The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wading Through Winter Blues Without The Booze!

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I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU.

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you. And of course all addictions, so if you are taking drugs of any kind, prescription or otherwise, you're very welcome here too!

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's all in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always. :)

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST EVER THREAD

And the most recent so you can work your way back through time IS JUST HERE

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that YOU seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

Mouse xxx

Put me on the list "I'm" but I'll have to start tomorrow.
12 days until the black tie business awards - gulp! Could do with dropping pound or two before the big night.
I'm go anywhere. Anywhere away from him. Its not for ever if you don't like it. Just do it.
My mother finally, finally, left my abusive and controlling father after 23 years of marriage. He refused to let us take anything so we left in the clothes we stood up in and rebuilt from there.
You can do it!

spannathankyou ignore beaches shes only showing off..... She knows I'm jealous of her snow and I'd love to shovel it

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ma thanks I'm going to bring a few things together this next two days like my pets etc and then its just lock my door and leave ?

YES! Take the kids, the pets, photos, documents, and special cuddly toys which make the dcs feel safe.
The rest doesn't matter unless it is a momento of special memory to you. Leave it all. Leave it. Take your dcs and run and rebuild..you WILL rebuild, it can be done. Number one priority is the safety of you and your dcs. Toys, bedding, furniture, its just stuff. When we left dad we slept on the floor the first fdew nights as we didn't even have beds. We didn't care. We were away from dad.

I'm please listen to me. You are strong. You are awesome. You deserve better. Leave the stuff, pack what you can carry and run. Fucking run and be safe. If you come to scotland I can help you.

Luffs ya ma and I'm definitely Listening to you because you've touched a nerve tonight, hearing from your view as a kid I think my kids are ok but maybe their not

just checking in.

I'm - good luck babe. Do what ma says- she's absolutely right. x

faire, yes, possibly

I was a twat and flounced when miflaw was advising abstinence rather than controlled drinking. He wasn't even directing it at me (think it might have been to joey). But it hit a nerve and I thought I knew better, ie that controlled drinking was still an option. Anyway, I've pretty much proved him right so now I'm back. Oops. And this time I want to stop. Scares me though...

I like the list, gives me something to focus on

So day 1 done. Has earl grey with lavender tonight, not tempted to drink. I know the wine witch will come a-calling soon enough though...

Hope everyone's ok this evening, still trying to catch up on thread background

Ah, good old MIFLAW

Yes, he did rub a few people up the wrong way. No bedside manner there

Evening, tis me, Mouse

Im - it is time sweetheart. You have planned this mentally for a long time, so put one foot in front of the other now that you are ready...... PLEASE, you have to do this and now.

You're Brave, Strong, and a Babe!

It's time xxx

Hello to everyone else...

I'll be back tomorrow after an update on how you've all been! Sorry to have been of no support.

Be brave and be strong.

Night,

Mouse xxx

X thanks for sharing strength with me x its helping me a huge bundle to feel strong to do this your all like my little family on here now weather you like it or not in fact from now on I'm going to call you all my sister babes cos I haven't got any family

Demented sister I am then I'm
Can anyone tell me why MN has gone into weird tiny layout on my tablet? I can't see all the posts anymore. What have I done

dementedma sister don't know about your table honey sorry, turn it off and on again never fails

a song from the Beu Brave Babe Sisters

Would all babes practise it please and I will schedule a rehearsal for 6pm this evening.

Ma you can leave your triangle alone.

That reminds me, Ladame are you out there lurking? Come and say hello.

Calling all babes ...

Im in our house we say "Offenonnit" when something won't work. It's become a verb, like "Have you tried offenonnitting it?"

I can't open the link faire but I'll give my triangle a quick rub just in case....

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Hi Faire I am out here lurking, could you hear me scrabbling in my patch? Ma don't overwork your triangle babe! Hello to all babes, I'm not around much these days and when I am I'm mainly in the side car, I'm finding my job stressful, but I do have at least three days off a week, it seems to work ok for me at the moment. I like the feeling of a babes sistahood - I will always be one, even from a distance. Love and light to you all from across the sea x

Aha! I knew I'd catch you giving your veg patch a good going over Ladame

Are you getting this hideous weather like the rest of us, or are you south enough to get a glimpse of sunshine? Good to hear the job's going ok. Keep in touch x

Hi Faire - yes, you caught me wandering around my patch!! Yes, we have had a few sunny days (I'm in the South-West), but very very wet all the rest of the time. My job is stressful but I'm enjoying it. Had my girl home from Uni for a couple of weeks and she went back yesterday and I miss her a lot, so for a couple of days I'm a bit low.

That said, I'm in awe of babes who are going through bad times and coping so well. I can't namecheck everyone, but I'm, Why and Rural and Babyjane fabulous babes, I hope things start to get better soon. Why my heart hurts for you everytime you have a set back. It's not fair, you are a very strong lady and I send you all good thoughts.

I keep up with each and every one of you and all your posts. I'm in the background a bit, but still here x

Hello Babes faire, ma, venus, beaches and everyone

Trying to stick to only drinking at weekends. Told DH he has to stop buying gin, or hide it. DD being a pain. Sneaked her phone into bed, and afterwards claimed I'd imagined it because I'd had too much to drink. (Half-true)

Well! I've noticed that at 15:54:39 ma disappeared off to 'polish her triangle' [ahem!!] what on earth is going on here?

I'm if your dc are struggling with what to take - let them take two best things - one for each hand. When I left my abusive ex 'one for each hand' was one of our best phrases - it applied to chocolate buttons, and carrying bags of shopping home, and magic shells from the beach. It was about sharing the load and only taking as much as you could carry. Worked for us for years.

ma (this is in complete confidence)... I'm just curious, there seems to have been a lot of 'northern lights' sky stuff going on recently. Everyone attributes that to the aurora borealis, but, maybe it is something to do with the polishing of your triangle. Cam you confirm?