The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

Yes, I agree with you.

Agree with Talisa. (thread moves quick)

I seem to be having loads of luck on Tinder lately.....although a few of them are just looking for a hook up! Definitely think it's the quick and easy way to get chatting to guys and I have a date lined up already! Have blocked a few of the "only looking for sex" ones!!

I've put my profile on pof last week and after 20 messages from various men I started chatting yesterday to someone lovely. He looks good looking from his pic, likes chatting and seems like a lovely man. We've been messaging back and forth all day yesterday and today.
However I am so happy I just know the minute we meet something's going to be wrong isn't it?

Well Smallfeet just gone, had a nice time catching up ah ahem anyway all seems okay, he just said he had had a really rubbish week last week but that he had missed me.

We are doing a mini break end of this week to Legoland with my dd, hoping it will be okay and its not too soon. We have been seeing each other 5 months now

Jarlin sorry to hear about Slowburners mum you sound a bit muddled though if you are messaging someone else like you said you would be hurt if slowburner did that. If you are having such big doubts maybe this relationship isn't meeting all your needs/ expectations?

Dont you are sounding upbeat -your book will be amazing!! Please can we all come to the book launch?

Anyone know how Folks getting on?

Hi all, I thought I'd join your discussion, if that's ok? I have recently started internet dating and would value your opinion on something.
I was messaging a very nice man, we had a lot in common and seemed to be getting on well. We messaged each other every day for about 10 days, but never met for a date.
Then, suddenly, he stopped talking to me, without any explanation.
After about 3 days I messaged him, saying that I had enjoyed talking to him, but I was getting the feeling that he no longer wanted to talk to me.
He wrote back a very apologetic e mail, saying that he had met someone and they were having a relationship, as I had suspected.
He was very sweet, saying that he really liked me and thought I was a lovely person, but he was totally monogamous and so he felt he had to let me know where we stood. He didn't want to give me any false hope.
I sent a message back, saying that I thought he was lovely too, but I understood and wished him well.
To my surprise, he sent me a message back , saying thank you for my lovely message, that it meant a lot to him and that maybe one day our paths might cross again.
I didn't intend to reply,but I really like him, so I sent a message yesterday( 17 days after he sent me his message). It just said that I had visited his profile accidentally (yeah, right!) and that I was sorry, but 'our paths seem to have crossed again.'
I know I shouldn't have sent it, but what the hell!
The thing is, he obviously was still on the site, despite his new lady.
I don't know if that's what men usually do. It seems a bit deceptive to me.

He hasn't opened my message- too scared, I think!
But,I can see that he has visited my profile again.
I don't know what to think.
He's seeing someone, so why is he still on this site and why is he looking at my profile?

Doughnut - people don't usually take down their profiles until a relationship is well established. I stopped looking for other people long before I took my profile down in my last relationship. I think taking your profile down is a sign that things are properly serious. Agreeing to stop chatting to other people is a few steps before that point. While I stopped messaging and looking when I agreed to with my ex I still logged on to read messages I got and send replies back (saying I'd actually just met someone and I was going to wait and see how it went). Or he could just be a lying bastard on the other hand!

Read some interesting profiles on POF tonight. They are usually very dull in that most say exactly the same things but one that I have just read included the member's full and detailed description of how he had once had to strangle a cow after accidentally running it over with a jeep while taking American tourists hunting!? This was seemingly just for information purposes to explain why he had become a vegetarian!

I'm going and staying over, we are still seeing each other , he does t seem to want rush anything which is good for me ,with my last two proper relationships after 6 weeks of dates I was practically doing house work ext all flirty c h at gone and I don't want that.
We text everyday both serious and jokey flirts.
Deep down I know I'm not his type and I'm concerned about meeting his mates but at least I'm not his little secret ( I had this before with someone I saw ), as he was happy to introduce me to ppl .
I've looked on line and no one interests me so might as well have fun while lasts

Thanks Thisyear, that's a really good point. I suppose you don't want to burn your bridges before you're sure that you have a solid relationship.
I don't think he is a lying bastard, his wife of 20 years left him, he's got four children to care for. He's a decent person I think.
That sounds a very traumatic situation, strangling a cow! No wonder he became a veggie! Thanks again.

Jarlin, I think slowburner sounds lovely.

Softkitty I think you dealt with that message just right!

Hello, I agree I'll stop the online stalking. I keep asking myself - what if he matched me on Tinder because he wanted to get back together and I ruined it by blocking him?

I met most of these guys on match - it's more fruitful than POF, tinder or okcupid at the moment.

Toryboy likes me I think. But I'm so exhausted by all this dating already!

Proper oddball messaged me on okcupid. He's sexually unfaithful but likes to kiss within 30 seconds of meeting. He likes well built brunettes. I was a bit at that as I'm a size 8 with a bmi of 20? I don't have a full length pic on there but still...

I messaged back (couldn't resist) and said not my thing.

He said it was a shame I was so sexually shy and possessive as he detected intelligence in my profile. So now I'm thick because I don't kiss randoms who repulse me.

He said it's a shame as we could have enjoyed losing weight together in and out of the gym. WTF!!

Scarey I've never used Google+, is it like Facebook, Twitter et al?

just laughing out loud at *dont's" oddball. classic

OK so I have a question regarding a situation I think is plainly obvious, but would like advice.
Went on a first date on Friday evening. Nice guy, had a great time, no conversation lulls, but no chemistry.
Left the date feeling unsure as to whether I would hear from him again but I decided not to pursue it from my end.
He texted on Saturday to say he had a great time etc and that he wanted to meet up again.
I replied with 'OK Let's sort something out'
He replied that evening keen and suggested possible days and things to do.

Then 20 minutes later (without me replying) he texted to say he didn't feel any chemistry and would just like to be friends. I texted back to say OK I wasn't sure if I felt that elusive spark either and that friends is a good idea under the circumstances. I didn't expect another text.
Yesterday (Sunday) he texted to ask how things were and if I was enjoying the sun. I replied with a brief but friendly text and mentioned something I was doing.
He replied again and suggested meeting up!
I am naturally a little confused.

Does he ACTUALLY just want a friend or a FWB situation or is he regretting the 'no chemistry' text he sent?

Not sure what to do / think.
I do quite like him. Things is, whereas I wasn't sure before, after the no chemistry text, I thought 'Oh sit, like him a bit more now' (As I always do. The whole 'treat em mean; keep em keen' - definitely works for me!!!)

Nothing more to add... hey it's Monday but it's HelloBoys here as the charmed Mumsnet (MN) staff buggered up my passwords and logging in etc - and I wanted to be called SuperFlyGuy but thought that sounded weird (no sex change yet, LOL!) so put High but...

anyway... dating week eh. I think I'd prefer the Easter Bunny, .

dont - men are STRANGE half them don't read or see the pic apart from a pretty face. for the one who messaged you hinting at sex as weight loss. hmmm

Snappy the first date I had with MrKids I didn't physically fancy him but I definitely liked something about him. Now 5 weeks later I'm crazy about him

I've had guys that Sent message to say no chemistry but then I've heard nothing again! Sounds like he trying to play it cool but failing

Hi girls, I've been away for ages, ill with a chest infection, but better now! I have been lurking, and have tried to keep up with all your stories - and don't they move fast!!
I have now officially moved on from Mr Cute...he that should dare go OLD whilst still having a girlfriend! Tut tut!
If anyone should wish to read the 'you are dumped texts' please look at my profile photos.