He is gone

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I am just home having sat with my wonderful, wonderful grandad as he peacefully slipped away. He was my last surviving older relative and thoroughly terrific person in every way. My Facebook is filled with people, young and old telling me how wonderful he was. He was a total inspiration and the kindest, most positive person. I feel very privileged to be able to call him mine.
I now have to organise yet another funeral with my dsis. I'm not sure how I will ever manage to explain to my dd or my unborn child how fantastic their great grandfather was. He was a brave war veteran, amazing drummer, terrible joke- teller, biscuit eating, loving man and I miss him already.
He had a fabulous life, which I am truly grateful for but will leave a gaping hole in my heart.
I hope there is a heaven and that my mum, aunt and grandma were waiting for him with a cup of tea and a penguin biscuit.

Drama Sorry to hear about your lovely Granda. I have fond memories of his drumming video you linked to on another thread, he really was a very special man. I have no doubt you will keep him alive in your dcs memories by talking about him all the time and the influence he's had on your life. Love like that never fades.

I hope you have lots of support in RL to get you through the next few weeks but remember to look after yourself too x

So sorry about your grandad drama. The love he had for you and your dd will always be with you.

So sorry, drama. You were lucky to have such a special granda. My Dad's Dad was a horror, and my Mum's Dad died when she was six. Your DD and your granda had a very special bond, that's obvious. How amazing that her name (bless her) was the last word that he spoke. Look after yourself and have some from bbf. Lots of love x x

I saw the minister today and started organising the funeral. My cousins didn't come to the flat it was just my Dsis, aunt and I. The boy cousin then complained that he isn't being included. We bloody tried. He was told when the minister could come. It was his decision not to turn up.
He said that midday on a Sunday was an unreasonable time as he wouldn't be up and sober yet.
Moron.
My Dsis found him searching through Granda's things yesterday. He had his war medals in his rucksack and was looking for other things. He said his mum had said he could take whatever he wanted. She will get 50% of the estate, my Dsis and I will equally share my mum's half. He cannot just take things, we surely have to discuss it. But not yet, ffs. Granda is still in the hospital not at the funeral directors yet. It just felt so greedy and grabby. I am personally not worried about getting his things but I am really angry about what he has done. My sister emptied out his rucksack and insisted the things were put back. I think she was close to murdering him. My Dsis is extremely soft-hearted but this tipped her over the edge.

I think you need to tell your Aunt firmly that she must stop distributing the effects belonging to the estate. I'd do a rough inventory so that I knew if anything was missing.

Also keep a very detailed list of every single expence you and your sister have paid, you should be reimbursed from the estate before the remainder is divided.

It looks set to be a hard time for you and your sister, if your cousin's actions are anything to by. One thing I've learnt with funerals, is that whatever you do and however much you stive to please other relatives, someone will always dislike or be unhappy with what you have arranged.
So from the start you might as well do just do what you yourself want, and have the funeral as you would like it, and if others disapprove, that is their problem.

Sending you courage dear drama

Thank goodness your dsis found your cousin [anger] What a disgusting person he is.
I agree with Allalone, your Aunt needs to make it clear that nobody can just take what they like and definitely keep a list of any costs you incur.
I had a huge row with my dad whilst arranging my Granddad's funeral - he decided not to come in the end. I hope things don't end up like that with you but you can't possibly accommodate everyone in times like this, especially if they aren't willing to do anything to help you out.

Drama

I'm a long time lurker on a certain thread and know how special your Granda was, and what a great drummer. So very sorry for your loss. The price of sharing our lives with such wonderful family and friends is the painful void they leave when they've gone. I hope your wonderful memories help to comfort you. Thinking of you

Thinking about you and your family; best wishes! x

Just been up to the hospital to collect the death certificate. Loads of staff stopping us to tell us how wonderful he was.
Now waiting in the biggest queue ever, to register his death.

Hand hold for you, are you with DSis, hope work don't give you hassle.

Hope you are with your sister drama, sending you a hug.

Still waiting...
Yes Dsis and I both took today off. My work were quite crap but as I am the person who has to make the arrangements they had to let me off.
Back in tomorrow, with a school trip to the museum of my Granda's regiment. They are putting up a tribute as he was the the oldest and most decorated veteran left from 1939.
I hope I can hold it together. My class are ace though so I should be fine. They had met him as he has come into school doing various talks and concerts.

Tomorrow's trip sounds very touching. How proud of him you are.

Drama Hope your wait isn't too long today. It's a grim thing to do.
Don't worry if you shed some tears tomorrow- anywhere else would give you a few days off. You are a human being and proud of your Granda. I'm sure your class will understand.

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Granda. I do hope that tomorrow is as manageable as possible for you. Your Granda sounds utterly amazing.

Message from boss that they are expecting me to attend a meeting that they scheduled today for tomorrow after school until 5:45. I will be dead on my feet by then.
The funeral is now all arranged for next Monday. Everything sorted in one day. We are exhausted but at least it is done.
Now to write the eulogy. My Dsis and I are going to speak. We did mum's and mum and I did gran's. I just hope my pregnancy hormones don't leave me a wreck.
I've also had the local paper and the Glasgow Herald on the phone. They are both writing articles about him. Herald's one is now ready to be proof read but my brain can't cope tonight.
My bag is packed for my school trip tomorrow. That will be fun!

Your boss is being a tad thoughtless there Drama. I hope you manage the day ok and don't worry if there are some tears you're only human not a machine.

I don't know if it has become national news about another private school in my area. My experience and from what I hear from friends is that all the private schools in the area treat their staff in a similar manner.

Drama I'm so very sorry to read your news. They way you've written about him really showed what a wonderful character he was and so highly regarded by those that met him. I too loved the film you posted of him drumming.
Easier said than done I know, but rest when you can.

I am so sorry for your loss. He does sound wonderful!
Cherish your memories

I'm sorry to hear of your Grandad's passing, Drama. He sounds like a lovely man who touched the lives of everyone he met.

I second Purple's sentiment about your boss.

Do try to get some rest when you're able to. My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm sure when you come to put pen to paper you'll have plenty of happy memories to recall.

Have been thinking about you all day, wondering how your trip went. I hope it wasn't distressing, in fact I hope it brought you comfort to see and hear how much valued and admired your Grandpa was.

I'm sorry to hear that your school are not being sympathetic, beggars belief really.

Try to rest and eat, take care.

Good luck with the meeting drama, you could hardly help this event so I hope your school doesn't use it as a stick to beat you with.

Hope the trip was not too draining.

Have been thinking of you too today. Hope the trip went as well as it could.

I would love to tell your school to f* off. My school (state) were fab when my Granddad died. It made something very difficult a little bit easier. I wasn't even a teacher either.