The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Spring Like Super Spingy Springs On A Springy Day!

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, Gerald. Of course it's an imaginary Bus, and we're all aware of that, but we've been on this Bus for a bloomin' long time now so this place kinda feels like home.

See, the thing is, we're a mix of drinkers, non drinkers, total abstainers, and also posters that are or have been, somewhere in between, around the block and back again!

There are no hard and fast rules here, just No judging, No bitching about others and most certainly No expectations of YOURSELF.

No-one can say what will or will not happen whilst you're posting here. You just have to take the ride, One Day At A Time.

There are two sayings that we have painted down either side of the Bus :-

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

You've started to read this thread for a reason, and you'll either carry on and maybe Name Change (or not) and post, walk away, or realise that this is all about YOU, cry for a bit, and then come and take a seat :)

For those who would like a bit of our almost 4 year history, have a read of THIS TRULY INSPIRING THREAD

- AND THIS IS OUR PREVIOUS THREAD TO THIS ONE

We're not a quiche or a clicky group, four years is a long time and longer when you're pissed for some of it, so whilst the threads may look 'clicky', I can promise you, it's just that we all 'know' one another because we've been here for a bit but you'll soon get to know us all, who loves what (CHEEEEEEEESE), but we were all 'new posters' at one time, weren't we? :)

baby - 'like watching a thin person eating a fish supper' - love it

Anne - I hear you on the Wankbadger front, here I am now panicking about losing job I hate, and subsequently our whole income, and he has let it wash over him. God forbid he should get a proper job, far easier to let me have a nervous breakdown. D'aaaargh!

Mouse - sorry I didn't see your post last time I was here. My heart goes out to you. Big, big hugs ((((((( )))))))). Just get through it day to day xxx. I saw a bereavement counsellor in the end, and it did help - is that an option for you?

Hi to all other babes today - hope we all have a successful June! Though I am off to a pagan wedding today where only refreshments will be cider and apple juice. And I can't see me ruining my low carb diet again just for apple juice...

Well done on six days baby, I wish I could have a good run of af days. Your so right about resentment being a trigger, and then that feeling of 'I've done this, that, the other, I deserve a fecking a drink!!'

Hope my H is totally the same, my job is not great to say the least, my H thinks it makes me miserable and I should quit, however no way is he going to step up and pay the bills

Just checking in. 1 week done.

Going to have to admit that sober week was not boring,it was great. I'd forgotten what it is like to do things in real time not in hangover/booze fog. I am officially a twat and will continue with sobriety.

Um, I've not name changed. Don't think I should. Hello.

Ps I read the first ever thread a while back.

Don't know where to start but thing I belong here

IM a mum to ds1 and I have two dsc. DH and I have been together 6 years. I've always drunk, but I find I'm drinking more. DH and I are fighting over money/kids/step kids/me not helping his business. And to be drank I like to have a drink in the evening. I have no help with ds,my family are all over the place and I don't drive. I lived with an alcoholic mother, I became her mother in a weird way. I moved out in my mid twenties and she died a month later. I was there. I'm ok with it now, still miss her but scared I'm following in her steps

Ha ha! Frank! Not drank

Hi MumsRush welcome to the bus. It's quiet here today but will no doubt pick up a bit tomorrow. Are you aiming to stop completely, or cut back or what?

guggs I'm not finding sober boring either, although there are a lot of hours to fill but it's so nice to have the time to watch programmes on tv or read a book and remember it all the next day too

Hi fair, I really don't know. What's too much? How do you know it's a problem? I should know because of my mum. But I don't think I want to stop. I have days of not drinking, and I don't drink loads (I think) but I know I can put it away also. I can do 3 bottles of red in a night, (not often) by I can do it.

I think it's more about how you feel about it. I guess by posting here you are thinking about maybe changing your habits. What's the longest you normally go without a drink - do you drink every day?

I didn't drink the last two days but I've always thought I should cut down. I've had a row with DH tonight so am drinking

I do drink too much, I can feel my liver I'm sure. I get pains there. I sometimes hide what I drink. That's all signs to me.

Anger is one of the triggers. In fact, most strong emotions will trigger the urge to drink as that is how we are used to dealing with them. We have to learn new ways. Still, two days under your belt is good.

If you stick around you will find all sorts of people here and loads to chat about and learn. I've got to pop out for a bit but will check in later.

Thanks x

hi mumsrush well done you for posting, I remember my first post wondering if anyone would answer and what would they think of me... all you will find here is warmth and support. I drank between 1 and 2 bottles a night and was still fairly coherent, many babes drink less some more, if your worried about it, your in the right place. Stay close and tomorrow all our fabulous babes will be on and giving you a huge welcome, big hugs xx ps im on day 7 without a drop and it feels great x

Thanks baby I feel like a fraud as I'm glass in hand, but I know it's not the answer. I could drink a box I think, I did (and this is not the norm and I may as well be honest) 2 ltr or gin in the last 2 weeks

And I thought that was good, because a few years back, a ltr wouldn't last 2 nights

Can I ask is Jesus ok? Is she still around?

Hi mumsrush good on you for posting. It is a big thing to put down in writing for the first time.

I think that for many, many of us the concept of stopping is horrific - imagine never, ever, drinking again - it's just too hard to contemplate, and I know that the fear of that kept me drinking for years. That is why the one day at a time (ODAAT) approach - which is so favoured by aa - is good, and on here you will find that it works well for many of us (even though most are not aa).

So all I have to worry abut is being sober today. I don't have to worry about what I'll do on my birthday or my friend's wedding or how I'll cope with Christmas, I just have to worry about today. And when this feel overwhelming and I crave a drink, I manage one minute at a time (and sometimes just 15 seconds). But they all build up.

So if you think that there some minutes when you could use our support then come on and post.

Welcome mumsrush and well done for being brave and posting!

Monday Morning babes

Still sober. Still enjoying it. This week-end was 3 weeks. I'm trying to avoid getting too frantic about counting days because I really just want to do this. In a permanent kind of mind set. Though I don't want to think about that too much either.

Despite all my stop/start with this process, it's working. When I first stopped I couldn't believe I was going to have to have a sober Friday. Now I just sail through them relatively easily. So don't stress too much if you fail, just keep trying. In my experience this sober life slowly but surely starts to take hold. This time round I can face social situations far easier than before. I had a friend around the other day and she brought a bottle of wine with her. I poured her a wine and myself a sparkling water (what a wanker I am). It wasn't a big deal. However, it was this exact same scenario (same friend visiting on a Friday afternoon) that made me stumble at one of my previous attempts. This time I won.....

One day I'm going to be sober forever. Without a doubt.

love to you all. Sorry not to nc and welcome new babes. xxx

Well done soc and welcome mumsrush
Day 1 again. Again. Again. So bloody sick or trying and failing. Am bloated and tired and ratty.

morning babes, sober I totally agree, my previous mindset was that I could never get through a weekend without wine, it was incomprehensible and a very unattractive prospect, I just have and it was fantastic not to have a hangover at any point in my week, im sure my body thanks me, im not quite bright eyed and bushy tailed but im certainly slightly bushier (sounds very wrong) and my previously gin soaked eyes no longer resemble a road map!!!! sober I love your posts, they are invigorating and so indicative of how we all want to feel. it doesn't matter if I have a wobble and a drink, i'll just dust myself down and start again.. its not the end of the world ODAAT!!!! Im on day 8, saved £80 on wine, £30 on cigs (only smoke when drinking), that's £110 a week, approx. £500 per month, £6000 per year, imagine winning that on a lottery ticket and how it could change your life PLUS your thinner, fitter and younger looking as if by magic, ITS A NO BRAINER....

Sorry for prattling on, only downside so far, I love snickers bars more than my children, is this wrong???? Hugs to all xxxxx

Wow some great posts - well done all - going swimming this morning :)