Oh jones, I feel for you, I really do....
And snugly, I could've written your post.
Now I've said this before under my other user name (think I'm still using Xmas one, but difficult to see on iPad) but anyway....
But anyway, there is a script that they seem to follow in these circumstances which is, delete, deny, minimise.
So, deleting incriminating 'evidence', deny it ever happened, and then when confronted, minimise what actually happened. IMO he will only admit to what he thinks he can get away with.
My DH drip fed me, which was awful and although now I think I know everything! I may not. And this used to worry me, but I got to thinking, what difference will it make..? It is what it is. Oh god yes I used to think about the past, trying to piece together little bits and honestly it will drive you mad
You can get through this, well you absolutely will get through this and it is now your choice and yours alone, if you continue with your marriage. My DH was genuinely sorry for the pain he caused me. A whole host of stuff came out about an abusive childhood that I really had had no idea about up until that point. But I would never make excuses for his behaviour. It was our marriage vows he broke.
I can honestly say to you that two years on, our marriage is stronger and happier than it ever was. This also has something to do with him not keeping his childhood a secret anymore too tho I think.
If you want to you can continue with him. But there will have to be changes and they will have to come from him. Please remember that this isn't your fault. Oh and be aware of and be ready for hysterical bonding......
Holding your hand