at all for her even with previous partners - and she has had "a few" so she has no hangups about sex in general.
Don't get me wrong, its not a big problem, just wanted women's viewpoints on it as it seems to be a bit unusual and I have a vague feeling she (we) may be missing out!

I have to say I love it. I'm one of the millions of women that can't orgasm through penetration and just the thought of dh heading in that direction gets me going.

It doesn't do much for me either, most of the time, regardless of who is doing it.

Only one partner I've had could make me orgasm through oral sex. He was thick as two short planks but just seemed to have a knack with sex generally. It wasn't enough for me to stay with him though.

I don't mind a little bit of it if my partner likes it but I get bored. It's too gentle I think and I go off the boil, so to speak.

That's exactly it Billy Its too featherlight a touch.

Well I didn't used to like it until I met someone who knew how to do it properly ;)

Exactly Beth. I think my DP could change a few minds about it (but he isn't going to get the chance!)

Not for me. DH is shit at it and I cringe when he does it because I'd rather be doing something else. Harsh but I can say it on mumsnet.

I also don't like giving him oral because he doesn't like BJs (he's the shy type) and that is fine by me.

I'm a fan of receiving, but rather annoyingly not so keen on giving. Fortunately, my DH loves giving ... a lot ... and he's very very good at it. I only orgasm with oral or fingers.

PIV?! Take it or leave it. I'm not a chuffing contortionist, hate doggy style, missionary doesn't work because actually male and female bits - or DH's and mine, anyway - don't match up to allow it.

All hail the tongues and fingers!!!!

I've never been bothered about it, makes me feel too vulnerable.

However, if she doesn't want it, it doesn't really matter what anyone else likes.

Absolutely, it's whatever turns you on (or off).

DH went south once. He was summoned to London for 9 days during the riots. Neither of us was thrilled tbh.

Oh you want tales of cunnilingus? My mistake.

I was also under the misapprehension that all women loved it.
When I went out with a woman who told me that it did nothing for her after I'd put in a load of effort, I was deeply wounded.
My ego recovered though when I found out it's not uncommon.

I don't like it, never have.

Taxa you made me laugh with that

clearly I meant Raxa

Love it. Guaranteed to get a...result!

I love giving, love it. Don't like receiving it a great deal.

I have had to tell him not to reach up and touch my boobs at the same time as he looks like a scuba diver.

Gotta be honest, it doesn't do anything for me, never had, regardless of the prowess of the perpetrator.

I used to moan and groan and writhe around a bit and make out I was enjoying it, but truth be told I was doing my shopping list in my head.

I wonder how many blokes would say they didn't like it done to them?
I mean as a percentage, to the nearest round figure.

I couldn't be without it. But I have only enjoyed it with DH. Partly because he's much better at it than any previous partners have been, and partly because I completely trust him and feel at ease with him. It's very intimate, and it has made me feel vulnerable in the past with men I didn't have a really strong emotional bond with, regardless of how strong the sexual chemistry was.

I hate it. Can't imagine why anyone would want to kiss down there. I'm sure it would be very arousing if I didn't find the whole idea so Yuck. Have never given DH a blow job and in 25 years he's never asked.

I quite like giving it. And I enjoy receiving it. I just don't come from it.

Never never fake it You are only short changing yourself.

I LOVE the idea of pleasuring my partner, it worries me to think why they'd not want me to

but if it doesn't give them pleasure...

If you don't like it, the person doing it isn't so good
How on earth can you not like it?
You are really missing out.

Fontella

Doing your shopping list I love you, that's so funny.
I had a friend who lay back and thought of England and found that the ceiling needed painting