The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Spring Like Super Spingy Springs On A Springy Day!

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Hello everyone, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the Bus, Gerald. Of course it's an imaginary Bus, and we're all aware of that, but we've been on this Bus for a bloomin' long time now so this place kinda feels like home.

See, the thing is, we're a mix of drinkers, non drinkers, total abstainers, and also posters that are or have been, somewhere in between, around the block and back again!

There are no hard and fast rules here, just No judging, No bitching about others and most certainly No expectations of YOURSELF.

No-one can say what will or will not happen whilst you're posting here. You just have to take the ride, One Day At A Time.

There are two sayings that we have painted down either side of the Bus :-

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

You've started to read this thread for a reason, and you'll either carry on and maybe Name Change (or not) and post, walk away, or realise that this is all about YOU, cry for a bit, and then come and take a seat :)

For those who would like a bit of our almost 4 year history, have a read of THIS TRULY INSPIRING THREAD

- AND THIS IS OUR PREVIOUS THREAD TO THIS ONE

We're not a quiche or a clicky group, four years is a long time and longer when you're pissed for some of it, so whilst the threads may look 'clicky', I can promise you, it's just that we all 'know' one another because we've been here for a bit but you'll soon get to know us all, who loves what (CHEEEEEEEESE), but we were all 'new posters' at one time, weren't we? :)

Tickle - do you drink to block things out? Like last night DH being a PITA for example? That's a trigger. It's not a helpful trigger but to me, that's a 'fuck it' moment.

Maybe try and take three minutes out of the situation. Take yourself off, go through your thoughts and pick out what really drove you mad, in the middle of the whole scenario and then take the heat out of the situation.

Do you find you're the one that always says sorry first? I used to be the one who would need to get out. It's hard isn't it?

Don't let the booze get the better of YOU xxx

Good luck fabulous Nef xxx

Report back and remember, this is YOUR life :)

He's fine mouse though clearly not planning on goingto school tomorrow. I'm going to work to try and save my job so will leave that particular battle to dh. Ds attendance record for first year is appalling!

Thanks all for the welcome :). - had a glass of wine today WTF!! But back on it tomorrow (being AF). - Fair your post makes absolute sense to me - last week I had 3 AF free days - GREAT for me - not consecutive days though - this week now going for at least 4 days, hopefully five and then next week 5/6. - I do want to stop but I like it too much - but not the mornng after - sorry for rambling - good loom nef hope the chat goes well :)

Oh yes mouse to block things out when I have had a shit day. Its all I can do to get home and open the wine :(

Good luck nef

well, that was a complete failure. He brought two bottles. We both got very drunk, again.

However I did talk to him about it this morning and said I'm going to have a dry few weeks - nothing too heavy about him being the reason I'm drinking excessively, because he's not, I am - but I did say I would much prefer to spend sober time with him. He has no problem with that at all. So, there are some things to hold on to...

Firstly, it was unrealistic to expect that he would know I didn't want to drink last night, as I'd not told him, and unrealistic of me to think I would be that strong without his full support in the first place.

There is no alcohol in my house now, and I won't be buying any more, and I've asked him not to bring any when he comes round for the next couple of weeks.

I'm running race for life at the start of summer so I am using the training as a good reason for a 'health kick'.

We have also talked about the fact that I went to AA and have an addictive relationship to alcohol, and that for me, it's a case of 'hang around a barber shop for long enough, you're gonna get a haircut'. So in as far as it's possible for me to be explicit that I can't be around him drinking and not drink (certainly in the short term) I've gone out on a limb and told him.

All in all he's being very loving and supportive right now, so once this hangover clears, I will hopefully begin to feel a lot better. Or possibly worse, but hopefully after that, better...

How's everyone else doing today?x

Morning babes

How are you doing ma ?

Day One nearly done. I didn't actually drink that much over the weekend, one bottle lasted three nights. However when I shared a bottle of wine with H during the week it didn't feel controlled at all - I hadn't planned to drink, and then drank more than I was happy with....I suspect that when I drink moderately without really trying it lulls me into a false sense of security and I think I can drink like that next time, and I don't really try to Sometimes I can have five af days without particularly noticing and minding, other times just one is hard....

In bed - no wine drunk :). - Having an early night to keep WW at bay - At least tomorrow I will wake up guilt free :)

Im pretty shit actually! Things are going from bad to worse. Have been on a bottle a night so switched to beer. Two bottles is 5.5 units as opposed to 9 in a bottle of wine. So maybe a small improvement.
Good to see you indie

Ma - sorry to hear things so rubbish :(. Well done on switching to beer - sounds like a good idea - I managed a sober night last night - so from Saturday to today I have only drank once which is a big deal for me - going to stay sober today as well - ---- if I can !!!

ma so sorry to hear that things are so shit for you. And please keep posting on here - you're using the coping mechanism that is most familiar to you (and to most of us), we all understand & for your work situation x

day 2 AF. Starting to feel better, although I am horribly tired today. I've not caught up with the whole thread yet, but I'm sending love to you to Ma I hope things improve soon x

Day 2, woke up feeling brighter and with no intention to drink but had a wobble in the supermarket. Was looking for yogurts and right at the end of the dairy aisle was a display of my favourite wine! I didn't get any as I really want to get out of the habit of drinking during the week.

Sorry things are so difficult for you right now Ma but well done in staying off the wine. In the past when I've tried to cut down drinking I've bought lager for H, or have drank it myself, as it seems easier to control somehow. I should learn from that but I still keep getting the wine in

When I first become brave enough to walk down the alcohol aisle and not buy anything, despite all the 'tempting' offers , I used to just stand there and look longingly at the wine

No idea why I did that and I don't do it now. I might give the alcohol shelves a glance but then I move on. If I do want wine, I've taken to drinking only 5.5% so I know exactly where it is and what I'm buying before I go in.

I'm in, out, get the job done, like a ninja

Happy hump day everyone

I've done 6,660 steps today, so am off out now to top it up to 1,000. Hope the rains stays off. See you later x

Hi babes, I've been AWOL due to a severe bout if depression which led to some if the worst alcohol behaviour I have ever put my family through. I know this is a common theme for me but I'm in both a self inflicted and loved ones inflicted alcohol ban. I'm on day 4 and I'm just so relieved I still have loved ones that I will not falter or I dread to think where this will all end. I have to deal with my crippling anxiety and depression above everything else and that's my priority. I haven't read back but plan to tonight as this bus will be my saviour as it always is. Hi to newbies and hope none of you will think too badly of me for being a terrible person. I can't change the past but I can the future, I guess that goes for all of us, hugs to all xxxx

Great post baby - I suffer from terrible anxiety too and alcohol numbs it all and makes things feel warm and floaty not shit and terrifying - day 2 (again) here - pleased though as any day I manage without alcohol is a success for me - --- Good luck to others on day 2 (or day 1 or 4). - tomorrow's another day !

Thanks 70 Scarlett Ohara was right! Xxx

baby you are not a terrible person and we could never think bad of you. You are here aren't you. You are trying to make the changes you want and need for a healthier, happier life. Thanks for coming back and not giving up on the bus

faire if you were in front of me I'd give you a big hug, thanks for your kindness. I feel I've really hit my rock bottom but relieved to be slowly clambering back up. This bus is a wonderful warm place and I'm so glad to be back and safe xxxxxx

Morning lovely's
Sending strength to you all x

Yay made it to day three - hope everyone OK - this is my difficult day :(