The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Santa maybe he could call you tomorrow to get the address, I wouldn't like to text my address. Is it that you feel pressured to invite him over? you don't sound too sure to me just yet. Also you said you weren't sure if you really fancied him, I'd personally have another 'neutral' date in your position. Really though, it boils down to what you are comfortable with.

santa just send it tomorrow, if he says anything just say 'Oh yes, sorry I forgot'

Too late I've already asked him. Have just spoken to him on the phone about which films to bring and I feel a bit more relaxed hearing his voice again. I hope he doesn't think he can can stay over though because I'm not ready for that. Will just have to throw him out at the end of the evening

Do I want to meet a 22 year old in a hotel tonight ....... NOPE!

That's good that you feel more relaxed Santa, remember you are under no obligation, it's your home. Enjoy the evening

Got home late from work to find 2 Valentine cards from Mr Sweet. Does anyone else think this is too intense? I haven't even had the date yet!! Im beginning to go off him TBH.

Hi all well I am glowing post Valentines day

So we braved the weather and went out for dinner last night, a very nice pub out in the country. Smallfeet had arranged for a big bunch of flowers to be waiting there for me quite possibly the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me Had a lovely evening and night.

He ended up briefly meeting my dd and my mum when he came to pick me up. Mum liked him (he bought her chocolates ) my dd was less impressed and announced this morning that she hates me having a boyfriend Am hoping she will come round....

Blimey you guys really sound in the swing of things. So spoke with Mr Scottish accent last ( was having stupid reservations about the accent) but he sound lovely, we chatted for ages and has been texting me this morning, up shot we have arranged to meet tomorrow night eeek., I am so new to this and bloody terrified. Been out of the dating game for 20 years. Don't what to wear how to behave.

It feels really weird to be messaging multiple men at once even though I know they are doing the same!

Glad it isn't just me that gets nervous - even someone giving me their number panics me.

I just worry that I will arrange to meet someone and they will be disappointed that I don't come across as I do on line - I am so much shyer in real life!

ofg I am doing the same, I think it is the name of the game, I will stop if I meed someone special. And I know exactly what you mean about them being disappointed, on the phone I am great, but get very nervouse f2f. Lack of practice probably

"Got home late from work to find 2 Valentine cards from Mr Sweet. Does anyone else think this is too intense?"

Seems a bit OTT at this stage. Generally I always try to veer on the side of seemingly not giving a damn, rather than going overboard with the romance early on.

lizzie re valentines cards, hoe did he get your address if you have not met him yet? hope he is not a stalker.

Yes!! mademan Intense or what! Jeez! I'm veering on 'light and breezy' Lol!

My date is tonight, so I will let you know how I get on. He may be lovely and Im worrying about nothing. Trouble is, with Mr Cute still around, it's hard to concentrate on this date! Argggg!

girlie How lovely! Why does your mum hate you having a boyfriend??

blossomflowers we have a mutual friend, who gave him my address. The trouble is, she has been telling him all about me, including Mr Cute, so now I cannot hide the fact I have been seeing someone recently, so I will have to come clean!

Regarding shyness and being nervous, most people will overlook these things early on as they'll probably be feeling the same and they won't notice. As long as you can talk to your date and don't clam up then you'll be fine.

@Lizzie Oh no, I hate it when other people get involved in my business; what else has your friend been telling him? It gets my back up when people know more information about me than I've given them and they start asking questions about stuff I haven't told them.

oh lizzie I see. Expect your friend means well but can see that would be a bit annoying, Good luck with your date tonight.

mademan The thing is, my friend fancies Mr sweet herself but is 20 years too old for him. She has told me to stop being ungrateful, and telling me how awful my other blokes were. She has actually said to me, 'Well, you will have to move nearer to him as his client base is here' 25 miles away from my home but nearer her and him! Can't help thinking there is something else going on here1

I am really shy around people I don't know - once I get to know someone I can almost pass for normal.

Perhaps I would be better suited to the nunnery!

"The thing is, my friend fancies Mr sweet herself but is 20 years too old for him."

Ooh that's not good, even with the 20 year age difference; she might be telling him you've got smelly feet or something to try and put him off? Mind you, if you're going off him a bit due to the excessive two Valentine's cards then it might not be a bad thing.

oldfashionedgirl Try not to worry about being shy; lots of people are shy. Anyway, being shy won't help you in the nunnery when you have to get up on your own and ring the bells in front of everyone in the whole convent. Just think about that then.

ah mademan the opposite. she is desperate for us to get together and is taking it personally that I am doubting this date. Telling me I should be grateful that someone so nice should want to date me!!! WTF. God knows what else she hasd told him!