The Dating Thread 68.

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Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

No edit button makes for lots of silly mistakes in posts!

"...we had set that it would be that weekend, no time or place..."

I suppose the good thing is Hansel that at least you weren't waiting for him somewhere having been stood up.

Perhaps he feels that things are fine because you'd both only set for the weekend without making any actual concrete plans. Having said that, I think if he was properly interested then he would suggest a definite time, day and place to have a date with you. Fannying about isn't generally seen as a sign of interest.

H&G Yes. Hmm. While we are all looking for potential partners call it what you will I don't think anyone who makes us question either ourselves or the situation is anything but ideal. ID is not easy, I have had many dates and am still single because I want what is right for me. Well done. I think dating other people is by far the most sensible thing to do. If he is hard to please etc now, imagine 1, 3, 6 months down the line. Good on ya girl, I 100% agree with your idea to keep looking.

H&G A date on Monday :)

I think you are probably right to trust your gut. He does sound a time waster. Don't let him waste yours.

"Having said that, I think if he was properly interested then he would suggest a definite time, day and place to have a date with you. Fannying about isn't generally seen as a sign of interest."

Well said MadeMan

Agreed mademan, the guy I'm meeting on Monday in contrast, googled a half way point, gave three different options of pub and has been in steady contact...lots of brownie points for him already...just not sure what if anything will be there as I didn't get that rapport with him, bet he seems a really genuine guy, so worth a chance in my books.

Ok, date-at-the-bar update..... good conversation so far, sharing some laughs.....

Sounds good so far :)

Sounds good OneDay, if you can make each other laugh you're more than half way there.

Monday night's date sounds good too Hansel. He might be more on your wavelength in the flesh - some people just don't come across well messaging.

Wavity wavity, resurfaces after week from hell inspection and my life being taken over.

glad there is lots of dating activity going on somewhere...

One

That's what I'm hoping ohWestern

Waves to kscience

kscience Waves, good to see you back.

Oneday Being able to make you laugh is something to hold onto. I love a man who can really make me belly laugh, so, it's sounding good.

Waves to Miranda & OWW. Proof OD does work.

There are a fair few of us oldies who it's worked for Dreaming - I honestly believe its purely a numbers game, get out there and meet people and sooner or later someone who's a good fit will turn up. Took me almost a year and twenty men or so - it was actually very good for me in improving my confidence and ability to chat to strangers

Actual loo update! Considering he's just got the 5th round in its amazing I've lasted this long before the loo haha. Def good date so far, exchanging lots of similar stories of various hilarious escapades, fair amount in common. Have somehow got onto the subject of bad OD stories though! Prob a taboo subject for first date!

Brilliant OneDay and a proper loo update, am v impressed. Has he got some good dating stories then?

Nothing to beat getting pushed over by Psychotwat at the speed dating, or the Mr Music debacle! Think I win that tound! Yeah, good date. He just walked me to my bus and wants to see me again. He'd have been up for a snog, it's not that I'm not attracted to him but I still haven't snogged anyone since Housrmate guy and its s little hurdle for me, so hug and cheek kiss gbye tonight. Definite potential.

Oneday - that certainly sounds like it has potential!

Well, things have taken a spectacular turn for the worse here :(
After an amazing night and most of the day with mine Wed/Thurs, we'd exchanged several emails (but via GSM instead of normal email, instigated by him), saying what a great time we'd both had, can't wait til next time, etc, him saying how he wants to spend hours and hours with me. The last one I sent was at 3pm yesterday, which I can see he's read, but hasn't responded to. I texted him at midnight last night to ask how his evening had been (he's got friends staying this weekend, so I presumed he'd still be up). No reply to that.

I stayed up way too late here on MN and couldn't sleep, and out of curiosity I went back on GSM at 3.30am to see if he'd replied/look on his profile, which said he'd last been online in the last few hours (he'd not replied to my last message nor looked at my profile). While I was digesting this, his status turned to 'online' again! So i waited 5 min or so, and thought great, he's going to message me, but nothing.
I was pretty upset and sent him an email then saying 'hi, so you're still up? I can't sleep x' While I was sending it, he logged out, and I can see he hasn't read it (but would have seen the alert to his gmail to say he has a message waiting for him)

Hmmm, doesn't look good does it?
Why else would he be online twice in the early hours of the morning if he isn't messaging other people (which I asked him straight out on Thurs if he was chatting to anyone else and he said no).
I'm totally floored by this - on Thurs I could have sworn that he seems like the most genuine and sincere man when he's with me, gives all the signals that he likes me too, etc...
So, so disappointed. What do I do now? Do I question him or just leave it, and wait until he contacts me??
:(

All this technology is driving me mad! First of all I keep getting matches on Tinder that say they're within 5 miles but then immediately say like 50 miles away when I click them. Secondly I've been chatting some more to Comic Book Guy on Whatsapp, at first he was constantly showing as online or 'last seen' at a minute or two previously so when he took a while to reply I thought he was online but ignoring me. Now I know that it's probably running in the background on his phone, but I messaged him at 8.22 last night and he's showing as last seen at 8.30 so I'm paranoid he's blocked me! Someone please tell me I'm being daft!

Showing one tick or two crow?

Sounds like things went well oneday

Sorry tiger, gutting isn't it! I'd leave it, you've messaged him once let him come back to you now. If he doesn't, he wasn't worth your time and effort

Hansel - go with your gut, it's always right.

Waves at science, nice to see you!

Morning everyone else hope you're all good

Two ticks.

tiger I'd wait a while to see if he gets back to you, it was late and he had friends staying over but I wouldn't contact him again.I wouldn't necessarily panic just yet either though!

Crow...if it's showing two ticks you're definitely not blocked...stays on one as they never see it ((hugs))

whatsapp drove me crazy, in the end I removed the time and datestamp, not so much so that I could hide when I'd been last on line but so that I couldn't see when anyone else had! Stopped the paranoia slightly.

Thanks for the advice Lies and TheCrow, I will leave it and see if he gets in touch.
Feeling so low and am sitting in bed crying.
Out of all the men I've met over the past 4 months, this one really did seem the most genuine, which is why I feel so sad. I know it's a cliche, but he seemed different to the others.

((Big hugs)) Tiger. Don't cry, please. It's so hard, isn't it?

Really feeling for you right now...stay strong girl, there may be a good reason and if there isn't he really isn't worth those tears. Have some very unmumsnetty xxxxxxx

But what if he read the message at 8.30 and then blocked me which is why that's showing as the last time he was online? Hope I'm reading too much into it!

tiger Hope he gets back to you but if not then someone who can say that they couldn't wait to see you then just disappear off the face of the Earth is a cruel bastard not worth your time anyway. I know it doesn't make it easier though :(