The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

It went well, he was very nice and we got on well, came back to mine as arranged and no problems there too, but got a text off him this morning saying this was his first 'casual' encounter since splitting up from his long term relationship, and he didn't think it was for him which is fair enough. Feeling a bit deflated today though, probably due to the fact that cute POF guy and Mr MM have both gone AWOL, so I'm back to square one. Don't feel as though I can face trawling through the same old people on POF at the moment.

FFS. That's annoying. I'm taking it you shagged him? Funny that he didn't think it 'wasn't for him' beforehand

Sorry about that. NEXT!

I know how you feel Crow, that's why I'm maybe giving Mr Cuddles the benefit of the doubt so much as i just can't face having to look through the same old profiles on POF again!

I'm sorry your date didn't have the ending you wanted but oh well c'est la vie and onto the next...........

Well yes, but that was kind of the point :p so I'm not too bothered about not seeing him again, it would just have been nice if we did. At least he had the decency to let me know, which is more than I can say for every other man I've encountered recently!

Yeah, fair do's. Have you tried OKC? I always found that much better than POF.

Yeah but there's only about 6 people within a 10mile radius of me!

What about this Tinder I hear so much about?

Crow I know the feeling of all options seemingly evaporating in one puff, happens to me on a regular basis, chatting goes nowhere or a date is dull and you don't fancy a second one, then back online to the same old same old...but it's worth persevering. I was minutes away from deleting my OD profile yesterday, was truly bored of the lack of prospects but was messaged by a really nice guy around the same time and now we're getting on really well and hopefully will meet up, so you never know who will come along next.

Talisa Tinder is ok for a bit of fluff, wouldn't say personally that it's any good for messaging/meeting people but others might say different.

Hansel I'm not going to give up on it, know I'll be a bit down today then hopefully a bit more optimistic tomorrow :) After all, Mr Guitarist messaged me out of the blue so know it can happen when you're not expecting it. Hope you get a meeting with the guy you're messaging!

This might be a daft question but do you worry about people you know (friends / work colleagues) seeing your profile on a dating site?

That is something that is kind of scary to me!

At first I was paranoid, but if they see your profile then they must have been browsing the site looking for dates too so they're likely to be just as embarrassed as you. Pretty much all of my colleagues are with someone anyway so should hopefully not be looking at dating sites! I don't think online dating is something to be ashamed of now anyway :)

Well both Mr Shiny and Mr Bricky text me at work. I haven't replied to Mr Shiny don't know what to say really. Mr Bricky and I have been texting quite a bit this afternoon, he's saying he's looking forward to our date on Thursday. Me toooo :)

Santa - Just say on reflection you don't think you have enough in common and wish him the best.

Yay, go Bricky! My line has been ''I just don't see romance blossoming between us''. But not enough in common sounds good too!

oldfashioned I am quite open with friends & colleagues that I have been using dating sites, no embarrassment needed. I would say the majority of single people I know also use them and several people have met partners through them, there's no shame.

I'm waiting for Niceguy to come round - place tidy, mood lighting set, dinner ready to go in oven

oneday have a fab time :)

hansel yes I think I will say what you suggested I can't just leave things hanging can I

Well you could just not respond but we all know that's a bit rude! I'm sure he'll appreciate your honesty.

I met Mr Coffee Shop on Tinder . Things are going well so far, I've seen him about seven times now and today we had a talk about where things are going. He said he really likes me, there's lots of chemistry and he'd like to go full pelt into a relationship with me but he's a bit worried because he's younger than me by 7 years and doesn't have kids, whereas I have a DS. Think it's a bit overwhelming for him. The upshot is we're going to keep dating and see how things go. However, I'm only willing to be on the periphery of someone's life for so long, so we'll see how it goes as we get to know each other.

crow That does make sense - most of my friends are in couples already. I guess I just worry that someone I know sees it and finds it hilarious!

Jarlin - maybe we should swap dates?? I have the opposite problem; Mr Cuddles is coming on too strong for just having met the once!
In fact I'm 95% sure I'm not going to meet him again after Thursday, he really pissed me off with a comment he made last night

He knows I go to the gym a a lot and I've told him I've recently started lifting weights so It's a bit of a joke that I'm trying to develop muscles like Madonna. Last night he texts he's going to a cricket club meeting so he'll speak later. I text back I'll join up as your fast bowler once I get my muscles, and he replies "well you'll need a good sports bra then, can't have your boobs bouncing out...."!!
I'm like what??? I told him the conversation was over if it was going downhill like that and he said it was my fault but then changed that to he was just having a joke.

I know I can cancel but I feel it's too late to do that now as just tommorrow. I'll see how he behaves, but one step out of line and I'm off!!

Oldfashionedgirl don't worry about bering seen, there's no stigma to OLD now, in fact the majority of my workmates are on/ or have been on dating sites. If someone can see your profile they must be looking too!

The name Mr Cuddles makes me .

I have rejoined this again.

I can't even remember what I spoke about last time!

Anyway the man I was dating for 3 months has now decided he has issues (relating to his adoption) not sure what he wants etc, thinks he wants to be single. I could scream. he is saying I'm nice and honest we are having problems and now crying at my desk. why is this happening with the first man I like so much in years?

MadeMan - bears a passing resemblance, just not so ginger

Oh HelloBoys don't let this get you down, would you really want to be with a man who has so many issues?? But be kind to yourself and allow yourself time to grieve for the relationship you thought you might have with thsi guy but IMO you had a lucky escape

cynical see how it goes tomorrow. Maybe it's a throwaway comment he regretted. Still he should have apologised.

hello so sorry to hear that, it sounds as if he has a lot of issues to resolve. Hope you're ok.

Geeky was here last night. He's a difficult man. I like that, though. I have a problem with childcare where I work weekends and evenings. My ex lives with his mum and says he can't do overnights or have the kids there all the time.

I pay a babysitter most evenings and ex has kids usually on a Monday, Saturday 11 till 4 and Sunday 10 till however long I'm working - usually 6 or 7. He tends to bring them back to mine for bedtime. Geeky doesn't like ex being in my house if I'm not here. Ex will just refuse to have kids as much if I ask him not to have them here.

On a Monday I'm not back till 8.30, so it makes sense for the ex to bring them home for bedtime. But geeky was really unhappy about it and had a little sulk. He even offered to pay for childcare, which of course I can't accept. I just do not know what to do for the best.