The Dating Thread 68.

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Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

Wow, Lies, I thought you were going to say you'd been seeing him a few months!! Impressive! When did he meet your DD, and how was that??

Although technically I've been 'seeing' mine since Dec 12th, we've only actually met 3 times (inc this week) due to both of us being away for Christmas, and me only being avail half of the week as DD lives with me then. But like you, it does seem like longer as we feel very relaxed together.

Even more impressed re the fitness tips - you've inspired me. I'm actually sitting here in my running gear and have been trying to get motivated for the last 2 hours, but now I will actually get out there! I did 2 marathons a long time ago (6 years ago, well before DD) and have signed up for another. It's always the first few runs that are the worst, I find!

Thank you 49 and tiger ! Hoping it's all going to work out...I was so disheartened by meeting knobbers who were basically wanting sex and telling you different, including one who I am convinced is married, that I was about to call it a day.

Some good advice way up thread(s) that we all know at heart but need reminding from time to time, is that if they are in to you, you will know it. And I did. So for the first time I found myself not checking if he was online; not wondering whether it was ok to ring/text him; not getting my friends to check texts before I sent them and not driving myself insane because he has not text back and it was liberating! How it should be. Tiger...bet you feel the same! He's met my DD three times, once almost by accident early on...she's 15 so may or may not be around when you want her to be! The other times she knew he was coming and on each occasion they have spent a bit more time together. He's doing his first overnight here on Saturday, she's relaxed about it and so is he.

Now I acknowledge it is very early days and things could still go wrong. But if they do, that's fair enough. I know we stand a chance and I know that he's not hiding anything or playing games and right now wants it to work as much as I do. I can ask for no more than that

Tiger could not agree more...no need to preach about running to you, you will get exactly where I'm coming from!! Yep first few runs are the worst and for me the first mile of every one....

Lies that sounds wonderful! Totally agree that you do know if they are into you.

Excited/nervous about letting geeky meet dc tomorrow!

dont I'm excited for you!

Don't - what's the plan for tomorrow? I think Alpha just dropped round at mine for a cup of tea the first few times he met the dc, very low key. Good luck.

Lies I agree with so much of what you're saying. All the whittling and worrying just seem to go out of the window when things are right.

It's all sounding good for so many people at the moment, great stuff.

Good afternoon ladles and jellyspoons (Can't you see I'm hugely chipper today?)

My twopence worth on first time sex and body hangups. I'm probably quite a bit older than many of you, while I have no Csec scars, I do have a lot of flab from a massive weight loss. First time since EXH I asked if it was ok for me to wear a little cami, no problem. Believe me, by the time we were done I was completely nekkid and couldn't have given a damn. This was also daytime sex, so the bedroom was light. I advise trying not to let your hangups spoil things, I am sure he will never take a blind bit of notice, and by the time you're done, I doubt you will care much either. The first time is always nerve wracking, body hangups or not. Just relax as much as possible and enjoy!!

dont I think the meeting the DC is when we really do begin to feel this could well be serious and long(er) term. I think OWW did it perfectly, a cup of tea as a friend, nothing more than that initially. My DC are older and have bumped into me and dates a couple of times in town. I have never set out for that to happen, but it has and they are fine with it. DD1 has met Mr OMG both DD met Mr Zany. I do believe it is the DC age and level of maturity along with our (parents) feelings of when things are right. Good luck tomorrow.

Thanks dreaming. I feel as if geeky could be for keeps, so it's a big day tomorrow. I want to see how they are. We're off for a pub lunch.

Hope you're still chipper dreaming

Dont...good luck, you're not going to need it - enjoy your pub lunch, your dcs and Geeky!

Just wanted to pop by and wish everyone good luck for any dates tonight. Have fun!

Hope all dates go well tonight :)

Thank you those who have mentioned me - I think I am very lucky as I manage to strike lucky on my first date about 21 months ago now I think. I found Mr Nice on OK Cupid (turned out we were both on POF and free dating as well, both being cheapskates ) and things have just worked out :)

I met his DS near the beginning but he's 18 and was just around the place. He met my DC after about 6 months and sees them sometimes although we spend more time together just us. We will hopefully live together at some point in the future but due to various things will probably be in a few years time. I am a little impatient though...

Where's Master I wonder? Hopefully out on a date on a Friday night :)

Oh very chipper Lies I have had a day all for me, me, me. I have done all the housework, we now gleam. I usually change bed linen on Saturdays, it is done, washed, dried and put away. I am now very contentedly munching on chocolate and have a rather nice glass of red.

I had noticed my consumption of the said red (poet and didn't know it) was getting rather out of hand. I am now cutting it down by half, then half again, with the plan to only drink bottles and bottles at weekends. So far, so good!

I notices OMG had whatsapp'd me earlier, but wishing to continue my me day, I didn't read it and now have my phone on airoplane mode as it will stay until morning!

Good luck daters, I am living vicariously through you all.

I've had no booze all week, not since last Friday night for the same reason Dreaming. Might treat myself to a glass tonight.

Good luck to all daters from me too. I'm having a nother quiet night in tonight, bit bored and lonely but it's difficult for me to get out as I have the dc 24/7. Still I've got Alpha all weekend, have really missed him as he's been away this week.

I had a bottle of corona last Saturday I think. Am not really much of a drinker. My DS is having a sleepover tonight (his first - am a bit behind on this sleepover thing) and am hoping I won't feel the need for alcohol by the end of it

R&R isn't much of a drinker. Shame as he gets a bit cheeky and keeps giving me a

Good luck tonight daters

My excuse is, after a long hard day, then dinner to cook and stuff to do at home it is a reward and a relaxant. Tripe of course, hence why I am now heading toward weekends only. I don't get squiffy often just love the reward.

You're cooking tripe for dinner?

Tripe ewww lol

Just checking in, on the bus to meet Mr Camera. Listening to my current fave pre-date album to get me in the playful seductress mood! The chat via messages/texts has been quite fun and we seem to have some similar interests and outlook so fingers x'd!!!

Good luck fellow daters, and also great to read things going so well for Lies and others!!

EUGH *MadeMan) Tripe - nooooooo. Years and years ago I had a huge great fluffy German Shepherd, he was huge, fluffy and adorable. I used to buy raw tripe to feed him along with vitamin enriched mixer thingy on the advice of the vet, due to his sheer size. The tripe was a whole sheep stomach delivered in a black refuse bag. I had to cut it into daily amounts, then freeze it and cook as needed. All I am going to say is, it's just as well I loved that dog. I now have a lap dog who eats chicken, I wonder why I changed breeds

OHHH good luck ODWIGU. My fingers are tightly crossed. I always hope we see the beginning of a great romance like Miranda, OWW and 49 with each new date. I am still very happily on the sofa. Should anything nice happen with OMG then I shall be happy, if it doesn't, nothing invested! Updates, ladies, please!

@Deliberately, Yes, I can see why changing dog breeds would be beneficial there.

Good luck on your date oneday be sure to update later from the safety of the loo!

Question for you wise ones...I had someone I'd been chatting OL for almost two weeks, good rapport going etc and a preliminary date set for a weekend meet then he just goes off air. The weekend of the meet comes and goes and I hear nothing at all until about a week and a half later with him popping up online saying hello..now I did see him as someone I had quite a bit in common with but am miffed that he just did the old puff of smoke trick a few days before the potential date....do I ignore? or just take up where we left off and pretend nothing? Should I expect nothing as we haven't even met in RL so no biggie if he has been elsewhere with Mrs Elsewhere or whatever??

@Hansel A simple reply email to him, "AND WHERE THE BLOODY HELL HAVE YOU BEEN THEN!!!"

H&G I would ask why he vanished after a date, preliminary or not had been set. If he comes up with a plausible excuse, then it is up to you to accept and set another date. If his excuse is beyond the bounds of probability, I would delete.

Men (and I would assume woman) feel it's ok to treat people this way, no it is not! While we are nothing but names on a screen, we are also people with feelings, real people. It's sometimes too easy to forget this.

MadeMan Quite

Thanks mademan a nice burst eardrum may do him the world of good!

Deliberately we had set that it would be that weekend, no time or place etc and his messages did get a little shorter and I thought he was backing off a bit...proved right I think there!

H&G Difficult one. What is your gut telling you?

My gut is telling me he would be ultimately hard to please and maybe a bit self-centred (judging on the messages and his disappearing) but he did have a good sense of humour and was witty etc...I might leave it, or at least I don't feel in any hurry to take up with him again, I like a bit of continuity and he sort of fractured it for me now.
I've got a date on Monday with someone on Monday so will see how that goes.