The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

Hello!

Not much going on here dating-wise. Lots of weird people and hairy handed truckers messaging me.

jarlin that sound quite good to me - will he really not be drawn out at all though? 'In a relationship' and 'exclusive' are pretty unequivocal though!

What to wear for my date...place we are going to (nice pub) has a great beer garden and it's going to be warm. Either denim shirt dress or short culottes and top.

Sorry to hear you're feeling down Don't. I would say though that if someone I was on a date with told me they were writing a book about dating I'm not sure how that would make me feel! Maybe the book is, far from a distraction, making you think about it all too much. You probably need a wee break.

Scarey Quite honestly I think he's felt you pulling away and he's trying to lure you back because he needs to validate your feelings for him. In other words, he's over-investing and over-promising in an attempt to get you back on side and to prove to himself that he still has your interest. Read some of the stuff on Baggage Reclaim - calling, texting and talking of future events is a classic way of getting back into your life after he's messed you about. Personally I'd stop answering the texts and calls for a few hours, or to the end of the day if you can resist. I truly hope this is a genuine way for him to make it up to you but my cynical head says to keep your wits about you. What have you said about next weekend?

I've read The Secret and while I'm a massive fan of positive thinking, I think you need to take it with a pinch of salt. Positive thinking will not cure cancer, for instance, but I believe it can help improve your life on a day to day basis.

Dont I'm with Talisa - if he asks you out again, I'd go. I know it must still hurt though, so take care of yourself.

ThisYear That woman on OKCupid is stunning. No wonder she's so popular! I'm lucky to get one message a week .

Ha ha SoftKitty - she is indeed stunning but is still having a frustrating experience any way! Is there any hope for the rest of us??

this I think the only thing to take from the article is that it is tough for everyone to meet someone.

I think the message I go earlier could give some of her horrid ones a run for their money though...

"I really want to do fisting with you babe" BLOCKED!

Hello! Can I join you on here?

I downloaded Tinder lady weekend, it's fairly addictive!
So after being single for 8 years I have a real live date tonight! He sounds nice, have spoken to him a couple of times, no sleazy messages, no sex talk. He's good looking and is an activity instructor.

I'm VERY excited!
I'm heading for a fall aren't I? I can feel I'm going to be really disappointed if I don't like him

I will update after tonight!

Good luck Dolly!

Oh my god at the fisting message Lucyinthesky! What website was that from?!

Toryboy texted again. He seems interested but I've come very very close to contacting geeky again this week.

I texted Mr Jaded, told him I wasn't over my ex and he said he'd like to be my friend.

I swiped right on every single person on tinder and got an instant match for everyone and then blocked them all. Then I sobbed because I don't have geeky.

I wrote the chapter about our break up this week, so maybe that's why. The book has to be written though.

Scarey, geeky and I fell in love v quickly. I have never felt the same way about anyone. But I had some issues, he didn't like my childcare arrangements, my ex H is a prick and it bothered geeky and I posted about him on here and based on the response I got, asked geeky if he was an emotionally manipulative abuser. Geeky didn't want a relationship with me after that.

Hi all missed me?!

Have been away last week on a lovely holiday with my friend and her children in devon, we were very lucky with the weather

So anyway where we stayed was completely cut off so had no phone signal and no internet, when we left on Friday was expecting at least to have had a text from Smallfeet but nope nothing. Eventually Friday evening got a very brief text saying he hoped I had had a nice time.

Was then expecting him to make some suggestion about meeting up this weekend but he seemed to avoid that which was o.kay as tbh I had loads of washing and catching up to do after being away. But eventually I text him today and asked if he wanted to pop over tonight to which he said yes. I am feeling like he isn't really making any effort and I am not sure if he is sulking because I went away with out him or just isn't that bothered

Hmm not sure about any of it tbh, will see how it goes to tonight when he comes over I suppose.

How are the rest of you getting on? Folk? Dont? Jarlin?

Hi girliefriend, I was wondering how things were going. You'll probably get a better idea when you see smallfeet tonight, I guess.

I've started writing a book about my experiences and been on two dates. One I didn't fancy, the other I got horrendously drunk but had a kiss and might like him a bit. Not sure.

Still crying for geeky every day and have considered contacting him so many times!

"That woman on OKCupid is stunning. No wonder she's so popular"

She's only 23 years old as well, so she does have youth on her side to help her.

I told toryboy I'd finished chapter 11 about dealing with break ups. He said it sounded dead good and commented that 'your the Sylvia plath of the online dating genre.' He used the wrong your as he knows I hate it. He makes me laugh actually.

Hmm. I think he might like me. I'm an English tutor with a cat named after a romantic literary hero. He works in financial services. He keeps referencing literature in his texts.

dont why don't you give Toryboy a chance? He sounds lovely and I always like someone who makes me laugh.

If he asks me out again I'll go. I think. Hopefully he'll ask.

Well surprise surprise
General chit chat tonight and he says says fancy going into town Fri night I was stunned I'd sorted accepted it was a bit of fwb or heading that way which I'd not have minded , I need to get me sorted as well but it made me smile

That's fab jesy. I hope all continues to go well.

I've been exchanging blunt, sarcastic, pedantic yet flirty texts with Toryboy for the past hour. I do like him. He's clever and I like a sarcastic man. But the only thing that bothers me is that I knew instantly with geeky how I felt about him. I don't know with Toryboy yet.

Date with author and civil servant guy this week too. Hedging my bets. Found a clip geeky uploaded on to YouTube of him playing table tennis. He's v good. The online stalking is unhealthy though, I realise.

dont I know it's hard but try not to google Geeky. It's really hard and I know you like him but it just prolongs the agony...

Trust me until I'd been called names, and missed Kent Lad I googled him too, verging on stalker!

Concentrate on Toryboy and your other dates and the book!

Dont Although you knew instantly how you felt with Geeky, look how that turned out! Give Toryboy a chance. Fwiw he sounds great. Enjoy the other dates too. What sites are you meeting them on? Oh, and stop looking for Geeky online, it'll only serve to prolong the pain trust me, I know.

Jesy Are you going to go? Do you have boundaries set at 'friends' or are you hoping for more? Be careful, we don't want you getting even more hurt.

Girlie Let us know how tonight goes. If you feel like he isn't that interested in making any effort, you're probably right . Listen to your gut instinct.

Dolly Let us know how your dates goes!

I've been exchanging messages with someone on Tinder who's only been on there a few days. After a few messages he sent me one saying 'So what do we do now, do we swap numbers or is that gay?' WTF??! Who says something like that?! I questioned his use of the word and he claimed he meant silly.

MCS has sent me a message asking how my weekend was. Why do these men contact us just enough to keep us dangling but not enough to prove that they're actually interested? He's clearly keeping in touch just enough to try and keep me as an option. I haven't replied and I'm not sure if I'm going to. Wtf would I say anyway?

Exchanged a few messages with Mr Teacher last night, culminating in me telling him to fuck off. Trust me, he deserved it. He's been in touch since but I haven't replied. I'm waiting for an apology, which I doubt I'll get.

Blimey, what did he say Kitty?

Mr Teacher? Well he's another one who's keeping me as an option, so I told him the door was open and he needed to decide whether he was in (my life) or out. He replied that he thought I had a revolving door. Now I'm sure he thought he was being witty as he put a wink with it but I'm sick of his crap and found what he said insulting, so I told him to FO.

"...do we swap numbers or is that gay?' WTF??! Who says something like that?!"

'Gay' has in some places become a word meaning crap/silly. Mainly on the internet.

Well yes, Made but that doesn't make it appropriate to use when you're chatting someone up.

I would find that insulting as well Kitty. Good for you.