Trapped. Too skint to leave even with a job.

[SadFreak]

I am very slowly coming to terms with the end of my farce of a marriage.
I posted here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1965271-I-think-I-am-the-only-person-in-the-entire-world-who-does-not-want-sex

I thought I had some kind of plan and have been trying to research making it work but am devestated that its not going to work. Financially I am trapped and I cannot see a way out. I think I am going to have to stay and shut up and put up with his sexual antics.

I have been trawling jobs (as I am a sahm/student) and the maximum I can see myself earning is £15000 a year. That equates to about £1000 a month take home pay.

A shitty 2 bed flat in scumville of the town I need to move to start at £650/700 a month before any bills, food, petrol/bus fares to get to work/school/college. I also have 2 teen dc.

As far as I can see once I get to £16000 I wont get any benefits so even if H pays maintenance for the kids I cannot see a way to make this work.

I feel so sick. I cannot make it work all I can do is carry on in this farce of a marriage and pretend it will all be ok.

Have any other SAHMs managed to get out and survive financially?

Regarding this lump sum, if it's all that you both have in terms of assets, it's a marital asset. You would have to divide it up, or include with all marital assets, such as his pension, the house, car, etc. Or, while married, you could put into your child's account, controlled by you.