The Dating Thread 68.

[Bant]

Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

It's not the call itself that bothers me, it's just worrying that he might be recording it to upload to certain websites, not sure if I'm being paranoid or rightly cautious

I would be cautious for now as you've not met face to face as it were

I think there should be another rule

1. Only do what you're 100% comfortable with :-)

I've done some things (well one thing) during my Internet dating experience that I really wasn't comfortable with and I really regret it!! Only a dickhead will make you do things you don't want to.

I can't do the last rule either. My phone is ancient.

I like that new rule Green.

The loo update is about updating the thread from the loo during the date so that all of us sitting at home date free can find out how you're getting on and live vicariously through you

Hahahahaha! That's hilarious!!!! This thread is brilliant. Girl power!!! ;-)

To be fair though, I don't really give you lot a second thought during a date...

Well you've obviously had more exciting dates than me!

I just decided to call him! So spoke to him on the phone & he sounds really nice. And normal. I was really nervous oops!!!!! And I think possibly a bit harsh and secretive when he tried (again) to ask me about my work. He didnt remember that we had already made a plan- including a café chosen that I texted him the name of! All in all, I think he sounds sweet :-)

Of course if I don't hear back from him on Friday to confirm, I'll know he's lost interest!

I've finally started painting my bedroom. Hurrah!

Just done 2 walls so far, but they are the walls with the window, radiator and door so they took a little longer with all the cutting in and painting around/behind etc.

It's going to be so nice in there when it's done...

I too have a nicely painted bedroom just waiting for someone nice to see ;-)

However! I don't have a nice bed. Must look on Freecycle or Gumtree for a nice one! :-D

Green My bedroom has been in desperate need of doing since my exH left 14 months ago! I just couldn't really face going in there, or seeing it as my space or anything.

Before Christmas I put my bed out for the scrap metal men and I'm sleeping on the sofa!

I told the man I'm seeing that it's going to be a boy free zone when it's done. He asked if that applied to him to because he'd really like to be allowed in. I'm not sure I'm ready for that though. I'm quite happy travelling to his place and staying with him.

Cynical I've had a man who seemed ok suddenly plunge into talking dirty via messaging, and I mean really dirty. I cancelled our planned date and blocked him. That's not the kind of man I want. I've been out with Mr Coffee Shop six times now and there's been no dirty texting, so there shouldn't be any before you meet (unless all you both want is a fling, of course).

TheCrow Running off the minute his ex calls is unacceptable and I'm sorry but that would be it for me. I wouldn't see him again. I bet the situation won't change. It's one thing talking about an ex in context but completely another to do a mercy dash to their house. You're not his priority, she is, so don't make him yours.

OneDay Have you replied to Mr Camera? Maybe something like 'Had a very busy weekend, thanks' would suffice? Hopefully soon you'll be able to put him out of his misery .

Santa All those texts would do my head in - you at least need to reply before he sends another! A friend of mine described early dating texting like a game of tennis, where one person send the ball (text) to the other, who then returns it, and so on. If one person sends lots of balls (texts) to the other person's end of the court without them replying in between, the other person feels overwhelmed, can't cope and starts backing off. That, combined with him suggesting things for you to do on your week off, would make me take a big step back.

I'm already looking forward to seeing Mr Coffee on Friday night but I need to discuss something with him that I'm not looking forward to, so I'm aiming to get that out of the way on Friday then we can (hopefully) move on.

Video call?? why?? does he want a preview of what you look and sound like?? I wouldn't bother and wouldn't feel comfortable. Just get the coffee already!

Hmm FolkGirl I might have to keep mine a man free zone too! :-D

(Because it really is a precious space for me!)

Kitty rubbish I forgot. Just replying now. Saying very busy and listing a few things that I did with Niceguy no question in reply...feel a bit mean really.

Green what were you doing that you weren't comfortable with? I think that's covered with ''if it's not fun, stop!!''.

I was browsing the V-day cards in the supermarket over lunch. There isn't one that says ''to a really lovely man that I've only been seeing for a few weeks but really like a lot and am having a really great time spending time with and getting to know better''. They are all plastered with declarations of undying love. Maybe I should make my own? What are others in the early stages of dating doing?

Ok helpful people what is the established 'wear to an Internet date' attire?!?

Friday evening. 6pm. Dinner in a nice, airy place. Not very formal. (Poss not very romantic either! Lol!)

OneDay you can just do a Valentines night out or gesture. The cards are so naff! I think I would vomit if someone gave me a card with a bear and 'to the one I love' on it #TheresNoHopeForMe

I am NOT SAYING what I did. It's too embarrassing!!!!!

I don't 'do' Valentine's Day.

But I'm seeing him on Valentine's Day, I have a heart shaped cake tin, so I might make him a heart shaped cake instead of a card.

He liked the last cake I baked for him.

Green Niceguy is taking me out for dinner at a nice place. A card feels appropriate in the circumstances but they are all either too lovey-dovey or innuendo/sex-joke filled. I just want to say something sweet.

Folk heart-shaped cake sounds lovely

I should add that I am a card person. I send thankyou cards after going to friend's houses for dinner etc.