DP wants me to move my DC's from school they love

[Discomama]

We don't live together, they aren't his DC's. He wants to move to be with us (been together 10 months) but wants us all to move about 20miles away. I refuse point blank to make the children leave their fantastic school that they are doing brilliantly at that we all love. AIBU? He says he doesn't have any say in our lives and I suppose he's right to some extent, the children come first to me and always will. He says he has to just fit into our lives and put up with it. Now refusing to put any money into buying a house unless it's somewhere he wants. Is it me?

I think I know what you're going to say.

Yeah...i knew that. sort of trying for ironic there.

The children he was planning to raise as his own that he dumped summarily along with the OP when things didn't go his way? Those children?

Discomama, just read this thread, I think you are brilliant and you and your children are safe as you have your priorities clear.

So many people suffer because their children are unhappy at school and this fella couldn't give a damn.

Glad you have organised a different holiday.

"the best compromise I could come to was to move out of the village that I love, that is my home and go somewhere within a 10 mile commute of the school". Bit worried that you would consider that, 10 mile commute sounds stressful and expensive! His reaction was terrible.

Hope if he comes back "willing" to consider your "compromise" you are not sucked in.