Oh I think I've had enough.
I've started reading You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. I'm not sure I agree with everything she says... but the basic premise is worth going along with - that negative thoughts attractive negativity and positive thoughts attract positivity. It's the whole self fulfilling prophecy thing.
It was recommended to me by my counsellor.
I am now thinking that as far as the man I'm seeing goes, I just have too many doubts, too much uncertainty. I have a lovely time with him, but I just can't shake the feeling that I'm not important (enough). I suppose the bottom line is that I don't really feel like The Prize. But I don't know if that's just me. I would like to say that he spent his entire birthday weekend with me and will be spending the whole of Valentine's weekend with me too. And he is kind and thoughtful and attentive and tells me how much he likes me. It all sounds/seems very sincere. Last time I saw him, he told me that his friend wanted to meet me, so we said a brief "hello" on Skype. So he's mentioned me at least. And his friend passed a favourable verdict (so I understand - wasn't in English)
And he thought it was romantic sleeping on my living room floor before Christmas; and he offered to help me decorate my bedroom; and he shows an appropriate level of interest in my children; he holds my hand when we're out and strokes my hair when (he thinks) I'm sleeping. He tells me that he likes falling asleep and waking up with me.
I have a lovely time with him when I see him. But I don't know if it's worth all the angst I experience during the two weeks between. It seems to hit about the same time during the first of the two weeks. It will peak at the weekend and then get better as I look forward to seeing him again. As much as anything, I wouldn't discuss this with anyone in real life because I'm aware of how stupid I sound. And I'm aware I'm going to start trying the patience of The Thread.
We exchanged a dozen emails on Sunday, nothing on Monday, he emailed me on Tuesday, a further dozen emails yesterday evening...
I suppose I just don't feel like I'm that special. But I don't know if it's me and my dodgy experiences/expecations. And that because he isn't 'needy' or emotionally damaged, I don't 'recognise' him. If that makes sense.
I wish I could just enjoy it for what it is. But I can't.