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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Spring Like Super Spingy Springs On A Springy Day!

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Mouseface · 04/04/2014 19:06

Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, Gerald. Of course it's an imaginary Bus, and we're all aware of that, but we've been on this Bus for a bloomin' long time now so this place kinda feels like home. Grin

See, the thing is, we're a mix of drinkers, non drinkers, total abstainers, and also posters that are or have been, somewhere in between, around the block and back again!

There are no hard and fast rules here, just No judging, No bitching about others and most certainly No expectations of YOURSELF.

No-one can say what will or will not happen whilst you're posting here. You just have to take the ride, One Day At A Time.

There are two sayings that we have painted down either side of the Bus :-

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

You've started to read this thread for a reason, and you'll either carry on and maybe Name Change (or not) and post, walk away, or realise that this is all about YOU, cry for a bit, and then come and take a seat :)

For those who would like a bit of our almost 4 year history, have a read of THIS TRULY INSPIRING THREAD

- AND THIS IS OUR PREVIOUS THREAD TO THIS ONE

We're not a quiche or a clicky group, four years is a long time and longer when you're pissed for some of it, so whilst the threads may look 'clicky', I can promise you, it's just that we all 'know' one another because we've been here for a bit but you'll soon get to know us all, who loves what (CHEEEEEEEESE), but we were all 'new posters' at one time, weren't we? :)

OP posts:
guggenheim · 12/05/2014 15:12

Yes please baby - biscuits this way.

I'm glad that things are going well. Alcohol really can bring all of us to the worst kind of behaviour. One minute you are a bit silly and the next you're arguing over crap or face down the loo. I've managed to avoid the worst of it with this lapse though.

Reading and watching programs properly- more good reasons to get sober.

nefnaf · 12/05/2014 15:36

managed a shop with no booze sneaking into the trolley. Went to Waitrose to be absolutely certain I couldn't afford any :)

Feeling relatively ok for the time being. 10mins at a time is about right Soc

Fairenuff · 12/05/2014 16:01

Soc bed and book sounds great, that will be me in about 6 hours. But first I have only done 5,000 steps today so off out for a lovely long walk.

Well done nef, hang on in there, you are doing great. Tomorrow morning you will be so happy with the choices you are making right now.

Mouse how are things with you? How did Nemo's birthday go?

Anneisnotmyname · 12/05/2014 18:14

Great to see you back guggin :) so pleased you've pulled yourself back from your lapse. I try, when I'm not being self pitying, to see them as a learning curve, when i drink in a way I'm not happy with. I think the alternative would be to give up entirely and I'm scared where that would take me.

Hope everyone has a good evening, I'm also having an early night with a book. I used to love reading and lost it when I was drinking too much.

dementedma · 12/05/2014 20:18

Hi guggs. Good to see you
I had a day out on a beautiful scenic loch not far away from here. It was raining but atmospheric and peaceful and just beautiful.
I took minute to take a few deep breaths and repeat to myself, " I am strong. I am loved. Right here, right now, I have everything I need."

babyjane1 · 12/05/2014 21:08

ma that sounds amazing, sometimes we need to stop and smell the roses so to speak. I love that so many of you are reading, I am desparate to read a really good book but I'm out of the loop a bit on the book front, can you guys give me some suggestions. I don't really have a type so all suggestions very welcome. I can't quite get into my kindle for reading so tomorrow id like to buy an actual book so please throw some ideas my way, id be very grateful, it's one of the things I'm really looking forward to and have missed. Thanks super babes xxxx

guggenheim · 12/05/2014 22:10

Evening babes

Lovely to be back Smile It's taken a while to want to get sober again. It really hasn't taken long to get the craving for wine back- does anyone remember the scene in the Simpsons when Lisa allows herself one tiny little taste of the cake in the fridge? Well- that's what it's like. One special occasion,two crap days at work,3 friday nights and back to wanting the bloody stuff all the frigging time!

I do know exactly who is to blame though this time Grin

baby the fault in our stars by John Green is good.
Night all x

babyjane1 · 12/05/2014 22:29

Thanks guggs for the book tip. you've acknowledged your situation while averting a total relapse, that's huge progress and I for one am so glad your back!! Night all xx

babyjane1 · 13/05/2014 09:01

Morning babes, the sun is shining and day 9 feels good. I'm not making a big deal of the number of days as it just builds pressure like the countdown to a spaceship launch, it's ODAAT. I will say with every passing day the habit loses power and I'm going back to old hobbies and back in touch with old friends and I've found clothes in my ironing pile older than my 3 year old due to never reaching the bottom!!! Life may not be bursting with excitement but calm prevails and that'll do for me (tommy) xxxx

SoberSocFish · 13/05/2014 10:40

baby took me a while to like my kindle. Now I love the fact that I can order books and they are delivered instantly. It's really great. Still read books but a big fan of my kindle. Might be worth persevering. I think we all need distracting and reading works for me.

Day 3 done. All good. Just battling with the "forever" thing which is what I need to do. But at the moment ODAAT.

Have a good day babes xx

SoberSocFish · 13/05/2014 10:42

I just read The Farm by Tom Rob Smith. Kept me well distracted. X

babyjane1 · 13/05/2014 11:11

Thanks sober I'm on it xxxxx

Fairenuff · 13/05/2014 16:52

I've found clothes in my ironing pile older than my 3 year old Grin

Ha, baby, that did make me laugh!

5,500 steps so far so off out again. Did some push ups (sort of) last night and the dreaded plank. Am building up the courage to start The Shred.

See you later x

ruralreynard · 13/05/2014 20:54

Big wave to all.
Don't let that WW win.
I am in the sidecar Blush
Will be back on the bus soon.Smile
Love and strength to all x

babyjane1 · 13/05/2014 21:09

Right back atcha rural and well done faire the shred sounds painful!!! Xxx

ruralreynard · 13/05/2014 21:20

Baby Well done on 9 days af. Awesome Smile

dementedma · 13/05/2014 21:29

Well done soc and baby
Climbs into sidecar with rural. Still nowhere near AF but managing to have beer or light beer most nights instead of wine which is actually a step in the right direction as I drink less of it.
Today is a very special day and I got a very special text from my brother Richard. Some of you will remember him. It said " My one year anniversary today. Wouldn't still be here if it wasn't for you. X"
One year ago today we gave a dying man into the care of the Salvation Army when no-one else would help him. Today, he is one year sober, studying for his Masters via the OU and working as a volunteer coordinator in a community garden. He still lives in a flat belonging to the Life house but is well healthy and happy and ALCOHOL FREE.
Last year he was a shaking, starving wreck, consumed by alcohol, hearing voices in his head, dying. I will never forget the support you all gave me on here for him during those days. I am so very very proud of him and indebted to the fabulous Salvation Army who saw hope in the wreck of a human they opened their doors to.

guggenheim · 13/05/2014 21:45

ma I remember Richard- very glad he's doing well Smile

Budge over in the sidecar though- need room for me too.

Maybe this time next next year we will both be af & rich - how about that? lol

dementedma · 13/05/2014 21:55

Where is mouse?
And we are long overdue an update from Jesus Grin

babyjane1 · 13/05/2014 23:01

ma I'm so very pleased for you and Richard, I was here when you posted such upsetting and desparate posts worrying for his life, it does my heart good to see a happy ending. You have saved Richards life and helped give him his life back, you are truly remarkable... Most of us are lucky if we can save ourselves!!!l goodnight my friends, your support is helping me soooo much xx

Fairenuff · 13/05/2014 23:03

Wow ma has it been a year already! I am so, so pleased to hear that Richard is sober and well. Thanks for letting us know, such a positive outcome Smile

ruralreynard · 13/05/2014 23:15

Awww ma so glad Richard has turned his life around. Lovely text from him and very true. Smile

SoberSocFish · 14/05/2014 00:28

Morning babes
Sorry to not nc, but got to get to work. Just wanted to check in for Day 4. Last night I slept like a baby and have woken up feeling fabulous. First time in about 6 weeks that I've had such a good sleep......all to do with not drinking. That quality of sleep.
Anyway, all you babes in the sidecar. Stick around. I'm envious that you can drink a beer or a wine. When I'm in the sidecar it's bad news. So you're doing well.
Have a good evening xx

obrigada · 14/05/2014 09:18

Ma brilliant to hear that Richard is still doing so well, can't believe it's been a year but what a difference that year has made.

guggenheim · 14/05/2014 09:38

Feeling a little unwell this morning - can't think why. FFS!

Oh well,pulls self together. Today I will not be sodding well drinking!