For the record I see nothing wrong with the original post or how it caused offence. I certainly didn't take any offence and I think the only people who would are the cheaters or OW and I have no sympathy or concern for people like that frankly.
The one saying which always springs to mind for me is if you ate having problems in your relationship, talk to the person you are in a relationship with, not the one y you want the next relationship with.
For me this all happened 4 years ago and it still hurts as much today as it did back then, the pain has never gone away especially as he is still with the fat whore and she is at my daughter's school, looking after her when she's there, involved with my friends and family etc, my life and plans are affected by her demands on my ex, it never goes away. However there is a little bit of karma coming back on her now. See it took him and I 5 years to conceive DD, and I was always blamed, it could never possibly have been his fault. She is DESPERATE to have a baby and I'm pretty sure they've been trying, or at least not not trying, for a while now. But seems it has never happened. But I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant unbelievably quickly, a real one in a million chance. Clearly it wasn't me who was the issue. And now DD is bouncing about singing that she's going to be a big sister and everyone is turning to her with big smiles and congratulations and she has to tell them all over and over again that it's not her, it's me, that she's been with him over 4 years and is 32 and wanted her first before 30 and it hasn't happened, that she's still waiting. And she'll be on at him, press rising him that it's not her when it's her turn and it's not happened. And he can't cope with being pressured like that and will not do the ttc roller coaster he did with me again with her. Oh she'll have cried a few nights over this one and I couldn't be happier. Gives me a little smile and sick joy every time I think of it. She's going to be even more pissed off when she finds out this one is taking my married name too. Oh she'll be furious, as will he, and I can't wait. A little bonus to cheer me up through the not so pleasant pg symptoms.