The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wading Through Winter Blues Without The Booze!

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I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU.

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you. And of course all addictions, so if you are taking drugs of any kind, prescription or otherwise, you're very welcome here too!

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's all in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always. :)

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST EVER THREAD

And the most recent so you can work your way back through time IS JUST HERE

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that YOU seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

Mouse xxx

< snigger >

venus

Quick check in, day 1 of my DM almost done but its been sooo hard.
Be back laterXX

What is up with you girls? [head-flouncey-thing] I have asked a simple question - in confidence I might add. and you are all going off giggly and sniggering. ...shush!

I am GENUINELY interested in the electro magnetic force, and I am wondering how ma's rubbed triangle influenced the forces across central Scotland. Is there something funny about that?

No miss.

I know we're all joshing here, but I'm look back at the previous page and know how much we are all supporting you.

And rural everyone on here understands how tough it is. It doesn't matter whether we have been sober for one day or 10 days or a million years, we all remember the first week, and we are still all only one drink away from throwing it all away.

That makes us all very close. I think

ma said she went to polish her triangle. No mention of rubbing it! That's geniis and lamps you're thinking of.

dementedma Sun 02-Mar-14 15:54:39

I can't open the link faire but I'll give my triangle a quick rub just in case....

Mind you joey no-one will be more surprised than ma if a genie pops out of it

'There once was a Bus full of Babes
Who drank on alternate or each or each days
They knew they should stop
Always gave it a pop
But there was something that made that drink stay!'

Seriously Babes, YOU are the only ones who can get a true hold on your drinking and moving from one RL friend to another has helped me massively understand my urge/need to drink.

I love the way that I can see the way that my past has screwed me over and it won't happen again.

I am very pernickety and would smash the plan, to suit my needs. No more.

It can be done, regardless of what is going on around you in your everyday life....

Be BRAVE and stay BRAVE

Night Babes xxx

Venus that's comforting, its given me something a bit nice to say to them x thanks sister venus

And ma still hasn't returned ..... how bigs her triangle ?

Thought I was at the end of the thread.... I clearly wasn't

Shocked by the bawdiness on this bus today. I have had a busy weekend and come back to this triangle-themed toilet humour. Can hear you all cackling like Sid James in Carry on Babes On the Buses. (cue 70's title sequence).

Evening all

Day 2 done, was horrid. Didn't want a drink but was neurotic and snappy and upset and (if I'm to be completely honest) verging on (fantasy) suicidal for a while. Not to do with drinking, just unbearable levels of stress.

I thought I'd try to pass off the not drinking as giving up for lent. Mentioned it to my FIL and he begged not to give up this year "for everybody's sake". Um thanks. And he's teetotal because he used to abuse alcohol. Helpful.

But it has sort of passed and I'm in bed with tea and just one sleeping pill so hopefully tomorrow will be better.

Im you are getting such amazing support here and you completely deserve it. I know you don't know me, but I'm rooting for you too.

Well done penguin, tea and bed sounds like a good plan. I'm off too now.

Night all x

This surely is a nutty bus

Tired and tempted BUT NOT DRINKING. Having a square of 90% chocolate and a cup of tea instead. Then an early night.

Thinking of you all xxx

Been up all night with anxiety dreams about work. Meant to go in early to get a head start but worn out now and couldn't make myself get up. So sick of this...

looking poor you. Are you getting any help for the sleeping issues/anxiety?

I have massive stress/anxiety and can't sleep, doc gave me some lovely zolpidem and although I don't take them regularly, I can always tell when it's going to be a bad night and generally they sort me out if I take one.

I have Citalopram Penguin, which helps, but we are all feeling it at work at the moment.. Our staff survey showed the worst scores ever for our department. Like ANNE, am sole breadwinner and our unit has been under review on and off for about 4 years now...since the election in fact..

OK. I know it's not very exciting in the scheme of things, but Grrrr!

It's enough to drive a woman to drink!

All of a sudden I feel overwhelmed and want to drink I carnt coap is how I feel ahhh I'm frustrated and angry and full of every emotion seems to want to pop up now about my 16 years with him iv buried it all FFS stay there ... Not now its not the right time

I don't want to drink I feel so stressed out tonight

Day 17

I'm you've got 2 big things going on in your life at the moment - one is dealing with him, and one is dealing with drink.

For years, and years, the two went together. You drank to deal with him, and drinking weakened your defences against him. So it is not a surprise that both things are hitting you together.

OF COURSE you feel angry, and hurt, and frustrated, and let down, and .... oooh every other range of emotions. Of course you do. So, if now is not the right time to let it all surface, then what can you do with it? write some of the words down - the words that you feel (however horrible and sweary), then put the, away for another time.

And use the energy that comes from your anger or fears, and USE it. Use it to drive your move t a new place, use it to take your dc to a safe place, use it to run from him, and to run from drink.

I know, and you know, that having a drink now would do the opposite of what you want. It would make you more susceptible to letting him back into your life, it would weaken you, it would take you back onto that treadmill that you're RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF breaking away from. God, I know, breaking away is scary, and I know that my default position in a scary situation was to have a drink. But that's not going to work is it?

So what can you do? Do all the other things that distract you, or satisfy your urges. Eat. Drink water or juice or tea. Speak to a friend on the phone, knit, do a jigsaw, masturbate, anything, ANYTHING to keep you happy and occupied and guilt free.

Excellent post venus, absolutely my thoughts, I nodded along with each words typed and put so fantastically! You are a star and we're very lucky to have you on this journey with us :) x

Great post Venus. I'm, we are all with you. Day 17 babe, come on, how fabulous are you getting to day 17 with all you are coping with? Keep posting, we are all rooting for you (raises bottle of cranberry and lemonade in salute)