Dodgy text msg from DH....not meant for me

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My husband is away this weekend on a works conference.... The whole company is there.

I've woken up to a text saying 'lol...have had to come up. It's 321'.

I feel a bit sick but am I reading too much into this?

If there's no kiss - its not dodgy. Even my (slightly socially inept) dh puts a kiss when he texts me and did when we were dating too.

"Lol" sounds like a reply to something. I'd say nothing, if you haven't already. When he got home, and tell him I wanted to see his phone.
If the last colleague was a male saying "you've disappeared? Where are you, you lightweight?" and the reply was sent at 03:20, all good.

If there was a dodgy precursor, everything deleted, or a refusal to hand the phone over, you're in for a long conversation.

And don't accept any crap about privacy. That is enough of a possibility of a dodgy message for him to be desperate to hand over his phone to show otherwise! If he is defensive, that's not acceptable.

Years ago, my then boyfriend found a slip of paper that fell from my book with the words "if you're interested in Peter, meet me in the Bowling Alley at 6pm". I'd just started uni and was only seeing him on weekends. The bowling alley was the slang term for a particular common room, due to its shape. We always referred to textbooks by the lead author's surname. It was a second hand book I'd mentioned buying off a third year. At no point during out conversation did I feel he was wrong for asking for an explanation!

Why don't you just text him and say 'was this meant for me, darling?'

Not sure what ringing the hotel would achieve. Just ask him.

It sounds like its a response to someone asking him where he's gone and what his room number is. I wouldn't reply I'd call the hotel and be put through to that number.

You can't possibly say it's not dodgy because there's no kiss!

Basically what Cabrinha said.

First off, check, was it sent around 3:20-3:30 ish? If so, it was probably the time he was saying.

Then failing htat, call the hotel and ask for room 321.

Don't panic just yet.

It was sent just before 2am and I know he has has his own room at the hotel but no idea if its 321.

I've not replied but he'll prob ring me when he gets up. I have never had cause to mistrust him but we have been stressed and snappy at times lately. On the whole I think we're ok.

Well even if it is his room number it could still be totally innocent. Who knows.

It could be innocent.

What does your gut tell you? Intuition is a very strong indicator.

Ring and ask to be put through to his hotel room! Say it's to surprise him. Also, he can't say it was on silent so missed the call, those hotel phones are bloody loud. Listen for extra rustling of sheets...

It could be innocent though that does put a slightly different slant on it.
What does your gut say? I think you will be able to tell a lot by his reaction when you ask him about it. He may hopefully just laugh and say Jo blogs left his phone with him or something and he needed it before morning?

It's Dodgy

I think your reaction to this says a lot about your feelings in this relationship. You're not feeling loved, cherished and secure?

I know people hate the LTB line but the alternative is DSFTC. Don't stand for this crap. I have a happy relationship, feel loved and cherished. It's calm and respectful.

I feel confident and secure. I would not react to a text the way you have. There is a backstory to this

I really don't know what my gut says. I've always been laid back and never snooped or distrusted him but then I've never had a txt like this.

We spoke at about 6 ish last night and he was meeting his team at 6.30 in the bar and then they had dinner and the awards all evening. He's not a big drinker and generally knows his limits with alcohol.

Feel a bit better that people don't think this has to mean he's invited a woman to his room. It would be v out of character but then everyone says that when they've been cheated on.

To me it reads that he's giving someone his room number. The LOL also makes it look like a reply, maybe someone asked him where he had got to, when they couldn't see him at the event.

Hope it turns out to be innocent OP, go with your gut K expect his reaction may give a lot away.

It looks like a reply to me, and he went off to bed without saying anything to co workers. And he is telling someone his room number.

Sorry, I hope I'm wrong. Still, you can surprise him when he gets home by wordlessly handing him your phone.

Unless he already knows. Then he will be shifty. Or full of shit. Have a decent breakfast, try to relax. When is he due back?

That K was supposed to say 'I'

Unless they're all going to his room as the bar shuts. I had TWO MEN in mine (on a bloody school trip !) after 9 recently.

I'm not going to ring him. He very rarely goes out and if he's sleeping peacefully then I'd feel awful because I'm having a mental moment.

He could have ment he's had to go up to his room as there are 3 - 2 - 1 against him on something

I'd say a reply to a drunken colleague advising them of their own room number? doesnt sound to me like arranging an assignation. they'd have gone up together probably, or at least she would have known he was going up. i would ask to see the phone and the other text though.

But what if a colleague text and said "where u sloped off to?! Ill.knock for u for breakfast, what rm?"

Did textspeak as its the only time itd be acceptable on MN

He could have ment he's had to go up to his room as there are 3 - 2 - 1 against him on something

Or he was sharing a room with Dusty Bin.

You are right not to jump to conclusions OP. I hope it turns out to be innocent.