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How old we're you when you lost your big V

139 replies

Flowerybitch · 10/02/2014 20:39

I was 14 and when I look back now I was soo young but thought I knew everything, lasted 2 minutes and really not all it was cracked up to be. Has anyone got any horror stories about their first time they would like to share :-)

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TheOnlySeven · 10/02/2014 23:24

16, he was my ex-boyfriends brother Blush

Mrswellyboot · 10/02/2014 23:27

Nearly 19

Regretted it. Was romantic but the wrong person. Parents found out and gave me loads of grief. Dad called me a tart. I was mortified.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 10/02/2014 23:40

Erm... a bit younger than you lot... oh dear! Blush

It was great though, only calmed down with my now DH at 21, bit of a rampant rabbit having a grand old time until him tbh! Grin

CheerfulYank · 10/02/2014 23:47

19, was terrible.

sykadelic15 · 10/02/2014 23:54
  1. No blood or anything (broke my hymen years prior in a schoolyard accident ... oh the pain then!). He claimed i didn't tell him I was a virgin... obviously saying "It's my first time" multiple times is SO confusing. Nothing to write home about... just a "get it done" situation.
Pregnantberry · 11/02/2014 00:11

I had just turned 17, with someone I didn't know very well at a house party. Blush we did get together and stayed together for about 18 months as a result.

LosingItSlowly · 11/02/2014 00:23

Discounting childhood non-consensual stuff, I was 21 when first became an active participant, with a 58 year old (because I didn't know how to say no yet). Confused

Regret it a lot, felt used/dirty, and the guy was a jerk. Had better times since then thankfully. Smile

Mrswellyboot · 11/02/2014 00:30

Ah losing it, you have been through too much. :( good to hear that things are better now.

LadyFlumpalot · 11/02/2014 00:39
  1. Was shit. Wish I'd waited.
LosingItSlowly · 11/02/2014 00:41

Thanks Mrswellyboot Smile

Nancery · 11/02/2014 00:51

Another 14 (but nearly 15!) here too. Now I'm the ripe old age of 39 I think this is awful, FAR too young, but at the time we'd been together nearly a year and luffed each other.
It was on a stage too Blush to the sound of my stepsister trying to play Chopsticks on a piano....

Notafoodbabyanymore · 11/02/2014 01:05

26 to my husband on our wedding night. Glad I waited, but first time was very painful - I screamed like a banshee, but when he repeatedly asked if he should stop, I shouted (half laughing) "no, just do it!"

We still laugh about it now. Even though it hurt, I loved it.

StrawberryTartYum · 11/02/2014 01:18

18 anf drunken ONS ... Set a pattern for the next few years unfortunately!

motherofallhangovers · 11/02/2014 02:36

14, with my BF. We'd been together about 4 months IIRC, we stayed together a year. It was within a loving relationship with someone my age

No regrets.

LettertoHermioneGranger · 11/02/2014 04:03

19, after being with the boyfriend a year. Regret it immensely, it was terrible. Relationship ended soon after and met now-DP within 6 months. Our first time together was amazing, he was so romantic and caring and it was a wonderful experience. It probably hurt more initially than the first time had, as DP, er, has a lot more to him than exbf had, but he took such care to be gentle and attentive it was better than any one time with exbf (which were often painful, not for size reasons).

I really, truly wish I had waited until I found DP. I felt like I 'had to' lose it when I did, even though I knew the relationship wouldn't last. I didn't know what being in love really was until I met DP, or even true desire. I barely waited a week with DP, it never would have taken a year to 'work up' to it, I didn't realize how right it would feel when I did find the right person.

Kiwiinkits · 11/02/2014 04:24

14 on Guy Fawkes night. He was my boyfriend. Was underwhelming but no regrets.

bragmatic · 11/02/2014 06:55
  1. He was a nice boy. Probably still is. Glad I didn't wait for DP, we met when I was 31!
Lozcat86 · 11/02/2014 07:06

21 with someone I'd met on a plane on the way back from a work experience trip to Oz. We went out to the movies day after we got back and had sex in his car in the woods - comfy! Hmm we saw each other for a few months but it was just a sex thing for him. Then got with my now DH been together 5 years married for 1 and have a beautiful 15 week old DD.

Bumbolina · 11/02/2014 07:21
  1. Club 18-30s rep. Was fun but wish I'd waited for something special rather than fun.
Sweetpea33 · 11/02/2014 08:51

13 unfortunately, with a 17 year old and I just thought I should as 'everyone else' was doing it! Hurt so much that I 'bucked him off' after a few seconds. Next time I was 16 and it was with a 'proper' long term boyfriend - loads better.

Sweetpea33 · 11/02/2014 08:56

Oh - and it was in a garden shed!

nulgirl · 11/02/2014 08:59

14 with my first love. He was gorgeous, kind and adored me. I have no regrets except the fact that I dumped him 6 months later as I thought he was dull and too nice. I should have stayed with him as we were great together and he was worth so much more than the bad boys that I subsequently went out with for the next few years.

LoreleisSecret · 11/02/2014 09:01

13 with a really nice guy !

BeetlebumShesAGun · 11/02/2014 09:07

15 with a guy I was totally obsessed with, and had dumped my nice caring boyfriend to have a chance with. Straight after he disappeared downstairs for an hour. When I got home the next day it became apparent he had gone downstairs to send me an email dumping me! Learned my lesson!

bopoityboo3 · 11/02/2014 09:09
  1. on my wedding night it was just about perfect. So glad I waited for DH and didn't do it with one of the many bad boys I dated in my teens.