Dodgy text msg from DH....not meant for me

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My husband is away this weekend on a works conference.... The whole company is there.

I've woken up to a text saying 'lol...have had to come up. It's 321'.

I feel a bit sick but am I reading too much into this?

Also, if it was to a possible shag, thered be a kiss or a wink on there

Not necessarily.

It's not the law that you have to put an x at the end of a text to someone you are fucking.

I think it's a room number but the text might be for a friend rather than a possible shag

If it was a shag, he would not have gone up alone without letting the other person know that he went, or where he went.

Right... hence the text to tell them that he had gone and where he was.

I'm finding the desperate attempts to come up with an innocent explanation quite funny.

Best yet was the 3 2 1 explanation. :o

He was obviously telling somebody his room number and he was clearly replying to them. It seems likely that he was telling them so that they could and join him.

The things we don't know
1 who he was telling
2 when he was expecting them to join him

It might have been a woman he is shagging. It might have been a friend he wanted to have another drink and a bitch with. It might have been a pal who was going to get him for breakfast.

I'm with Solomon - I read it as 'it's 3 to 1 against me and I can't keep drinking so I've gone to bed'.

He would have gone up without saying his room number " night all, Brenda, its room 321, see you later.."
They would hardly leave together.

Anyway, op I hope its nothing and your dh is just sorting his early morning tea.

He's definitely telling someone his room number, probably because he has something of theirs and forgot before going to bed.

Do you have any other reason to think he's be looking elsewhere? If not, I would just laugh at him for being a drunk texter.

I agree with the posters who say it doesn't sound like a romantic/passionate text:

1. He went to his room without telling the recipient, if an affair you'd think they'd be together all night
2. He says went cos it's late not cos've saucy reasons
3. He doesn't in anyway invite anyone up on his text
4. The number 321 has lots of possible meanings, would be a coincidence to be a room number

For what it's worth I think there's a they're having a drunken discussion and someone's texted to ask him a general knowledge type question and where he's gone off to. He replies by laughing as it's a silly/random text, tells them he's off to bed (they weren't listening when he told them as they're drunk) and gives the answer they were asking for.

I wouldn't worry and I'm a born relationship worrier!

I'd assume first that he'd left something downstairs that had been found.

Please not BRENDA

My dh goes way away with work and if I'd got that message I would honestly think it was that he had disappeared up to bed before the others and had left a jacket/a colleague was knocking on his door for breakfast in the morning/room tab etc.

Or the "where've you gone you lightweight, your jacket's here. I'll drop it off in the morning" reply suggestion sounds feasible too

if an affair you'd think they'd be together all night

At a work event? When at least one of them is married?

There is no way to rule out the possibility that it was sent to someone he was hoping to shag.

Other than asking him.

he was having a dalliance with a colleague surely he would have told her the room number ( or she would already have known it ) before 2am?

Only if it was an established affair. Dalliances have beginnings. And sometimes those beginnings are in room 321 at 3.21am (with Dusty Bin).

Any number of explanations to this.

A colleague who can't remember his own room number, but knows he is next to your dh, a code for a door, a tab number, someone he promised to lend his charger to and they want it...

I don't know how anyone can think that the text message sounded "dodgy" OP call and ask him what it meant.

'lol... have had to come up. It's 321'.

To me, this wouldn't mean anything but he's knackered and going to bed. I'm hard pushed to imagine anyone telling his intended shagaway partner he's 'had to' go to his room!

And I'm as suspicious as they come :)

Just find out if it's his room number.

It's his room number, why would he tell someone the time? Makes no sense

It sounds innocent to me, the sort of thing I would send if my workmates had kept me up drinking half the night.

I can honestly say that if I got a text like that from my husband under similar circumstances I would assume that he was drunkenly boasting about how late he stayed up--and that everyone else is still going strong down in the bar.

And I'd text him in the morning to tease him about being hungover.

Does that really make me naive/gullible? Because nothing else would occur to me.

I can't believe so many people are suspicious. If I got that from my dh I wouldn't know what he was talking about but I certainly wouldn't be thinking he was with another woman.

Unless you have doubts about your relationship then don't assume the worst.

Exactly, the 'have had to come up' is saying he is done in, can't stay awake drinking any longer, or else desperately needed the toilet. None indicate a come on.