Please help me leave my violent partner

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I have posted before but it's like I keep finding reasons why I can't go but I can't take it anymore. I worry about my cats, I don't want to cause them distress. I need to find somewhere I can take them while I go to a refuge. I feel sick with guilt at the though of leaving them even just for a few months.

I feel awful for my lovely landlord as I will have to leave most of my possessions here and my partner will most likely smash the house up when he finds I've gone... how do I do this???

"cannot believe some idiots on here 'its simple, theres loads of fostering services' 'forget the cats' etc YOU HAVE NO IDEA unless you've been in the OP's situation!"

Speaking as one of the 'idiots'.... the abusive partner, by the OP's own admission, is very caring towards the cats. Ironically, he seems to much prefer the cats to the OP. I think human beings who are in immediate danger of emotional and physical abuse take priority over pampered animals and I don't think that opinion makes me or anyone else an 'idiot'.

cannot believe some idiots on here 'its simple, theres loads of fostering services' 'forget the cats' etc YOU HAVE NO IDEA unless you've been in the OP's situation!

Ahem. I was.

I left with DS, but left the cat behind.
Maybe I am a bitch for leaving the cat behind, but the fact was that safety for us was much, much, more important.

In fact, when I left home, I left with nothing but by handbag, but I'd have left even that if I needed to.

Oh, wait, I did take the car, which he took back later on, but it didn't matter then, because I had left him.

PS - it ends better than it looks, because the car was also in my name, and he ended up letting me take stuff from the house, and then he left the house himself. But the point is that when I acted on it, I could have lost a lot. I expected him to have thrashed the house.

Have you managed to leave yet OP?

Hope you are ok op