I haven't been on here for a while. I have other stuff going on at the moment that is taking precedence over everything else really.
I also feel a bit bad that I only seem to come on here when I need support rather than to offer it. So, I'm sorry about that.
I've been seeing my whateverheis for about 3 months. We only see each other alternate weekends, because of my children and he lives about 40 miles away, and other than brief "hey, how are you doing?" emails in between, we don't communicate otherwise - certainly no lengthy exchanges. I'd probably be happy/happier with slightly more contact, in as much as I like to read his emails when I get them, but not because I worry about out of sight being out of mind, because he does email. I rarely instigate the communication. And he does email sometimes just to tell me he is missing me and to let me know he's thinking of me...
We saw each other for the first time at the weekend after a month. He went back home overseas for Christmas. I was supposed to join him for New Year, but my passport didn't arrive in time. I think he was disappointed, but no red flags in terms of his response, he just accepted it and said we should arrange it again and go together in March or sometime when the weather would be better anyway. It was lovely when we saw each other. Like no time had passed at all.
The last time I spoke about him on here, it was because we hadn't had any chat about 'exclusivity' or whether we were 'going out' or whatever and everyone said it sounded like I should take him at his word and that is sounded like he was just a straightforward bloke. He doesn't play games. If we chat on a Tuesday and agree I'll go to his for 8pm on the Friday night, we might not speak again, that week, but I'll arrive at his at 8pm on the Friday to find dinner nearly ready and a glass of wine waiting. I sort of really like that. He just seems trustworthy and reliable. We've said it will happen and that's good enough.
So I suppose I'd like an updated verdict and some reassurances really...
He's no longer on the dating site. I checked.
He has said he'd like to spend more time with me and see me more often. Ideally every week. He understands that we can't, he just wanted me to know that he wanted to.
He told me several times at the weekend that he "liked" me. When I told him I did too, he just smiled said, "yes, but I really like you" and that was it.
He referred to me indirectly as his girlfriend (still no conversation on that score!)
He also said he wanted to get to know me better and asked me stuff about myself. I haven't really got into deep and meaningful chats with him. He's lovely and fun and I haven't wanted to scare him off by letting him see the 'real me'... but when I did he just stroked my hair and was really lovely.
His compliments seem sincere - he says I'm "very pretty" rather than beautiful or gorgeous; and that I have pretty feet (?); he likes the fact I'm honest and what I do for a living (because of what it says about me). He said that he loved my OD profile and that my photos and profile matched (apparently they often don't) and that I am exactly as I described myself. But there's nothing gushing about him. Which is perfect.
He's lovely, kind, polite, thoughtful, considerate, tender, and affectionate.
He doesn't seem needy at all. He doesn't ask me questions that I feel are designed to test me, he doesn't play games, he doesn't try and make me jealous.