He asked me to sleep over – Not sure how to go about it!

[Achica123]

Need some thoughts / advice !

After we had dinner at his place, he asked me I want to sleep over. It was our 6th date…

I declined the invitation because I guess I wasn't mentally prepared, and didn’t see it coming tbh. I have to say that I am feeling flattered, though. I am still catching myself smiling at the thought of it. This said, I am not sure if it is the right time yet or not. Shall I wait for some time, or go for it anyway? Is it normal for a guy to ask the girl to sleep over at his place after date 6, or is it too soon?

I see myself with him in a long term relationship and I am after a long term relationship – I know this sleep overs are part of getting to know each other, but I feel that there is a lot to know about him, before I sleep over. Is this too wise and careful and old fashioned?

It’s been a while since I have dated last, and II have to admit I kinds forgot what it was like - what do you ladies think?

Dinner at his place, date three was where it happened for us too

Thank you all for the ideas, empathy and advice ... I will def talk to him about what I feeling, and take it from there. I am hoping that he'll understand. Judging by how he has been so far, I guess he would. I hope he does, because I fancy him and know that he fancies me

Nobody should have sex for any reason other than they want to - if you feel you "should" because it's the nth date or because other people claim there is a "norm" ... I would recommend don't.

People who get pissy with you because you are not ready to have sex with them deserve to be binned anyway.

He is dating you and only you, that is a complete package not an a la carte menu, so if he objects to how you feel about something then he (and you) would be better looking elsewhere. If he is a half decent human being he will accept you for what you are and also want you to sleep with him only if you also want to however soon or not that is.

God, I have barely given this any thought. Don't people just wait and see how they feel, and then make a move when they feel like it? I can't imagine waiting for a particular number. I suppose there is a sort of tradition that if you sleep with someone the first time you meet, without any kind of magical connection, you're both interested in it mostly for sex alone.

Definitely don't do it to please anyone but yourself. If you think about having sex with him, and you think it would be great, that's enough to be going on with :)