The Dating Thread 68.

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Support for everyone, dating online or in real life.

No judginess, no shoutiness. Nuff said.

Ooh, Flora, weekend away sounds exciting! He def sounds keen :)
I'm sure you look great and it's not needed, but how about you wearing a silky camisole to cover the bits you're conscious of if you don't want to be fully naked?

Evening all!

Tiger – yes Mr MusicTeacher took someone else to the play that I had suggested we see. Cock. Sounds like early days are going well for you though! Enjoy!

Diagonally like everyone else for me it depends, there have been occasions when I've 'disappeared' on a conversation because I couldn't think of a reply, wasn't that bothered, life got in the way and then its 3 days later and it seems a bit moot to send a 'in case you hadn't noticed, I don't want to talk to you any more' type message! But otherwise a thanks but no thanks or saying that I have a few dates etc arranged and don't want to waste their time, good luck etc.

So Mr BBC is out of the picture, funny little thanks but no thanks message from him, he really was ill, but things are going well with someone else, otherwise he would be 'jumping at the chance' to date me, so that's nice. Texting pre-first dates continues with Mr Camera and Mr Registrar. Am now also negotiating a date with.....Mr Saffa. Sounds like a very nice chap. So next week should be hopefully a bit busy too

Thanks Tiger. You think that would be ok? I have a sexy little vest that might do. Makes my boobs look good (conscious of them being big).

flora I too have had 2 c sections and a less than flat stomach ! Guys , unless totally shallow do not appear bothered by it at all ! Go for it. . Sounds fun

Oneday...i did that...said to guys "thanks for your messahe but i have a couple of dates already organised". However, i was surprised at a few coming back a week later with "how did the dates go?"...arggghhh! I think only one guy saw it as a polite knockback.

Thank you for all the suggestions :)

flora things must be going v well. Exciting! I still don't like geeky to see me naked. I favour the dark and dressing gown next to the bed, so if I have to get up I can cover myself. I have been known to make him close his eyes when I get up.

Sounds like a busy week, oneday - good of Mr BBC to be honest, so many people aren't online!

Dippin....you have made me feel better. Thanks. Hes not shallow and i suppose in the heat of the moment and all...lol

Dont...thanks. I was thinking similar and having my silky gown next to bed lol.

Flora honestly I don't think he'll notice or care. He'll be too excited and happy being in bed with you to start critiquing your figure. Or busy worrying about his own performance

If I were you flora I'd go for something demure, full leather catsuit and riding crop perhaps, you don't want to scare him off after all

Flora somehow, I can't see him being upset that your boobs look big :)

What Western says- he'll be too excited to notice the things you think he might notice. And yes, he'll prob be too busy worrying about the way HE looks and is performing...

oneday Mr Music has lost out big time - sounds like you've jumped right back into it, so to speak, with all of that action lined up :)

Dont - what are you on about, not letting geeky see you naked?? From what I can see of you in that dress, he's be more than happy to see you naked!

OWW, Hansel and Tiger....thanks. My EA ex used to call me fat and useless so i suppose im a little nervous. Laughing at the catsuit....wondering if my pussy isnt enough ;0)

tiger - I don't think geeky minds and I am deluding myself thinking that he hasn't seen me naked. But - I don't have the confidence to stroll insouciantly across to the bathroom without a cover of some kind.

It's silly really. We're never happy. Flora I worry about having no boobs!

The men don't mind - I'm sure!

Flora and Dont, unless your men - and men in general - have male model bodies themselves, then I reckon they have as many insecurities as us. 'My' man has a little tummy and was saying yesterday that he wants to lose 2-3 pounds! I think he looks gorgeous, and although I have a tummy too from c-section, he's certainly giving the impression that he's enjoying looking at me and being with me in bed.

I think we should all be kinder to ourselves and have a bit more confidence (but I can see why you'd have hang-ups Flora if your twunt of an ex made nasty comments).

I read somewhere that men love it when we have the confidence to stroll about naked...

Dont...a push up bra does wonders. Im sure your boobs look fab.

Tiger...thanks. Cheered me up.

Just had a suggestion of a lacy bodysuit from someone....quite like it. Feel a purchase coming on!

What? Don't you won't let someone you are in love with see you naked???

For me that is one of the greatest things about finding someone you share a special connection with, being comfortable naked together. It's something that is reserved for so few people in your life. Sigh.....missing that level of comfort with someone!

Generally - maybe we should get a guys opinion on this - but I've been told by male friends that they are generally just happy with boobs, any boobs, especially if they belong to a nice person they are having fun with.

Nope, boobs are nice and all, but I've had a couple of girlfriends, or at least women I was seeing for a bit, who didn't want lights on, who wanted me to close my eyes when they went to get a bathrobe etc.

And others who were perfectly happy to share a bath, share a shower, walk round nude.

I have insecurities about my body, I'm human. We all do, unless we're narcissistic or at least ridiculously confident. But meeting someone who gets you means meeting someone you're truly comfortable with. So I always felt a bit let down by someone who didn't want me to see her backside or her belly. Sure, there's a bit of vulnerability there, but if the barriers come down emotionally they should come down physically too.

Well I have progressed from total darkness to pretty fairylights, so I'm getting there. I plan on being with geeky for the foreseeable future, so eventually I will be that comfortable I suppose.

Morning All,

Happy Friday I am happy enough letting someone see me in the nip. Don't have an amazing body by any stretch of the imagination. Personally I think if someone is lucky enough to see someone else naked they should appreciate lumps, bumps and pot belly.

Date last night was not great. He just seemed to rub me up the wrong way. Can't quite put my finger on why. Back to Pof with me.

Good luck to all daters over the weekend.

That's a shame Pow

Title Shall keep an eye out for your loo update

I am not in least bothered about being seen naked, and this body has been round the block a few times. I rather enjoy it !
Still we aren't all lights blazing types, do whatever you are comfortable with

Morning!
Hope everyone is well.

We're never happy with our bods are we? I managed to drop four stone over the last twelve months or so and am a size 8 and the fittest I have ever been in my life yet am still self conscious about my saggy c-section scarred tum. Feel like I have a shoulder of pork stitched into my hips!
I take a deep breath and say - what the hell, I am who I am you might as well take a butchers now because I want you to keep looking and feel comfortable with you naked, bit like you oneday - sorry Musicman was such an unthoughtful twunt by the way.

Have to say dont...you've got a cracking figure and Geeky is one lucky man! Flora I long for a decent set of boobs and hope you can put your knobber ex to the back of your mind and see all you have to offer!

Loving everyone's outfit suggestions, riding boots and a crop - on my shopping list!

Sorry your date wasn't so great pow..on to the next one and pof it up!

Waves to everyone else!

Things continue to go well for me (keep your fingers crossed), since I've met Mrtwohours, we have seen each other almost every day. Had a bit of a crisis earlier this week, not life changing by any stretch of the imagination but upsetting and he jumped straight in the car to get to me. He's met my DD and we've talked loads about the future like it's a given.

I said from the start that it felt different from all my other experiences. I don't worry if he doesn't reply to a text or get back to me when he says he will...he's busy. Never felt that before, felt like I was being ignored. Still early days but have a constant smile on my face!

I remain thankful to everyone for giving me the confidence to get back out there...

Lies - that sounds really positive re Mrtwohours! :) If he's good in a crisis and came over to look after you earlier in the week, then he must be a good one. How long have you been seeing him for?
Can I be nosy and ask how you lost 4 stone in a year? (that's amazing!!)

Pow - that's a shame re your date. Onwards and upwards!

Bant thanks for the male perspective on being seen naked, good to have it confirmed that guys feel the same

Hi tiger - I've been seeing him all of two flipping weeks! Seems like a lot longer...

Weight wise...1400 calories a day, no pasta, bread or white potatoes except once a week (killer to start with but only because your body is used to craving it). I use myfitnesspal to keep a track, they do an app and are online. Gym and running....couldn't run to the end of my street when I started, now I'm doing 25 miles a week and it is the answer to everything!!! Good, bad, happy, sad, exciting, depressing...stick my trainers on and go for a run. Also really important not to do just cardio but do strength training too...machines, free-weights or body weight just get those muscles strong! I'm 39 so hardly a spring-chicken and if I can do it anyone can.

And breathe..... I'm quite enthusiastic about it as you can see!

R&R has a little pot belly. He would rather he didn't. It is part of him. So I think its lovely

Lies Sounding like the real deal