This is bastarding shit.

[sillymillyb]

I didn't know where to put this, as it doesn't really belong here or anywhere.

I am so fucking fed up. My wonderful little boy is 2 tomorrow and I'm trying to decorate the flat for him with balloons and banners. There is literally just me and him. There is no one else. I've just texted my sister in law and said seeing as she hasn't even responded to my text I assume she won't be coming to my sons birthday tea tomorrow. She was the only one invited (with my nephews) so there will be just the 2 of us as usual. She cares so little she couldn't even be arsed to text to say she wasn't coming.

My poor son deserves so much, and instead there's just me and him and stupid multi pack of party cups that will do for 10.

I'm so sick of doing everything and having no one. I'm so tired of being alone and letting ds down. I don't know how much more I can take, my son deserves a better life than the one I'm giving him. I just can't do this anymore, and I know I have to, but I can't. It's shit.

The best gift a child can receive is consistent love from the main caregiver. Not parties and loads of random relatives, but those closest to him, rooting for him and saying "you can do it". I can't remember details of any birthday party from childhood, but one of my happiest memories is getting one on one time with my dad after a hospital appt and he bought me a Picnic bar. Big woop. So it's in the unglamorous corners of his wee life that you will make him feel the most loved. The fact that you are fretting and posting about his birthday is the proof that you care deeply enough to give him the best start he needs, so try to think of the long game. And he'll not care tomorrow, still too young!! be brave, it's way worse for you than it is for him.

Ahhhh happy birthday to your little one. Your day sounds fantastic.
I made so much effort for my ds's second birthday and was massively let down by family. It's hard, he doesn't remember it and he had a lovely day anyway.
Enjoy every second if it, I'm sure he will.

Keep posting, if not on this thread elsewhere, maybe lone parents? Because you will get lots of support and even if you feel awful it's somewhere to drop you woes.

You sound a lovely mum.

Plus I've learnt something tonight from this thread- your dc don't have your expectations, so create your own. That goes for you as an individual and your ds. Don't mix the two.

Your mum wasn't helpful, so work on new friends slowly, at nursery and maybe mumsnet meet ups.

You sound lovely, thoughtful and caring.
The best types of mum ever.

Hello OP I just wanted to add to others saying you sound like a very lovely mum. It does get easier I promise. I was a single mum and I remember the sad feeling of not being able to share the funny and lovely things about DS with anyone who cared that much about him as me.
You have a lovely day planned it will be fab to get out and about.
Next week try and go to some baby groups and make some friends for you. Also when my son was little I was better off working part time as I got tax credits which covered childcare. Its a few years ago now so not sure if you would still be better off?
Anyway have a lovely day at the farm with your birthday boy. Hugs

Yes, it can be lonely when the children are little, but the only way you have to go is up. Some lovely advice here, I just wanted to add that children can be very easy to please. My daughter was six when Christmas came around and she wanted Santa to bring her this expensive doll. I could only afford a much cheaper doll but I wrote her a note from Santa apologising for having run out and she was over the moon, as she was the only one of her friends that Santa had written to.

I just wanted to say thank you again for your support last night.

I haven't really slept but ds is up and thrilled with the balloons and his scooter. His peppa pig crayons are also a huge hit!

I've so far sang happy birthday 7 times..... So I think I can see how today is going to pan out

Happy birthday to your little ds! Hope you still have some voice left by lunchtimw :)

Happy birthday little sillymillyb!
(sorry, on app so no cake but the thought is there)

and these are balloons!

Ah! Cake does work!

Happy birthday!

Happy birthday to your DS sillymillyb
Have a great day

Oh cheer up, you are an excellent mum and the perfect one for him! I would have sent your little boy a card if I knew where you are. I am sure he'll have a blast at the farm! Don't forget the party hats! Big hugs xx

Happy birthday MiniSilly

See, SillyMilly lots of people think he's wonderful, and that you're a wonderful mum. I hope you both enjoy your day.

Happy Birthday

Happy 2nd Birthday, littlesillymillyDS

Happy birthday little one! Have a wonderful day out together :)

Hope you and your son have a fantastic day today! Sending love from the chilly NW.

Happy birthday littlesillymillyb! xx

I just wanted to check in and say thank you all so, so much. It means a lot that someone is thinking of us.

If I've done it right, I think I've attached a photo of ds with his balloon in his pjs. He's really happy, so I'm thrilled. Thank you all again, you all have made a real difference x

Happy Birthday! DD is desperate for a scooter, very jealous!

Gorgeous picture! Bless him,

Ah, he is very cute! Happy birthday that him.

For dd's birthday we went to the zoo. We did something we just don't do regularly. Could you do something like that instead? Or go to a play group or a special park to run and climb trees etc? It is upsetting, I can totally relate, but you sound amazing and like to are a brilliant mum.

Happy birthday to him! cutie!

what a gorgeous little boy! He has a lovely mum- have a smashing day x