Can you say one thing that your DP does that is completely unnecessary but makes your day that bit better?

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Mine is tea in bed. Everyday. Didn't know I liked tea that much but would really miss it if he didn't do it.

Lie in whilst he take DS downstairs pretty much every Saturday. He wakes me up with a coffee and bacon sammich.

'Sneaks' out of the room to get dressed in the morning. Blows both DS and I a kiss so he doesn't wake us.

Lovely thread.

He gets up with DS on a Sunday, then brings me a mug of tea when he knows I am awake.
He buys me various irish bread products when he has an appointment near a big supermarket eg wheaten, soda farls, plain bread. He surprises me with them when he gets home - not all supermarkets sell them, or are sold out quickly.
He makes me cups of tea without being asked during the evenings and weekends.
He does all the washing up.
He fills my car for me if I ask.
He makes me feel loved.

So many rubbish husband stories on relationships. Understandable, obviously. So nice though to near about wonderhusbands! May I add Saturday morning pancakes with cuppa in bed whilst cooking?

I give him a lift to the station every morning. He ALWAYS texts to say thank you for the lift. I love that he's still so polite

He looks after me and when we are watching TV in the evening basically waits on me - getting drinks, sorting the fire out etc etc

He is the kindest man I ever met

And when I pick him up from the station in the evening, the smile he gives when he sees me - it's like he's so happy that I'm there. Like it's a surprise to him every night!

I picked him up from his works Christmas do and he made me go in for a drink. He was a bit tipsy and when he introduced me he kept saying "This is MY girlfriend! Look at her! She's MY girfriend. Isn't she lovely?" to all his colleagues

So so many more. I'm very lucky

My dh is a love.
He gets up with dd
Makes me a cuppa
Fills my hot water bottle if I'm cold
Kisses my forehead when he thinks I'm asleep in a morning
Randomly hugs me
Always saying he loves his girls (me, dd and bump who is another girly)
Puts up with my moods
This is a lovely thread

Makes me a pot of coffee even though he doesn't drink it.
Never offers to "help" with housework, just does the stuff that needs doing.
Constantly thinks of ways to make me laugh.
Puts the fire on because I am always freezing.

Well, I think you should all definitely LTB!

Seriously, I have warm fuzzies inside just reading these. Lovely on a cold wintry day.

Wow thanks all, lovely thread, it's made me cry. Have been wobbling about going back to my violent ex but reading this has made me realise you are all loved & respected & I deserve that! DS1 (11) makes me a coffee every morning, just got to train him to add sugar

DH sets the coffee machine every evening, ready for morning. He doesn't even drink coffee.

Weed :o

I remember not believing relationships like these existed when I was with xh.

Now I have a wonderful dh, and I would never compromise for anything less than love and respect ever again.

Don't settle for a crap relationship when there are so many amazing men out there :)

And being alone is always better than being with a wrong 'un.

fuckyou thanks

It does feel like nice, decent men don't exist at the moment. Stbxh is a grade 10 bastard but the only other who has shown any interest since I left was a grade 8 so I cut that out. It would take one of these ^ to get my barriers down but at least there's hope they exist and I'm working hard to make sire my ds's treat their dp's well in the future.

No problem, weed :)

Showing your ds's that you won't tolerate poor treatment is probably the best lesson you could give them on how to treat women.

My first relationship post my grade 10 bastard, was with about a grade 6 :)

If you keep following the pattern then look up "the freedom programme", it's helped lots of people break the cycle.

And don't settle for anything less than someone who makes you feel good about yourself in every sense of the word :)

Since I got PG, my husband has brought me breakfast in bed every morning. He's fab in general anyway but this is something I will always remember. xx

Ahhh..hippymama that's lovely!

I am in very early pregnancy at the moment and am CONSTANTLY hungry and tired...breakfast/lunch/dinner in bed sounds amazing!

My dh is great. We both work full time but he finishes earlier than me so does all the housework, laundry and cooking. I love coming home and asking what is for dinner that night. He also cook me different meals to him and the kids because I don't eat red meat so he'll do me a veggie option of bolognaise or whatever he is cooking.

Not completely unnecessary, but when he gets up at stupid o'clock for work he will put on a load of washing and drying, fold the dry load he took out and put away yesterday's washing up from the drainer. Probably have a wee tidy round too. Makes a big difference as he used to lay in bed until the last possible second.

What gorgeous DHs you all have

This is such a lovely thread

DH is just the definition of considerate. He brings me tea and breakfast in bed at the weekends, including putting milk for cereal in a jug so that it doesn't go soggy if I want to doze for a bit.
And he arranges secret date nights out of the blue
And he kisses my bump and tells it how lucky it is that I'm doing such a good job looking after it
If I get caught at work, he has dinner waiting for me when I get home, with candles on the tables and a 'starter' of slices of cheese cut into hearts on crackers!
When he has to go away for work, he leaves me a note on my pillow telling me how much he loves me and misses me (although he copied that one from me )

If he comes to bed after me, he always gives me a cuddle (somehow I know even if I'm dead to the world). If we go to bed together he does the same. And he lets me put my cold feet on his legs to warm them up... In fact he'll always try to warm me up if I'm cold.

And he makes a beeline for DD when he gets home from work, which is nice for all of us as they get time together and I get a break!

This thread has made me both happy and sad. I realise that I spend all my time doing nice considerate things for my DH. But I don't get much in return - massive overblown gestures or gifts every so often. But no little things that says he loves me. Certainly zero help around the house without being begged. How do you make a man see? He's an only child and his mum has done everything for him since he was born, and now obviously I do it all instead. He just doesn't see it. :(

Gets up with dc and gives them breakfast
Cup of tea in the morning
Makes me a hot water bottle if I'm cold
Lots of cuddles and always holds my hand when we go out.

Takes kids swimming on Sunday morning so I get a long lie.

He eats my cooking without complaint.

Lots of things. He is a good un.

Such a lovely thread.

My DH constantly tells me how proud he is of me for bagging my dream job, even though it means I'm always tired and he is picking up all the slack housework wise.

I have a tendency to fall asleep on the sofa in the evenings. I always wake up the next morning in bed, because he has carried me to bed and put my pyjamas on, being careful not to wake me.

think I will get a divorce now!! you ladies are so lucky

Lots of lovely things, including tea in the mornings.

Last week he sent me flowers - the card said "Happy January".

I'm very lucky. And so is he :)