so I can't go surfing nude yet...

[harrietspy]

Following the incredibly encouraging thread (that I now can't find) about what people have done AFTER leaving crap relationship - a list which involved lots of water, weight loss and nudity ) - I need inspiration for positive tiny things I can do BEFORE leaving, to make me feel less gloomy about spending 20 years with the wrong person.

My marriage is definitely over by mutual consent, but STBX and I are still under the same roof while we work out living arrangements, care of dc etc. When I have weekends without dc I will be surfing in the nude (metaphorically). But for now, who's up for a list of tiny achievable things for the STBNS (soon-to-be-nude-surfers) among us?

Yes to new underwear.

Nice stuff that always matches. Nothing grey or holey.

Think this is the one you mean:
incredibly encouraging

There are some great ideas on your thread too, good luck.

Great thread. I was in the same position for about 2 months:
Be practical - I was going to stay in the house so put all the bills in my name (even if we sell we agreed I was the better one to maintain the house)
If you want to change your name you can get that done so everything from now on is in your new single name
Joined facebook and got in touch with loads of friends
Bought new bedding ready for the big day!
I also agree with the other poster that the gay scene is not scary at all.....start researching some groups for your new free life!!

Have emailed choir to ask about joining and found that there are opportunities to volunteer with a wildlife trust in walking distance from my house...

Wow - quick work! Well done. Sounds like you're going to have a brilliant time!