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Can you say one thing that your DP does that is completely unnecessary but makes your day that bit better?

200 replies

Whatnamenext · 18/02/2014 22:42

Mine is tea in bed. Everyday. Didn't know I liked tea that much but would really miss it if he didn't do it.

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GuyMartinsSideburns · 22/01/2015 10:03

This is a lovely thread Smile

Dh lets me go up the stairs before him when we go to bed so the 'thing' doesn't chase me Blush We're in the process of buying a house with a downstairs bathroom and he's promised he'll come with me in the night when I need a wee Grin

Leaves me milk and coffee ready in my mug by the kettle

Gets up with baby ds at the crack of dawn so I can sleep til 7, feeds him and gets him ready for school run

Surprises me with random presents - recently it's been a bottle of fancy bubble bath and a copy of mcn!

Gives me lovely rubs

Swaps sides of the bed with me if I have a headache or can't sleep (don't know why this works but it does)

Proper loves my lovely grandad and likes hanging out with him Smile

Is the most patient, caring and supportive man I've ever met. I love him millions

GoldfishSpy · 22/01/2015 10:12

Puts a glass of squash in the baby's room every night because he knows I get thirsty when bf.
Makes tea for me if he's up first
Clears up after me when I've messed up the kitchen ( again) and never complains
Makes the bed and turns down the corner on my side
Puts my electric blanket on
Defrosts my car if it has been frosty so it is toady for me when I am ready to leave

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 22/01/2015 10:16

He doesn't work away so much now, but when he did he phoned me every single night. I have basically spoken to him at least once a day since we met, no matter where he's been. In pre-mobile days, this was a Big Thing.

He always goes out for the takeaway. We've lived in this house 3 years and I'm still not exactly sure where the 'good' chippie is.

Sugarfreeriot · 22/01/2015 10:39

Gets up in the morning and sorts dd out before I'm even out of bed then goes to work.
5* for him on that one.

Sugarfreeriot · 22/01/2015 10:41

flourishing I too am lucky enough to have a dp who does the willy dance. Highly entertaining.

IrianofWay · 22/01/2015 12:55

A cup of tea in bed at the weekend. And then he gets up and takes our DD to the stables every week even though I am the morning person and he is NOT!

And he always scrapes the windscreen for me when it's frosty.

PuddingLlama · 22/01/2015 13:13

This thread has properly cheered me up on a bad day! It's so easy to forget how lovely our OH's are.

Mine does lots of little things but my main thing is that he lays on my side of the bed and has a good wiggle around whilst I'm in the bathroom getting ready so my side is all toasty warm when I get in to go to sleep. :)

KikiShack · 22/01/2015 13:45

So many lovely men and women here.
Mine is a complete superstar in everything, really listens to and respects my opinion even if he disagrees with it. He doesn't mind that I refuse to learn to drive so he always has to be the sober/awake one.
He is so soft and gentle with DD and is consciously making up for the first year of breastfeeding by soothing her at night now so I can stay asleep.
Lots of silly things like always leaving me the last crisp, remembering I eat puddings with a teaspoon and always jokingly giving me a teaspoon for soup (but having a soup spoon ready too ). He doesn't make me tea first thing because we wake up together and he likes snuggling DD while she feeds but everything he does he just makes it very clear that he's thinking of me. And he is genuinely upset with himself when he gets it wrong. I wouldn't change him for anything or anyone.

isseywithcats · 22/01/2015 19:01

randomly for no reason brings me in a huge box of dairy milk when he comes in from work yum yum

MyrnaLoy · 22/01/2015 20:57

He goes to work much earlier than me so he leaves me a little tray set out with coffee things (and part fills the kettle so I just flick the switch).

He turns down my side of the bed while I have my bath (and always checks I have a drink for the night).

He fills my hot water bottle (that's a biggie!)

He has a special smile that I know he only gives to me. And a gentler tone of voice that I only ever hear him use when he speaks to me.

If I have a bad dream he wakes up long enough to cuddle me until I feel ok again.

I operate a complex bowl system and he always remembers to serve the right thing in the bowl I like it in.

This is such a nice thread!

offside · 22/01/2015 21:19

Mine gets up with our 5 month old as soon as is she is awake, whether that be 430am or 730am so I can have a lie in as I am the one who gets up through the night (breastfeeding)

When I do get up, he has tea and toast waiting for me.

As I'm on a diet, he doesn't bring me sweet treats anymore (on my orders) so he brings me flowers every week.

He also always covers me with a blanket if I fall asleep on the sofa.

There's many many many things he does, too many to mention. He's just amazing.

LittleMouseontheDairy · 22/01/2015 22:31

Agree this is a sweet thread. Although I always thought DP was so amazing and unique for being so kind and thoughtful and now I realise it's not THAT amazing! Grin

Ah, where to start. My mum and sister take the piss because I struggle to think of annoying things to say about him. I come up with things like 'sometimes when we're tidying the house before guests arrive he will prioritise the wrong areas. 'Darling who is going to be looking at the carpets in the attic?! Do the bathroom...'
But basically he's another 'cup of tea in morning before he leaves' man. He gets up with DS. He tidies every evening when he gets back. He meal plans with me and cooks. He tells me and loves me every day and SHOWS me this with the small gestures.
We're getting married soon and he's done masses of planning ok not totally perfect we have had some tetchy conversations about the guest list and today he organised the fireworks which is the bit I'm excited about the most! Grin

nousernamesleft · 22/01/2015 22:37

My wonderful dh got up at 5.30 the other morning specifically to defrost my car before I took dd1 to her competition at 6.
And he left a coffee in my travel mug in the cup holder for me to find.

TitchyThings · 22/01/2015 22:40

Quietly holds my hand sometimes when we're watching the telly.

Wigeon · 22/01/2015 22:42

I hate hate hate getting in a cold bed at this time of year, so DH gets in on my side before me, in order to warm it up, then rolls over to his side. Which he started doing of his own accord because he knew I didn't like a cold bed.

popcornpaws · 23/01/2015 00:15

Brings me coffee in a thermos mug when he picks me up from work, even although the drive home is 10mins, because he knows I'm always "gasping" for a coffee.

Foolishlady · 23/01/2015 00:23

who ever doesn't cook is meant to do the dishes, but most of the time when he cooks who does the dishes too. I hate doing dishes!

Foolishlady · 23/01/2015 00:24

He does the dishes, not who!

livingzuid · 23/01/2015 00:33

Ah nice thread :)

Has done night shift with seven months old dd since she came out of hospital so I could sleep. Even when working.

Gives me amazing face massages as I carry so much tension in my jaw to help me relax.

Does all the cooking and makes me hot chocolate with marshmallow every night without fail to help me sleep.

Takes the dog out (we have a fifth floor apartment!)

Is the best dad I've ever seen. I gain so much pleasure seeing how close the two of them are and how much he loves his daughter :)

There are more things but that's my highlights so far.

savemefromrickets · 27/01/2015 03:56

He's a brilliant hand holder and cuddler. It feels sexy and safe. Now I'm having cancer treatment he will lie with me in the evening when my worries come pouring out and him being just being there makes it all ok.

He's also so encouraging after operations. His massive grin when I manage something new for the first time post-op, like putting on underwear or brushing my hair, is the best sight. It stops me from feeling so helpless and frustrated. It must be what it's like to be a toddler whose parent delights in every achievement.

I love him so much.

FoxgloveFairy · 27/01/2015 04:27

This is a few years ago. Went out to see a movie with friends one night and himself stayed in. He watched a soppy program about an elderly couple on the tv. The husband died. A while later, the lady fell at home and broke her hip. When neighbors knocked on the door, not having seen her for a couple of days, and asked if she was okay, through the door, she said she was fine. She chose to join her husband. When I came out of the cinema, there was a very soppy dh who had come to pick me up, because he had come over all soppy! Last week, I wasn't feeling great one day. He came home with my fave ice cream. Lots, really. Love him.

notonyourninny · 27/01/2015 04:40

Dh is currently making me tea, ive been ill for 4 days, have a fever and hacking cough.

BigCatFace · 27/01/2015 05:32

Makes me coffee every morning, after his night shift. Tells me he loves me multiple times a day. Has been utterly amazing throughout this pregnancy. When we went to hospital for reduced movements (grim and scary) he made me laugh so much I spat water over the floor.

Jengnr · 27/01/2015 05:38

Every night I go to bed first. Every night he brings me a drink so when I wake up thirsty (always) it's there.
I'm pg at the moment and he is very considerate of what I might want to eat, the fact I'm knackered and sick a lot and he cooks for us.
He adores our son and gets up with him at weekends just to spend time with him.
He baths our son much more than I do because he likes it and I don't much.
He brings me flowers and wine (Schloer atm) just because.
He filled the fridge with different kinds of chocolate last week because I felt like some.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 27/01/2015 08:06

He goes to bed when I do, even when he'd rather stay up, just so he doesn't disturb me later and we can snuggle.

He comes and sits with me and we chat about everything and anything.

He gives me foot and backrubs whenever he has the opportunity:

He brings me tea and breakfast in bed every morning and sorts the DCs and takes them to school.

He hugs me whenever we pass each other.

He looks at me like I'm the only woman in the world, even though I'm carrying a lot of baby weight, don't fit into any of my clothes so am constantly big and baggy, look knackered from feeding all night and am far from looking my best.

He sends me nice messages when he's at work, just of things he thinks I'd be interested in or to let me know he loves me.

He makes me feel safe and secure, I think this but might be witchcraft.

He goes for a run every morning with the dog, so I wake up to breakfast and a calm dog.

He's just utterly lovely. We love doing things for each other. And he never makes me feel like he does things to get something back. He does it all to see me smile. He says my smile is his favourite thing.