The Dating Thread 68.

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Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

OK drought over..... I forget that with the OD it is perfectly acceptable for the girls to send the first message (not something I would ever do oin real life)

been chatting to a couple of nice chaps, already been invited out for coffe and got phone number of the other. I dont know if I can manage to juggle dating two guys at once..... but I might as well try

science, I hear you with regard to making the first move in real life! I would NEVER do it.

I messaged Mrtwohours first and all going swimmingly so far...he seems to revel in the fact that it was me that made the first move. I paid for VIP on POF and hid my profile then messaged people I liked the look of...that way I knew if I got a message it was from someone I wanted to hear from and was happy to chat to. Enjoy dating a couple of guys at once...it is a numbers game after all!

Seems my instincts were right about feeling OD guy (who just reappeared again after almost two weeks of silence) were right...I decided to reply and asked where he had got to in a very light manner, obviously didn't mention that we had agreed to meet up) his reply...'he had got bored of weirdos on the site'! I then ask why was coming back on there in that case...'because he keeps getting messages through'!!
That to me smacks of self absorption...why did he even bother to get back in touch with me??
I wouldn't give him a second glance now, total turn off.

Good for you Hansel.

Bored of weirdos? Strange! You had arranged a date and he was letting "weirdos" put him off contacting you...I think your instincts are spot on!

What annoyed me was he didn't even say 'sorry not been in touch...' clearly up his own posterior!

...must be all those messages he's getting

Knobber.

Ah well Hansel, his loss.

Tiger wow a bit of a rollercoaster for you since I last checked in! Technology can be a bitch with 'showing online' - I really dont think it means anything. I'm pretty sure I show as online a lot because I always have a million windows open on my computer and forget about them. Glad you sound happier now!

kscience go on give the multi-dating a go it's certainly helping me be a lot less crazy lady and finding it much easier to just shrug when things don't go well.

Evening all,

Crow - any news from ComicBookGuy, and have you had a look on GSM yet?

Kscience -have you looked yet too on GSM - is that where all the action is coming from for you? :)

AlittleStranger - what you said earlier re mostly bad stories coming to light on the Relationships board is so true. I'd never thought about it in that way before, thanks for giving me a different perspective on things.

Softkitty good luck for tonight - hope it's going well! What number date is it? Mine did respond - posted about it up thread at 12.40. We might be meeting up tomorrow, at his suggestion. Haven't had an exclusivity talk as such, but I asked him the other night if he was chatting to other people and he said no...

Hansel that guy sounds like an idiot! Best rid!

Oneday - yep, been a bit of roller coaster! Let's see what happens tomorrow if I see him

Dont how did it go with geeky meeting your DC today??

Tiger OD really can knock your confidence. I am person who has a 'don't give a f*' attitude to most things. I have had to take breaks to regroup and sort out my thoughts. Sometimes, the things that knock our confidence, really don't have too. This thread is a God send for allowing people to see the wood for the trees. I have learned so much from it.

Kitty I hope your date is going well. I think a wine bar opposed to home is eminently sensible

Oh yes dont How did the meeting go? Fingers crossed it was all good.

H&G How could you bin a man with such a fantastic approach to OD? You need to shake yourself gurl Seriously, what an asshole!

kscience I don't believe for a second men should do the asking/making the first contact. I have contacted men frequently, with mixed results. Go for it!

Just put DD to bed so just about to go on GSM now and have a look, got pyjamas on and Great British Bakeoff on the tv. Wish I had an excuse to get dressed up nicely and go for a drink and some interesting conversation with someone ComicBookGuy has gone back to always showing as either online or last seen a few minutes ago but not heard back from him. Hoping he's just working but who knows?!

Good luck to everyone who's out tonight, hope all goes well!

'No soulmates found' within 10 miles of me

Hi All, this has to be the fastest moving thread on mn

Hope you are all alright, hope your Geeky meeting your kids went well Dont - how exciting!!

My Mr smallfeet came over last night, he has come over a couple of times now when dd is in bed. It seems to be going well, am enjoying the attention he gives me. Although he mentioned last night that he wants me to meet his mum and sister - eek!! That scares me a lot !!!

Well it's going well. Kids in bed. We had a nice day and kids liked geeky. He's here now, so I can't stay - but will update tomorrow.

oh and 6 days!

How long has it been since you met Geeky dont? Glad it went well

I am thinking end of Feb/March time might be when I start thinking about smallfeet meeting dd, that would be four months since we first met.....

Nice to read about the successes so please keep sharing peeps.

Dreaming I actually don't mind approaching men on OD sites, its just I am very old fashioned and could never do it IRL.

Crow that's annoying re Comic and GSM - have you put in a 20 mile radius too?

That's great news Dont, pleased it went well!

Girlie -why does it scare you about meeting his mum and sister? How long have you been seeing him for?

Deliberately, same here, I'm quite confident in other aspects of life - own my own business, own home, happy little DD etc, but when it comes to dating I'm useless. I always emotionally invest way too soon, which is why I had such a melt down today, over what was in effect, a very minor thing...

Sorry Tiger I missed your update at lunchtime but have just caught up now. What he said certainky sounds plausible. Hope your meet up tomorrow (well, today now) goes well.

Just back from second date with Mr Coffee Shop. It was great and he's very lovely. He complimented me straight away and throughout the evening (which I'm not used to!), conversation was easy and we were both quite flirty. We behaved in the bar then snogged each other's faces off in the car park on the way to our respective cars. T'was lovely!

He mentioned meeting up again, so it's looking positive but I'm taking this one slowly.

I met a really, really, really lovely guy tonight. Really really.

Oooh OneDay, tell us more!

Sounds like thing are going well ladies.

One Day proper loo update if you please....some of us living vicariously through you this weekend.

Well I have 2 dates for next week Mr teacher coffee and walk in local country park. Mr Science meeting for coffee. Both sound like nice chaps so fingers crossed they don't find me too repellent.

Snogging in the car par...always a good sign! Go you kitty

Oneday well?? we're all waiting...

kscience have you rejoined OD? Sorry have forgotten where you were at re the dating but remember you said there was no one on the horizon at the minute...two coffee dates sounds very promising.

Aaaargh

So last night I went to one of those cheesy singles nights organised by a dating website, with the girls and one of the guys that I made friends with at the speed dating. Just as a bit of a laugh and to see my 'new friends' as with all these dates lined up anyway I figured I couldn't really take on anything else at the moment.

Anyway long story short, ended up meeting someone....some of the others met people too and we all went on somewhere else....me and erm, Mr NiceGuy, (he's in my phone as Name Nice Guy haha) just ended up talking for hours and hours, snogging at my bus stop (let 2 night buses go past ). I am SO proud of myself for coming home alone. It was very tempting not to. He is just so so lovely. And so hot. I would have thought out of my league but he seems to fancy me too. I feel a bit like a cartoon with stars for eyes or something haha. But this morning I am forcing myself to be sensible and not get carried away.