he lasted longer than i thought

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I sent him packing in early november. He was very EA to me and my dc.

I have had NC at all since then. He has tried, but i ignored at all costs.
When i got the non-molestation order, he breached it and ended up being arrested.
Pleaded not guilty and so waiting for trial.

Anyway, since the arrest i havent heard a thing. Peaceful to say the least.

Only yesterday he subscribed to my youtube channel.
I dont really use it. It just popped up in my inbox saying he has subscribed.

Im quite shocked, considering we should be looking at going to trial sometime this month.

He is not allowed to contact me in any way, shape or form.
Which is quite annoying, as technically he hasnt contacted me.

Do you think this is worth mentioning, or should i just leave it. I guess i should expect some form of contact very soon as he couldnt resist the urge to click on 'subscribe' which is just pathetic in my eyes.

Maybe his way of saying "im still here"

So my question is: do i wait for the actual contact, or mention something now to stop it going further.
Which it may actually not. Fingers crossed he just leaves it at that

You need to report it.
Report everything.
Was it threatening at all?
Get it logged - it will all help in your case.

No. It was more pleading.
I am just so fed up. I wish they would just leave me alone.

You need to report it. Good luck with the case.

Report everything and even if you sense the person on the end of the line is not overly excited about it, make sure they document it

btw, what would use a their own "Youtube channel" for ?

Report it - he's starting to push to see what he can get away with. It must be obvious that a text from his mum is not allowed. Can you block her number?

what would a person use ...

I am waiting for my solicitor to call me back to report them. Ill see what she says as to whether i shoulld ring the police officer in charge of this.

Im not sure what you mean about the youtube channel?
I dont use mine, really. Uploaded a couple of vids a year ago and that was it.
He hasnt used his for anything other than liking peoples videos.

I have spoken to social services today too. They said they will stand by what im saying about no contact. They also asked about the grandparents and what my thoughts with that were.

I said what i thought was being assertive. No contact as she abducted my child for 3 days. I dont feel she has my sons best interests at heart.

She says i should consider it. I cant win.

I was just asking what a personal Youtube channel was. I have no idea < old gimmer >

I am only just learning myself really. I tried to delete it, but in order to do thay i would have to delete my full gmail account

She wants contact with my ds. Which i cant blame her really for trying.
I just find it odd. 2 days after he follows me on youtube.

Apart from her refusing to give my son back. She was a good nana, and his granda hasnt done anything wrong at all, at any time.

I think on a big scale of things - if i was to continue restricting contact,it would be for my own reasons (not wanting anything to do with any of them), in which case would be me being selfish, and not putting my childs interests at heart.

I think i will have to sort something out with the grandparents. Sooner, rather than later.
Only again...the time frame between the youtube and the text.
Is it her...or is it him!
She says she would meet me somewhere. Social services have warned her that nothing is to be mentioned about my ex at all.
So surely she wouldnt be that stupid...

Now that google have linked up gmail, youtube and google plus, there really isn't a big distinction between youtube and social media. I would make sure your solicitor/the police understand this. "Liking" something on youtube is really no different to "liking" something on Facebook. As you say, you can't not have a Youtube account because of Gmail.

The police response is pretty crap, btw - you shouldn't be having to change what you do! You aren't the one who is being legally constrained because you've been harassing people! I don't think the police have a very good record when it comes to understanding social media and the internet.

I would say no contact with GP until after the trial. Anything that indicates you are not bothered about him contacting you could go against you. Contac with his mum is indirect. And she abducted your child for 3 days!!!

Oh my fucking god!!
A text off of the grandmothers friend now (one that threatened me) telling me to please trxt the grandmother as she has a lump in hwr breast but wont get it seen to as she has nothing to live forsince she cant see my ds.

Oh my god!

Ignore

So close to telling her to fuck right off! My mam has just been diagnosed with cancer. Horrible bastards using that!

All this coming at once? This is a trick to get you in contact again. Ignore them. Speak to your solicitor before replying to anything from anyone in or involved with his family.

My solicitor didnt ring me back today! Grr.

I will try again tomorrow.
In the meantime, i have emailed the police officer asking to log the text messages down. Reminding him again that this is 2 days after the youtube 'following'.

I cant handle them right now. Im ignoring at all costs.

The idea of no contact with GP til after the trial is very sensible.

If the grandmother wanted to see DS she should contact you and arrange for contact herself. Or somebody else for her. Preferably via your solicitor. But not ask you to contact them.

Excelllent point. Why havent they done that?
Why have they gone with guilt tripping?

Doesnt that just prove even further that her son is a manipulative twat.

Yes - the only thing you can do is ignore all of them at least until after the trial. It won't help your case, I think, if you've been engaging with other members of his family whilst he isn't allowed to contact you.

Thank you all. You couldnt be more right. I am so pleased i didny let my emotions get the best of me and send the text.

Ive just received an email back from the officer.
He has noted my email and forwarded it on to thr domestic violence team.

No idea what will come out of it, but at least it is all logged.

I would feel it was genuine from GM's side of things...if it wasnt for that youtube following!!

I keep reading this text and basically, if i dont allow contact with the GP, then she is going to continue with refusal to go to the doctors to see about a lump in her breast.

So if anything happens - its my fault as i wouldnt allow contact.

That is just cruel and heartless.

Yet i know they will be thinking that about me because i havent responded to the guilt tripping!!

Her health is not your responsibility. If she does have a lump (and I hope she doesn't) it's got absolutely nothing to do with you, or your child.

I also very much doubt she does, especially if they know about your mother's situation. but if she does, what kind of a twisted person would use that to manipulate you?

Its all part of the same thing. Igor, and good luck.