There is a woman in mine and DH's social circle who is the girlfriend of one of his friends. DH really likes his friend, and his friend always comes with this woman, but I find her slightly hostile to me. It's nothing overt, but as a woman I notice.
For a start, she mostly refuses to speak to me in English (DH is tri-lingual, so is his friend, so is she - they all went to university in France together.) She asks me no questions about myself (ever), she walks away in the middle of me asking her a question and joins the men and talks in French to them. She does not look me in the eye or turn towards me when I'm talking to the group. When we have them round to dinner on DH's request, she makes negative remarks about the food in French.
At the dinners I end up sitting alone in a corner and she sits in a three with them talking in French. DH phrases his answers to her questions in English, but she responds in French. His friend does a mixture of the two. So I can never grab a thread of conversation or hear her opinion or know anything about her, because she does not address me in English.
We live in England, by the way!
She makes a point of addressing DH in English sometimes and it is always something flattering or a slightly flirtatious remark.
Whenever I tell DH about this he tells me I am being irrational. He says that she is shy. Did I not notice that she was shy? That I have to get used to not being the centre of attention. I say that he should trust my take on the situation and because we are married, trust me to have judged this correctly. He says I am being super irrational and mad and he is not going to change his social life on the whims of a "mad person." (DH is prone to exaggeration btw...)
So now I have said that I never want her to set foot in my house again (yes, quite extreme, but I hated being called mad...) and we are not talking to each other. He's watching TV, I'm in bed.
What would your DHs in this situation? What would you do? Do you think I am being irrational?